My fiancee and I used to be together as much as possible but after a recent fight he has been going out with his friends which includes women. He has been coming home past 10pm for two weeks not everyday but enough to bother me. When I ask to join him he says no he will be home soon. but like I said he gets home after 10 even though i call to join him @7. I dont think this should bother me cause we all need our own lives and time but it just happened so suddenly that I cant help feeling sad almost like my relationship is over. He comes home to me everynight but I still feel neglected. Is it just me being co dependent? Does anyone have a fiancee that stays out late on a regular basis? Do they have opposite sex friends? if so how do you handle it?
2007-08-22 09:33:44 · 10 answers · asked by Eia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you need to tell him how you feel without getting caried away, I have had that problem before and I told him how i felt about it and why and if he loves you then he'll either compromise or invite you or surprise you and ask you to a nice dinner sometime in the near future if he doesn't seem to care your best bet might be to tell him that you feel unloved and unwanted and see how he reacts. Good Luck!
2007-08-22 09:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyGrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesnt sound right. If he's your fiance, and if he's serious about you, and the future involves marriage, it means that your lives get closer together, not further apart. It also means that his friends are also your friends, and you would do things TOGETHER. He's acting like a single guy, with no regard for you, and is being rude by saying no. You say you don't think it should bother you, but it does. You shouldn't be the one sitting around waiting for him to come home every night after he has spent time, and had dinner with friends. He's purposely excluding you and this is wrong. He is selfish and has disregard for your feelings. (Imagine this happening when you're married...) Speak to him about it, and how you feel, if he doesn't understand or see your perspective, then break up with this loser and move on.
2007-08-22 09:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Alyse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a fiancee that has been staying out late at night because you guys had a fight.He has been going out staying out until 10,pm at night. He doesn't want you to join him when he goes out with his friends. You are up set about that but just sometimes everyone needs space. you need to sit down and let him know that this is making you feel left out and lonely you sound like your insecure about your relationship
please don't get married if your having issues now.
Best of luck
2007-08-22 09:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this slowly cause that's how I'm typing. re-evaluate your relationship before its too late.Life is too short to get tied up with someone who doesn't want to be with you.I'm not saying he doesn't. Think about the "meat"of the disagreement.If somebody was in the wrong then they need to stand up and say sorry.If nobody feel like they are wrong ya'll better find a way to move forward.If this looks like its not possible then don't waste another minute.Dump the guy and move on.
2007-08-22 10:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have a fiance and sometimes he stays out late with his friends and its until like 4 in da morning with his friends and sometimes he doesnt want to bring me along and im not really sure why I simply let him know thats its bothering me. Not when he's with his friends because the ppl he's around will and could cause him to respond differently. Try planning something special for him when he gets home from hanging out with his friends do things to make him want to spend time with you again. Make your realationship fun again. And yes they are going to have opposite sex friends its apart of life as females our womenly instincts always spark up because they are close to our man and thats our spot and we dont want to lose them but dont anything that would make him want to leave in that area. Get to know his friends let him go out every now and then. just let him know that you dont mind him hangin out that he just needs to make time for you guys at the same time. Besides the space would be good it would make you guys want each other more
2007-08-22 12:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by chocolatebabygurl1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is normal for him to be out all the time without you. If he isn't doing something you would object to, he should be pleased, if you want to join him. I would tell him how you feel and ask him what is going on. Communication is key in any relationship and if you don't have it now, you should think twice about marrying him. Good luck!
2007-08-22 09:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by nimat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm able to absolutely become attentive to with this. I ought to play my xbox league each and every night and the spouse hates me no longer being next to her as quickly as I sleep in spite of the shown fact that it kind of sounds like possibly you're taking it somewhat overboard later on. i understand an hour isn't a alot of time I completely sense you yet your going to ought to diminish back on the interests/video games in the process the week. Now I actually have a ingredient time activity, considering the fact which you dont Saturday desires to be your day to get it in. supply her an allowance for garments/nails regardless of shes into in case you could arise with the funds for. tell her Saturday morning is a while. supply her like 8a-1p to flow out and do what she needs with idk a hundred greenbacks? Getting her nails carried out on a saturday will kill a while,and inspire her to setup a ordinary date with an previous pal to capture up, possibly a breakfast or espresso meet. Saturday is an incredible activities day and xbox is crammed with gamers. Crank some jams and hit your pastime no longer ordinary at approximately 9a and deliver her on her way. Remind her she hasnt seen somebody in awhile or you choose her look sturdy for the night so she ought to flow get something. you will the two benefit, it makes me cranky as quickly as I lose a pastime by using fact it had to be simmed, sturdy success guy. She feels like a winner basically be sure its her concept and you place it DOWN each and every friday night for specific.
2016-10-03 02:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf did this to me the other night. He just said he was going out for some drinks with friends...he didn't say who or where. I didn't think that he was cheating on me...but I was very hurt that he didn't ask me to go.
So, I got myself fixed up, hot jeans, high heels, and (thankfully) a great hair day! He came home before I did and kept calling and wanting to know where I was. When I got home, he wanted to know why I didn't call him to meet him out. I said that i didn't want to sit at home by myself and that I wanted to go out too but didn't want to bother him during his "night out."
Let him know that it hurt you but also let him know that you have a life of your own. You can "want" him but you don't "need" him. Guys don't want a girl that they feel is clingy and needy. Maybe you need to start going out with your friends without him. Have a girls night out...he will ownder what is going on and maybe reconsider his actions. Mine did. :)
Good luck!
2007-08-22 10:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bogey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you are right and i think that its just time before he leaves so best move before he does and get moving and find new person whom you can trust.
2007-08-25 17:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him - he's scum
2007-08-22 09:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋