Me and my boyfriend dated for 8 months then he cheated, I broke up with him. He begged and begged me to take him back. I would'nt do it. No way no how. Well 10 months later I said yes, (damn candle light, and moon and stars!) We've been together for a month, the guy he was working said he didnt want his company anymore so my boyfriend and 5 other guys got booted. Well now my boyfriend has a new job and its in Panama City(let that speak for itself). When he didnt have a job I knew what he was doing and where he was because when I wasnt working we was on the phone together or he was at my house, now I cant talk to him till he gets off work and I wont get to see him much because he will be working 10 hours a day, and I dont know what he is doing or doing it with. And he likes to check out girls a little to much. He says he is in love with me and wants to be with me and that he wont cheat, but I'm afraid hes gonna cheat again. So should I trust him and let it go or should I being to worry
2007-08-22 09:23:56 · 28 answers · asked by florida girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, this sucks...I'm so sorry. I once took a guy back that cheated on me, and I never thought I'd be one who could do that. We're not together anymore, even though I really believe he never cheated again.
The thing is I just don't think anyone can truly get over being cheated on. I know I didn't. The trust was gone, and possibly more importantly, the respect I had for him.
I read a book once that said you have to toss out your glass of dirty dishwater before you can fill it with champagne... I tossed my dishwater out and have been lucky enough to find a loving, trustworthy, 6'1 glass of champagne.
Good luck girl.
2007-08-28 16:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by l-o-l-a, Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later he will cheat on you again. Once a cheater always a cheater. If you say he likes to check out girls a little too much, then there's a possiblilty that he might act on it and even more so if the girl shows interest in him. That's a bomb waiting to explode. You won't be happy in your relationship with him if you don't trust him and if you keep wondering what he's doing every minute of the day. That's not a healthy relationship to be in. You'll be tearing your hair out when you don't know where he is or what he's doing and worse when you can't get a hold of him. You'll be the one suffering, not him. All that thinking will eventually get you stressed out. And you know stress causes a lot of things to your mind and body. He doesn't sound like he's worth all the worrying your doing. Take care and watch over yourself, not him. Good Luck!
2007-08-22 09:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will cheat again. The only reason he told you about this latest is because you found out from someone else and forced him to give you details. Sugar; this is not the sign of someone who really cares about you. He wants what he wants when he wants it. You are already being taken for a fool - and he will have total freedom both now and in the future to do whoever he wants. You will find out eventually. Sorry....but you should trust your instinct. You're already suspicious and with good reason. Don't bother arguing and just dump him. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache and humiliation.
2016-04-01 09:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset; but I read your subject line and that's as far as I got.
Once a cheater, 99% chance always a cheater. I don't need to know the story. I'll give the benefit of the doubt that maybe 1 percent of cheaters will never do it again. But it's rare I'm sure.
They just get better at hiding it the next time.
2007-08-22 09:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cedar_2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will always cheat again. Once a cheater always a cheater. He knows you will take him back with a little coercing, so he's not worried. You should not put up with it. If it happens again end it for good and find someone who will love you and nobody else. I know these guys are few and far but I'm sure he'll make his way to you. Good luck sweetie!
2007-08-22 09:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by catchic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either trust him until you suspect something or you don't trust him. But you can't have a relationship that you are always distrusting someone all the time. Ask him if he is planning on cheating, look him in the eye, but if you can't trust him, leave him. If you can't seem to forgive him for the first time, you are always going to suspect his every move, he probably will do what he is accused of doing.
2007-08-22 09:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy pull similar crap, he said that he loved me and wanted to be with me and we had dated on and off for years and then recently he broke up with me fo ranother girl i hadn't talked to or seen him in 2 weeks and I wasn't with him all the time and his mom don't like me and that is his reason for breaking up with me but I don't know how long he was with someone else before he told me it was over, and my theory is once a cheeter always a cheeter. I am pretty sure that you could find someone that really does love you and is serious about having a relationship with you and you won't have to wonder if he is cheeting on you. Good luck!
2007-08-22 09:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by CrazyGrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the situation that makes you worry. I think it is him in general, and you have EVERY right to wonder !!! He already broke the trust once, so he needs to work extra hard at giving you peace of mind. Just be careful, look for warning signs, different behavior, etc. Just be smart, and do what is best for YOU.
2007-08-22 09:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Shauna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One a cheater always a cheater, no matter how much u love ur partner, the thrill and excitement of cheating will always gnaw at his or her being, he wont change dear, so either u accept all of his two timing bulls, or dump him, find a better and deserving guy. :)
2007-08-29 14:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Xiao17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are controlling. You are more like a mom then a girlfriend. Give him some space and if you really are worried that he is going to cheat on you, break up with him
2007-08-22 09:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Alissa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋