Changing my name after getting married!!?

Question

IS it just me, but I am having seperation anxiety with changing my name after getting married in May. Seriously I didn't care before I got married about my name but now I seem very attached to it. Everytime I see my new last name on anything I seem to get all weird! I love my husband and know it will take time, I just want to know if I am alone in these feeelings.

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat as you hon. I didn't care before we got married....now we've been married over a year and I still haven't changed it. I recently found out that this hurts my husband's feelings. =( I don't know why either, there's nothing wrong with his last name, and the last name I have has no meaning. It's already been abandoned by the rest of my family except my brother for that reason. But for some reason I'm still weirded out by changing my name and I think hyphenated names are rediculous. I still intend to do it if I can ever manage to stop dragging my feet about it.

You're not alone at all.

Answer 2

You can use your still use your old last name for a while, even after it's legally changed. If you name is Jane Doe and it's changing to Jane Smith, then just go by Jane Doe Smith. That way other people that know you as Jane Doe can get used to your last name as well. Went you feel comfortable going by only Jane Smith, then it's easy to stop using Doe.

If you hyphenate your name, then you can't drop the Doe part once you get used to your new last name. And if your last names are longer than Doe and Smith, it might make for a pretty long signature.

Answer 3

It's a little hard to adjust to. I mean, you have had your maiden name all of your life!!
If you really don't want to give it up though, you can hyphenate, or drop your middle name and adopt your maiden name as your middle name!
I ahve been married almost 3 years now and it probably took at least the first 6mo. if not year to really get used to seeing it in writing and writting it!

Now, to hear s/one call me by my married name, I don't know if I'll ever get used to that, I am sure I will though. I always look around for my MIL!!

You'll get used to it though!

Answer 4

Congrats on the recent wedding, May God bless you both with many years of happiness together. And thank your husband for his service to our country.... As for the name change, you will need the original certificate, also you will need to go too the social security office in your area to change you ss card,but will also need the original certificate.. you might also want to get many copies of your marriage license since your hubby is in the military, you will be surprised how many times it will be required, and your hubby will need an original copy of the marriage license in order to get you a military ID card, your hubby will also need a original of the certificate in order to get you signed up for Tricare. Just info for your FYI Best of Luck if you have any questions that are not answered here please call the court house and they will be more than capable of answering all of your questions, and as for the base, your hubby should show you ever thing and introduce you to the FRG leader before he leaves... Best of Luck and God Bless you both

Answer 5

I think its bothering you because this has been your identity for so long. Changing your last name won't change who you are though. If it makes you very uncomfortable about it though talk to him about it without offending him. Just let him know that you will be honored to take his last name , but you feel weird parting with yours. Myabe talking about it with him will make you feel better. Good luck

Answer 6

Hyphenating is stupid. What if your kid marries someone with a hyphenated name and then they're Myers-Black-Smith-Stone.
Gimme a break.
Just keep your name.
Or, keep your husbands, it's the least you could do after him chasing you, spending all that money on you, etc.

Answer 7

So why not do what many women do and hyphenate so you still have your married name?

It never really concerned me but my maiden name didn't mean a lot to me anyway, because I've a rather low opinion of my father.

Answer 8

I was the same way, so now I just use both names. You do not have to change your name, keep it!

Answer 9

you know....you COULD keep your name, there's nothing that says you have to change your name, but I know what you mean...I had that weird feeling and now I've gotten so used to my new name that saying or writing my old name seems weird to me

Answer 10

You definately aren't the only one.You are probably just used to your previous surname and don't feel right with your new one.You will get used to it in time don't worry