Women: how often are you the target of female cattiness, and how often are you guilty of it?

Question

Women putting each other down, gossiping about each other behind the targets back, or even advertising personal information that was trusted (albiet stupidly) to another woman.

Right boybeast, I forgot you were my judge and jury

Answer 1

I'm guilty of it myself, more so in the past than now...but every time I catch myself doing it, I try to analyze what insecurity/shortcoming caused me to act this way and try to get to the root of the problem rather than taking it out on another woman. I don't usually allow others to do it to me either and if they do it more than once and twice I usually cut them out.

Answer 2

Honestly, I don't get what motivates people to do these kind of things. What is running through their mind when they talk behind their 'friends' back!?!?! It is most definitely not something I would EVER do, or if done to me, never forgive them, unless perhaps if it comes with a full explanation and apology!

Now, if it's just anyone I have no relationship with (just a classmate/ co-worker or something) that I need to put up with, I can't say I won't gossip about them to others, and I'm sure they do the same about me........I do try minimizing gossip talk, but then again, who's an angel?

Answer 3

Women are competitive with each other, just in a different way than men are. Rather than shove each other around and establish physical dominance, they try to achieve higher status in other ways. It's competitive more than it is mean-spirited, imo.

In terms of gossiping, women like to use language to communicate (they just "talk more"), so they are therefore more likely to be victims of gossip. The chatty men I know are pretty big gossips too! So I think it has equally to do with just loving to chat.

Answer 4

I think there is a direct correlation to self esteem and positive body image and the negative remarks any person makes about another. When I was younger and very unsure of myself not to mention wracked with self doubt I made decimating, spiteful remarks about others.
At this time in my life I am very comfortable with who I am, how I feel and what I look like. I don't care what others think of me. I always tell my clients that, "it is none of their business what others think of them". After all what can you do about it so why worry.
Of course my attitude may change when I am a little, old lady and some other little, old, lady has the chutzbah to call BINGO!!! My claws may appear.

Answer 5

I don't even know what "cattiness" means. I think it's a word men use to put women down when the reality is, they just don't "get it." (And, of course, anything men don't "get" can't possibly be valid, right?) If a girl's wearing some clear plastic shoes that she bought at WalMart in 1995, then hell yeah, I'm going to snicker about them. But I'm not *jealous* of her WalMart shoes. I simply think that fashion is very important and you either need to make it work, or don't even bother, because looking like you're making an effort but not quite making it work is worse than not caring. But I'd also laugh at some dude in a wrinkly beer t-shirt and Teva mandals, so I suppose I'm an equal-opportunity *****.

And besides, isn't watching sports just as big of a waste of time as laughing at someone's poly-blend Fairweather top? I mean, why is there some big stigma attached to it?

Answer 6

Its just a stupid assumption based on only certian people. It only takes a few to be different in a group for that group to be labled weird, just like it only takes a few evil girls to make the whole femal gender evil and shallow

Answer 7

0 times.. I dont associate with females, and that bickering crap gets on my nerves...Men are better to gossip with than females. They just laugh and listen and look me in the eyes..thats all i need. lol

Answer 8

Honestly, if someone wants to gossip about me, let 'em. I'm flattered they have nothing else to talk about. And I don'[t have time to gossip about others. Age has its privileges.

Answer 9

Of course it is not catty to do these things to men. We must ignore that. Considering feminism is cattiness applied to men, I'd say there are quite a few women on here who are guilty of it. Including you by the way.