Speaking from experience, I think it is a struggle. What do you think?
2007-08-22 08:47:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the past is the past; you have the opportunity to author your life story; how you choose to do it is in your hands; mind over matter; every day is a new opportunity to change and make a great life if you want too ; if you want to live in the past , nothing changes; it is matter of choice; if you always do what you always did then you always get what you always got
2007-08-22 09:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by sml 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you heard my life's story, you'd think I had a very unhappy childhood. Alcoholic father who was gone more than he was home. A mother who had to work 2 jobs to keep food on the table. A grandfather who sexually abused me. Many,many moves because of financial difficulties. I could go on, but the point is, I'm a very happy adult and now actually a very happy senior citizen. Sometimes I think I just didnt pay attention a lot.
I remember those things happening, but it was a long time ago. It could also be one of my many theories. Everyone is born with a cup. Problems start to fill the cup up and after a certain point, the cup overflows. The thing is, everyone is born with a different size cup. Some people can just handle more than others. It's not through any fault of their own. I've been a psychiatric nurse for 33 and this is a theory I've come up with over the years. It's just my opinion.
2007-08-22 08:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by phlada64 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience - yes. But I never thought it would ever really happen for me. I had a very unhappy childhood and lots of years as an unhappy adult. It was definitely a struggle, lots of counseling and medication, but I am now 48 and finally a happy adult.
2007-08-22 08:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Vera C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well that all really depends on what kind of person you are, many people have grown up with a terrible childhood and have become very successful and have over come many obstacles, so yeah it is possible to be happy as an adult.
I think people use excuses to justify their unhappiness and often blame others for feeling the way they do for their circumstances. It can be a struggle if you make a struggle in your mind, people often limit their abilities because of past hurts and pains and never let go of these things, which in turn makes them very unhappy in their adult life.
2007-08-22 09:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes- i think you have to be determined and positive to put the past behind you- you have to be responsible for yourself and your own actions when you become an adult- you cannot always put blame in the past. Its a cop out to blame an unhappy childhood for being an unhappy adult- life is what we make it and life is too short not to enjoy some of it at least. Focus on what you can do to make your life better. Make a list of what you would like to be different for your life and your childrens life and go for it. Lay the past to rest where it belongs even if it means having therapy to do it.
2007-08-22 09:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to be happy even with a very unhappy childhood. Your life is what you make of it. If you keep a negative attitude about anything, it will be negative, but if you look on the positive it can be positive. Look to God & know that He got you through those hard times to make you a stronger & more compassionate person. Also, remember to leave the past in the past & just look forward! :)
2007-08-22 08:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy childhood is the greatest motivational drive I know to force me to create a happy adulthood.
You are now /finally that the childhood is over/, the master of your life. So please realise that, and eliminate from your surroundings, step by step, everything bad that made your life as a child miserable. And start yesterday.
The life is a struggle, we all know that.
2007-08-23 01:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the unhappiest childhood in the world. And now, I am an unhappy adult, with no dream job as a Medical Office Front Desk Receptionist, no dream man (that would be Tobey Maguire), no stepchild (that would be Tobey Maguire's daughter, Ruby), no future children with Tobey Maguire (that will never happen once I get these fibroids removed from inside my body), and so on. I'm a super duper failure.
2007-08-22 11:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's possible, but I think it's a lot of hard work. You have to be able to look back on what happened and make a decision that your life will be different going forward and that the person you were then is not the person you are now.
2007-08-22 14:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Julianne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well people who did turn to caring professsions to exocise their demons
they are just that demons from the past
i tried psychotherapy and after a year of training felt like a big load was being lifted
the thing with psychotherapy is that you need to have a therapist if you are going to be in that profession and they dont take you further until your therapist feels you can take on others problems
so it helped me
i feel at 41 im coming out of it and have resolved issues that were haunting me
2007-08-22 17:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋