Should I be careful? I met this guy online in June.We have been dating eachother ever since.Lately he has?
began telling me that he wants me to move to his city. We live only 30 min away from each other.I dont have my own apartment because I have to help my grandmother,she wants me here.He has been looking for apartments in his city for me.The rent is really high where he lives.Why does he want me to just pick up and move there to be with him.The only help that he has offered is to rent a car and help move my belongings from here to there.He said that I am always coming to his place and he doesnt want to come to mine because it is too far.Could he be abusive?
Is this a warning?
Should I be carefull?
Does this mean that he wants to get married?Should I be carefull?
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be careful
2007-08-22 08:23:59 · 16 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
find out who his last girlfriend or any past relationship was and ask them, that is the best way ti find out how he treats his lady friends. if you cant do that then go with your gut feeling NEVER! secong guess your gut feeling cause it ALWAYS! right especialy when it comes to our own safety. becareful and good luck. xo
2007-08-22 09:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by jesicka 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, get out of this relationship. This guy seems totally nuts. First of all he is inconsiderate. You are taking care of your grandmother and he expects you to just up and leave. HELL NO!! Don't you leave your grandmother. She is way more important than an unappreciate boyfriend who lacks the ability to see the good in what you are doing. Second, he wants you to move closer to him because he is too lazy to drive to see you. Not only is he lazy, he showing you that he doesn't think enough of you to even drive to you so that the two of you can spend time together and also so that you will not have to leave your grandmother. How horrible is that??? Third, he takes random pictures of you in awkward places. Can you say STALKER ALERT! This guy is psychotic. Why would he take pictures of you walking to the bathroom and looking at a dog? That makes no sense at all. You have to realize how creepy that is. Finally, he has an anger problem. He could have hit you instead of that wall. That should have shown you that he is incapable of controlling his anger and should make you scared. Any guy that has that type of anger problem can be abusive and harmful to you and himself. Trust me, I have seen it happen before. He will be hitting on you if you don't steer clear of this guy.
To sum this up, GET OUT! The combination of all the things listed above is a direct indication that you do not need to be with this type of person. He is inconsiderate, scary, has stalker tendencies, and he is lazy. None of these characteristics are good even in the least sense. So please get out and continue to take care of yourself and your grandmother. These two things are the things that should be most important to you anyway.
2007-08-22 08:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY careful!!! Why should you up-root your life for someone you met on the internet two months ago??? What is his hurry??? You have already seen him punch a hole in the wall.
Stay put!!! Until a man you love and trust hands you an engagement ring, it is not serious. He wants you near him for his convenience!!! Why was he taking pictures of you walking away???
You have enough red flags for you to put this relationship on hold. Meet someone in you own town who you can see.
Good luck and may God bless you.
P.S. If this guy is like your ex, why would you bother?
2007-08-22 08:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by kathleen m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's waaaaay too late for careful- you should be gone. This guy's nuts- punching walls, bathroom cameras, controlling where you live-- yes, those are all signs of an abuser. You've only known him two months!
You are not responsible for his actions, you didn't make him or your ex act that way. You may be seeking out men who behave that way, but you don't cause it. Either way, ditch this guy in a hurry, before things get real bad.
2007-08-22 08:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Beardog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, be very careful. You know he's controlling and has a very bad temper. Two bad traits right out of the gate.
Also, seems like he is way too eager to get you moved to HIS city and like he is making all the decisions for you with no concern for how you feel. Slow way down with your relationship with this guy and don't move anywhere closer to him until you know him alot better. Your gut instinct is spot-on!! Don't go to fast or too far with this guy.
2007-08-22 08:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not move anywhere with this guy. I would break up with him if that happened to me. 30 minutes distance is nothing if you are dating.
And you are not making anyone "this way", they do it themselves. I am sorry if I am being harsh, but this is my honest opinion based on your story. Take care of yourself! If he is a good man and really loves you he will understand and give you time. And not spy on you or behave aggressively. You can have a good man, don't take anything less!
2007-08-22 09:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could advise what my dad does. he gets an intimidating stance (shoulders lower back, status promptly.) and supply them the evil eye. plenty could snigger at you previously each and every thing, yet purely start up strolling in the direction of them with a annoyed look. Be arranged to easily confront them in case you are attempting this. there has been circumstances the place he has tripped human beings via fact they stare inappropriately at his daughters, he has threatened, he has even gotten up of their faces previously. he's a tall intimidating looking guy already, yet doing those products has made those creepy old adult males run off like scared little whimps.
2016-11-13 04:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is selfish and used to having his own way on everything. I'd tell him firmly that I am not moving into an apartment that I can't afford. Yes you would be contributing to his behaviour if you give in on everything.
2007-08-22 08:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by carefulspider@rogers.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be very very careful, but us women that make these men this so called way can't help it because that is just their excuse for being how they are in the first place and they have to have someone to blame it on, LOL LOL LOL
2007-08-22 08:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Friend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And this has 'what' to do with philosophy? I guess you get the picture, tho, whether here or on the dating/relationship forum....the message is plain and clear....get while the gettin's good....
2007-08-22 12:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Its not me Its u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋