Should I be careful? I met this guy online in June.We have been dating eachother ever since.Lately he has?
began telling me that he wants me to move to his city. We live only 30 min away from each other.I dont have my own apartment because I have to help my grandmother,she wants me here.He has been looking for apartments in his city for me.The rent is really high where he lives.Why does he want me to just pick up and move there to be with him.The only help that he has offered is to rent a car and help move my belongings from here to there.He said that I am always coming to his place and he doesnt want to come to mine because it is too far.Could he be abusive?
Is this a warning?
Should I be carefull?
Does this mean that he wants to get married?Should I be carefull?
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be careful
2007-08-22 08:20:49 · 6 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
He seems a bit, shall we say self-absorbed and like he's trying to conceal a controlling side of himself. The fact that he apparently couldn't care less about your grandmother seems like a big warning to me. I'd ask him to go to a counselor to discuss your relationship and let him/her tell you what they see in him. My guess is, he'd refuse to go for that. I'd be VERY careful with him.... (too put it mildly, I think you need to end this from the picture you're painting)
2007-08-22 08:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like either a narcissist or a sociopath. Read a good book called, The Sociopath Next Door. Interesting way to view people.
But you have to get away from anyone that is that controlling. He won't make a good mate for anyone and you don't seem that desperate.
A control person likes to isolate a person from her family and friends, then he can control better. He will be insanely jealous of any relationship you have, as it threatens his control.
I was married to one of these. Charming, likeable, everyone thought I had a great catch. The minute we were married, he became more demanding instead of more secure. It was a miserable marriage.
HIs temper is a good sign that you should get away while you can. Good luck!
2007-08-22 08:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by P S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, yes and yes. You should be making the 'i need to move closer to you' decision, not him. You guys haven't dated long enough to start combining lifes. Besides, why does he not want to come to visit you? He is trying to move you into his life and life plans while not seeming to pay much attention to your life plans. What i have to ask you is this: All i hear in your question is what he wants for your life. I don't hear anythiing about what you want for your life. That is what you need to figure out. It is very essential otherwise you are going to find yourself living someone else's dreams which may not be identical to yours. Either way, you've only been dating 2 months. That is too much too soon and definitely too much control on his part and too much dependence on a man on your part. Find your own life and goal before you join with someone else and no matter what, always maintain your own individuality.....but you need to find it first
after reading the last paragraph, all i can say is RUN RUN RUN
2007-08-22 08:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by uz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man is completely psycho. I wouldn't go near him or ever speak to him again if I were you.
2007-08-22 08:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
UGGGGGH! He sounds like a real CREEP! and potentially dangerous. I'm sorry but you have to DTMFA!
2007-08-22 08:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Officer Uggh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is married...I guarantee you he is...he wants a mistress...he can't get away because his wife would notice...he is nuts too...
2007-08-22 08:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋