I recently, while putting some clothes away for my girl, found a small bottle of KY and 3 condoms (the ones you get in a three pack)...now we do not use a condom EVER when we have sex (yes, i know, you are saying DUMBASS)...but we don't. ...nonetheless...a little bit of the KY was used...it is in her bottom drawer next to her bed...is this something to be worried about...could they be from a long time ago and just forgot about them?....we have been together for 3 months and i see her everyday (meaning i see her everynight and weekends)...could she be saving them for OTHER sexual activities for us?...or do you think that they could have been for someone else...RECENTLY?...any thoughts...this is killing me...thanks guys!
2007-08-22 07:49:23 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...PS...she is on birth control...and we do things...orally...
2007-08-22 08:09:20 · update #1
Just ask her, let her know it is bothering you. You should be able to figure it out by her expression, not necessarily her answer.
2007-08-22 07:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Loris Ann 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Check the expiration dates on the condoms. That might not tell you much, though, because you have only been with her 3 months, and they have a longer shelf life than that, though.
The lube, she might be using with a toy - don't even worry about that.
I wouldn't worry - most people keep a couple of condoms around when they are single, just in case. You two haven't been together that long, and those could be left over from her last single phase.
If you are worried, keep an eye one the drawer - you said there were only three in there - if that number changes, then worry.
2007-08-22 08:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by HooliganGrrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not suspicious in any other way, then I would say it's no big deal.
They could be from a long time ago, or even from before you came into the picture.
Look and see if the ky has an expiration date on it.
If you're that concerned, ask your girlfriend about it.
It's not like you were snooping, you were putting her clothes away and found it.
If you aren't seeing anything else in her behavior, then you really don't have anything to be suspicious about, just because of these items. ;)
2007-08-22 07:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only been together for three months, the products you found were most likely from the past. I am not sure why you would not be using protection even if you are dating each other exclusively. The products could also have been there just in case, after all she should have used them with you when you first started having sex. If you still have your doubts, ask her, if you are close enough to spend that much time together, you are close enough to ask.
2007-08-22 08:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by julvrug 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you look farther in the drawer? you might find a dildo that the KY was put on?
I found some condoms not too long ago from before I was married (over 10 years now) and I had forgot they were there!
Give her the benefit of the doubt you have no reason to worry!
2007-08-22 07:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It could be a leftover relic from a previous relationship. Might as well ask so she can tell you. Though, I'd try to make a joke about it. As far as some of the KY being used, she could've very well used that on her own without someone else there.
2007-08-22 08:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown.... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mark the packages in a way that she can not tell that you have marked them and check every once in a while to see if they are being used. It seems to me that she is doing business on the side if you ask me, but they could be from long ago and the only way to know for sure is to see if they are being used. Mark them, that way if she was to use three at one outing, you will know they were replaced by a new pack because the mark is missing.
2007-08-22 08:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just ask her... you have only been together 3 months... it could be from a different relationship! It could be that she is wanting to try some, "other" activities (anal) it could be anything. If you know for sure you are with her every night, and every weekend lol when the hell does she have time for another guy. Just talk to her, tell her you found them and you want to know what it means. We cannot tell you for sure what it is or isnt, because we arent her.
Take a deep breath, relax, and know that you may be reading more into it than it is... its a possibility. Just talk to her.
2007-08-22 07:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right? Of course they could be from before. Duh. Do you think she had never bought condoms or KY in her life? I don't even think it is something she had "forgotten" about - almost every girl I know keeps some condoms on hand; it's just a smart thing to do. You've only been seeing her for 3 months, for crying out loud. Is she supposed to throw out the stuff she's had "just in case" from before? Lighten up dude, ok.
2007-08-22 07:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
casually ask her, hey, found these condoms in the drawer...were you saving them for us? are you afraid of getting pregnant? and this KY... did you want to try to use that? or, what was this like when you used it? see if she spills anything to you or see if she is honest and says it was from before you two met...=) see what she says... maybe she just forgot about the stuff...and maybe it was used before you came along and she forgot about it...just ask her =)
2007-08-22 07:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see if you found a bunch of condom wrappers or used condoms in her garbage or something. But condoms that are unused in their wrappers in her drawer? I really wouldn't stress about that. I'm sure they are from a long time ago or she has them in case you two decide you want to start using condoms.
2007-08-22 07:55:20 · answer #11 · answered by linz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋