I'm currently a SAHM (going back to grad school in February). For the past few weeks I've been feeling pretty low and can't pinpoint the reason(s). By the time my husband comes home from work, I am dying to get out of the house. Sometimes I find myself at the supermarket or video store at 10pm just to get a change of scenery. I love my kids immensely, but I miss having time for myself (and spending time with my husband). How can I tackle this?
2007-08-22 07:25:14 · 13 answers · asked by mixedmummy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
its not wrong wanting to spend time alone sometimes u need this being home a lot & having the kids all the time can make u a little crazy going out doing different things might be ur way to deal with it u might just need a vacation maybe just u & ur husband or maybe by ur self which way u do it do not matter u just need a break i under stand how u feel i have a 4year old & a 5year old & spending time alone helps go get a massage to help u relax or u & ur husband go out to dinner all need that time alone also get someone to watch the kids & go do something together because sometimes it gets hard & lonely even when the kids are still around u need to talk to someone that understands & can have a conversation with.
2007-08-28 11:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by shay love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not having baby blues. You are having mommy blues. It is not about your babies because you love them to death. But, you need YOU time and sometimes that 'time' is just going to the store by yourself or getting a pedicure by yourself or taking a walk by yourself. Keyword? BY YOURSELF. That is perfectly normal though and if done, is very healthy. We all need a little time away just to think or not think or daydream. Whatever as long as we do not have any interuptions of cries or complaints or questions. So, continue to get that change of scenery. Also, make it a little more worth while by really planning at least 1-2 times a month when you and hubby or you alone or you and some friends go out and actually do something together. See a movie or go out to eat or go browsing in the mall. Just make sure you do it and it will make you a better wife and mommy. Good luck.
2007-08-29 16:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by crystal nw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I schedule time for myself at least once a month. Last time it was dinner and a movie with a friend. Take a drive or a walk with the child/ren during the day if you are getting cabin fever. Plan a date night with your husband and have someone mind the children for you. All the best.
2007-08-28 06:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need time to yourself! You were you before you were a mommy!
Forget about once a month. You need that time once a week. More than a few hours, if possible. If it can only be a few hours a week, for whatever reason, do it.
Don't forget the husband. You both need date night on a regular basis. (When our kids were teenagers, my husband and I took a dance class once a week. It was fun and we got a chance to be together WITH NO INTERRUPTIONS).
2007-08-30 02:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ravenfeather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the low points, don't be insulted, but you might want to go to your doctor and see if you're depressed.
you should find a babysitter or friend/family member to take care of your kids every couple of weeks, and go have a girl's night out, a nice date with your husband, or just chill time on your own!
2007-08-29 23:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by q&a_08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you need girl, which all of us need, its a time to your self, sometimes I'm so tired that I take the kids put on car and until they fell at sleep and I stopped on a drive thrum and get me a fries and just enjoy the piece. But talk to your husband and ask for one saturday for you, you deserved.
2007-08-30 09:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Luana B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie i know how you are feeling and you need to know there is nothing wrong with it. you body is going through alot now with your hormones fluctuating and the lack of sleep. What helped me alot was going out side. For some reason the fresh air and the sun helped tremendously. There is nothing wrong with wanting time away from the baby! your doing great. take care.
2007-08-30 01:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by c_bearortiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive felt this way, i have 2 kids at 1 and 2 years, im at home with them too, sometimes i felt so caged in even though i love my babies so much, the doc tried to tell me i had post natal depression even though myyoungest is now one, but i feel it boils down to me not having any friends in the area i have just moved to, my family not living close etc, what i would advise for you though, as you have someone who can help, is just getting yourself away for a couple of hours every other day or so, go to the pictures with a friend, hire a babysitter and go for a romantic meal with your partner, or maybe have a chat with your doctor incase it is post natal depression, goodluck xx
2007-08-27 11:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
every month set aside one night of fun either out with the girls or out with hubby, find a babysitter a week or two prior and if everything goes well ask if they could do it once a month.
2007-08-28 10:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by My baby Melina is my life <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hire a sitter once a week for a couple of hours, everyone needs time alone
2007-08-26 16:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋