I have been brought up in a family where your body must be covered up.My family are not Muslims but are strict Catholics and even now aged 18 my mother thinks it is wrong to wear skirts above the knee.As a result of my upbringing,the fact I am naturally very shy,the fact I still have the "catholic guilt" aspect and the fact I don't like my body, I find even the thought of having sex impossible.
I have met a lovely man who I would like to have sex with.We have been togeher for 1 and a half years and he has never pressurised me for sex however now I think it is time for us to have sex.It is the next natural step but I can't even face letting him see my tummy never alone my whole naked body.He tells me he oves me the way I am but I can't let him see me naked.Anyone experienced the same thing?
2007-08-22 07:19:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
As is so often the case, the best thing you can possibly do is talk about it. Tell him exactly how you feel, and why, like you've just told us. Be completely honest and open with him.
He sounds like a nice guy so he'll probably want to help you any way he can. You both need to be patient and take things one step at a time, this won't change overnight.
It might be a good idea to talk to your doctor about the problem, or you might benefit from talking to a counseller about it.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck, you sound like a lovely couple!
2007-08-22 07:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by adacam 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I agree with telie you have to be totally relaxed about it or it will be a disaster for both of you and will also not help you in the future.If you feel that you love him enough to make love then sometimes a nice sexy meal at home and a little wine to go with the food sometimes relaxes you enough.I'm not saying roaring drunk but just enough to relax you and then turn off the light and cuddle for a while things will progress and if you have been together for one and half years and he hasnt pressured you this far I think you can trust him enough to be relaxed with him he sounds like a nice man and I hope everything comes(no pun inteded) good for you both and as the story goes live happily ever after.
2007-08-22 07:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by AFDEE 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think first you should consider whether or not you are truly ready to make this step and if you are something like this will not stop you. You will still feel uncomfortable but it definitely will not stop you from doing it.
Second if he loves you, he is going to love every imperfection you might have.
And last, if you cant get over this don't bother having sex! It wont be worth it. Trust me! You will spend the whole time concentrating on 'what you look like from this angle' and wont actually enjoy it. For sex to be a good experience, both parties have feel comfortable, relaxed and be very open minded! If not, your going to miss all the good parts!!
2007-08-22 07:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time to wake up to the year 2000, take a good look at yourself, what do you see, be proud of yourself, and put the stupid beliefs behind you. If you want sex then go for it, try it a bit a time.
Have sex with the light out, and try having it with less and less clothes until one day you can show yourself, remember it's all in the mind, you have to put the brainwashing out of it first
2007-08-22 07:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by ringo711 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the same thing happened to my friend. Yet she is a muslim. But i convinced her that her bf loved her for what she is not who she is.
She got into sex mode 3 years after she was going out with him. And now, she really enjoys it, and knows her bf loves her. She has a 6 month old girl aswell.
they are due to get married in december
2007-08-22 09:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want to have sex with him then do so. You are an adult. Just take the proper precautions. For it to be enjoyable, you will have to relax. Besides, if the guy you are with is as lovely as you say, he will do his best for you to be comfortable. Since he has never pressured you, don't pressure yourself. I'm Catholic as well, but my parents were not strict with their beliefs. Plus I'm a guy and it's different for guys. No pressure.
2007-08-22 07:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, the other week you were Pretty Yelena, sayingyou were 36wks pregnant and due to have a abortion.
You're also calling yourseilf Sweet Jacinta and saying you're having it off with your uncle.
Do us all a favour and fuc k off will you
Stupid b!tch
2007-08-22 10:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by shutyerfaceup 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am shy but not really about my body. I am just shy in social events and it's hard to for me to find boyfriends.
In fact, I'd like a boy to finally see my body. I think it's sexy.
2007-08-22 11:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah* 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so right ok, you have now been reported to yahoo for being a time waster! you post random questions. now you are saying that you are too shy to have sex, when before you were having an abortion at 36 weeks.
EVERYONE.....report this person!!!
2007-08-24 03:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have obviously got pregnant before, haven't u? remember your question about your 36 weeks pregnancy? Stop joking around
2007-08-22 09:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by flyusa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋