just not praying enough? Sometimes I am too emotionally drained to pray. I always have a pounding in my head. If I am not available for this attention it is our 16 yr old son or the dog that gets it. He gets within an inch of our faces and just yells.
I feel I should be seperated for our emotional health.
2007-08-22 07:07:28 · 14 answers · asked by nursepixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Praying enough? You might be praying enough but your husband might not be listening to what God has to say... My ex was extremely verbally abusive to me and my stepsons on a daily basis. and yes, just like yours, within an inch of our faces. I came to realize it was all part of his controlling EVERYTHING. I was scared to do this, scared to do that, with the fear of getting screamed at. After a couple of years, it took every bit of self esteem and worth I had. I no longer care what I looked like, what people thought, etc. So what did I do...I prayed. Yep, prayed for God to give me the strength to get out of that relationship. And He did. My ex-stepsons no longer keep in contact with him either. You grow to see nothing but hate when a person like him enters a room. I never knew what it was like to have someone who treats me with respect until I met my current boyfriend. We have disagreements, simple though-no raising of voices, belittling, etc. The first few months I did not even know how to react around him...it was all so different-but much welcome. It just drives me up the wall when I hear people having to endure abuse (verbally and physically) and hope their partner will change. They very seldom do and the only alternative is to change YOU, your lifestyle. Life is a short and sweet ride you should be able to enjoy. Speak to your heart and follow it.
Best of luck,
2007-08-22 12:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by ba374 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Cav74....For a.marriage to work it takes BOTH spouses effort and interest in making it work...It takes "two to tango"!
I think that many people assume the woman has to work harder at forgiving her mate; but the truth is God want us to be happy and to live in peace. He is very specific about it- the Bible says that men "should honor their wives and take care of them" and he says the women "should obey their husband"....BUT this means that BOTH spouses are doing what is expected of them!
I think you are tired and stressed out from your husband's attitude -and his yelling is not good for your kid or for yourself.
As for praying, yes, it's good and necessary to do so...But as Cav said, God gave us brains and free will- so He expects us to use them!
Please think things over and get advice from someone you know is a good and decent person. God doesn't want us to be miserable.....
2007-08-22 09:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should suffer from any type of abuse you need to give him a little space and leave him there by himself and see who he will yell at then. I couldn't take my husband yelling at me all the time something is wrong with him but let him figure it out for himself go and get you some piece of mind.
Christian sister
2007-08-22 07:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Angeln 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave for a bit and see if he comes looking for you. If he does then get him to seek some counseling. If he doesn't then he doesn't value you. As a fellow Christian, I do not think divorce is ever necessary if your partner is also christian. Hopefully you man is and you can work it out.
Abuse is not something you should take. Try and get him some help.
2007-08-22 07:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything the matter with it as long as he understands the reason for the separation and you still come together to be together if you know what I mean. He needs to know that his behavior is abusive and you won't take it or subject your son and dog to it either assuming you're taking them with you.
2007-08-22 07:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by justus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prayer is indeed a powerful thing, but God also gave us a free will. You owe it to yourself and your family to get out of an abusive situation.
You are doing your son a huge disservice by letting him think it is okay to treat people this way.
A fellow christian
2007-08-22 07:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by cav74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. He is displaying emotional abuse and you should not take it from him or let your child be subjected to his short comings either. He needs to get couseling before you two return and change his ways. He needs to learn how to deal with his emotions in a mature way. good luck.
2007-08-22 07:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling? Or at least telling him his behavior isn't acceptable? People only treat you the way you allow them to, and my guess is that you've been accepting his bad behavior for a long time now. You can do a lot of things to put a stop to it before you separate.
2007-08-22 07:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look, i believe in god and jesus and the power of prayer but, i doubt this is what the minister had in mind when he said "for better or worse". get the separation and get your husband a therapist. no one has to go through this.
2007-08-22 07:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs anger management, badly! Everyone is getting it and its abuse. Get out and take everyone with you...your husband doesn't deserve to have a family if he doesn't know how to treat them.
2007-08-22 07:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋