So, basically, I've been dating this guy, for about...9 months. We see eachother once a week, because he's working a full time (& now a part time job).
But now, I'm getting a full time job. So, I've been worrying that I wont see him even once a week.
Background info, lately, when we see eachother, I always have to come see him, because he's too tired after work to bus and see me. (which I can understand after working 8 hours, but it can't always be me)
So, I was thinking of a solution, which was that full time, we each get 2 days off. So, one we could dedicate to eachother, and one for our friends. (and if we don't get the same days off, then whoever has the day off, busses to the other person.
ex. he has wed. off, i have sat. so he comes here wed, i go there sat.) make sense? So we see eachother twice a week, and we don't have to bus after working 8 hours.
Anyway, so my questions: is this a valid concern I have?
And, does this sound like an acceptable solution?
2007-08-22 06:58:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a very valid concern for any relationship. Ive been through a similar situation because before I got married my husband worked nights and I worked days so it was very hard for us to see each other. I think for two people to be commited to a relationship it takes alot of compramise so even though you may be tired or he may be tired I dont think it would be too much to ask of him. I think that you came up with a great way to spend more time together. On the nights you cant physically be with each other you can just call and chat for a while and tell each other good night. Im sure you guys will be just fine! Good luck!
2007-08-22 07:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very valid, isn't the whole point of having a partner in your life is to spend time with them.
And I believe the solution is very reasonable. That way you both have to give to spend time with one another. If he isn't accepting of this solution and won't come up with one where neither of you are feeling as though you are giving too much, then I'd have to question whether he's a giver or a taker.
2007-08-22 14:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key...you need to tell him your problem and that you wish he would talk to you a little bit more. Just let him know how your feeling and that should fix things.
2007-08-22 14:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by mally_pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a good solution someone needs to get a car
2007-08-22 14:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by demetrius n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something is important to you, you make the time and effort
2007-08-22 14:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need to be so systematic in relationship.
follow your heart! do allow individual space for rest and friends, etc.
love is in the air!!!!
2007-08-22 14:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I think that you shouldn't plan things out for him. Don't mention anything and let it be up to him if he wants to come to see you. You don't want to seem off to clingy
2007-08-22 14:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fast answers only? Then, no.
2007-08-22 14:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by Le BigMac 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yES, BUT, I AM NOT THE ONE WHO HAS TO AGREE.
2007-08-22 14:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋