Cheating Co worker?

Question

I have a Co worker that is cheating on his wife....I know his wife well.......Do I tell?

Answer 1

In my opinion, no, you do not tell his wife. It is their life that he is destroying, not yours. Adults are old enough to make their own decisions and they are expected to be able to handle any consequences that they dealt. I feel like it is not your place and you would be stepping over the line by telling his wife.

Answer 2

If you tell her, you better bring proof. But you don't know their arrangement either. Maybe they have an open marriage and he isn't really cheating on her.

If there is no arrangement, and he is cheating on his wife, then you better make sure you are willing for conflict at the work place. More than likely, it will slip out that you told her, and he will try to get you back for it.

If you feel the need to let her know, provide proof, but do in annonymously, that way it can't be traced back to you. Send her an e-mail with proof from a bogus account, or go by their place one night and leave a package on the doorstep addressed to her. If you know where she works and what kind of car she drives, you could go by there and leave it on her car.

Answer 3

Get proof and send it to the wife anonymously. I don't care what anyone else says, she does deserve to know. By sending an anonymous letter/picture, you will not become involved in their issue. Your job will not be interfered with because the co-worker will not know that it was you and the wife will not be embarrassed when she sees you.

Answer 4

What good would be accomplished by you telling? Do you really want to be the bearer of that news? If you tell, and they stay together, you will become the "bad guy" and they will both resent you for it. Additionally, it might jeapordize your job.

Now, since you know the wife well, if she has suspicions and brings it up in conversation, you can say, "well, he seems to spend a lot of time with ___." If she asks you direct questions, it would be fine to answer them honestly. By that I mean, you can say, "I see him going to lunch with ___ several times a week." Keep your observations to the facts.

A lot of people think they "know" a co-worker is cheating, but fact is, unless you've seen them in bed together doing the dirty, you don't KNOW. Lots of things are not as they appear.

Answer 5

I would say no - but I think I would confront the co-worker and let him know you know. Telling the wife could cause to many problems

Answer 6

Tell the co-worker you know and that he should tell his wife. Then you do not look like the bad guy.

Answer 7

Not unless you like drama.
Not unless you have an active friendship currently going on (as in.. you do things together.. a lot just you two)

otherwise stay out... now.. you can always take your digital camera and snap a pic of the two lovers together and send them anonymously to the wife if you want... thats ALWAYS fun!

Answer 8

.Drop a note in the mail so you are not involved in it.Talking to him would be good but it would put you right in the middle of the problem.The best thing you can do is be very supportive of her so she can make correct choices in what happens if she find out about the cheating,

Answer 9

yes i know its none of ur beezwax. but sumtimes u are doing the rite thing cuz u are making her life easier. women power. so what she will be better off w/o loser, ask urself woul du want sumone to tell u if ur man is cheating

Answer 10

Since youre in close proximity with your coworker every day, I wouldnt get into it. She'll find out sooner or later.