My in laws are here from India. They've been here for three months (two weeks before my son's birth) and will stay for another three months. This is typical of Indians - the six month stay.
However, I'm having problems adjusting because I'm not Indian. I'm American and love my independance! According to Indian tradition the parents take care of the grandchildren after birth. At least that's how my husband's family does things. I don't like that idea. I like doing things myself. However, I've been really sick the past month so having a helping hand has been really nice. (I have a 17 month old and 7 week old).
However, my inlaws have been slowly loosing patience with the seventeen month old. Three times I've caught her with her hand in the air like she was going to beat him. She's yelling in Tamil - her native language.
And, my newborn has gotten used to being held and rocked all the time. So - I get no sleep. Is it mean for me to ask them to leave? What would u do?
2007-08-22 05:55:44 · 6 answers · asked by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would talk to your husband. I think even if it is rude, if you feel like she is going too far with your baby, then it's your timet to step in. You are just being a good mother, looking out for your children. 6 months is such a long time! I don't know how you do it, but I think you have every right to have them leave. Good Luck Girl!
2007-08-22 06:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by likeAdove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your husband and have him to explain that why you are thankful for their help, it's time that you and your family adjust to things on your own. I think three months is plenty. They can cut this trip short, or if they want to stay, go to a hotel and maybe site see, let you all become YOUR family.
2007-08-22 13:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, it isn't mean for you to ask them to leave. You are the mother. Also, you are American, so you have every right to do things your way, not all the indian way. Speak to your husband about how you feel. If he won't speak up to his parents, then you are going to have to.
2007-08-22 13:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to tell your husband that you are feeling uncomfortable about this situation. It sounds like it is time for them to leave. They stayed long enough. It sounds like his family is getting to bossy. You have already compromised now it is time for his family to compromise.
2007-08-22 13:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jen2U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should let them all know how you feel. You have respected them this long, it is their turn to respect how you feel. You have to let it out, it is not healthy to hold in your feelings, especially when it comes to your kids. I would honestly talk to my husband and hopefully he would understand how I feel.
2007-08-22 13:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by BUNNY11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with your husband, show your worry and he will understand
2007-08-22 13:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋