I almost cheated on him and hes really mad hes a really good guy n i hate myself for doing what i did. I want to know how i could convince him into trusting me again.
2007-08-22 05:49:07 · 16 answers · asked by ..LostnConfused.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay so i sent a picture of me to one of my friends (which really tried kickin it to me) and my boyfriend found the email well hes mad because hes says just the thought is cheating (and i dont blame him) but now i hate myself for what i have done because hes a really great guy... im confused because im not sure why i did what i did and i noticed how good of a man he really is and all hes done for me....i know i have to earn my trust but i dont want to lose him and i wish i knew how to convince him that im still worthy and that i want him more then ever. How do i show it?
2007-08-22 06:17:16 · update #1
(by the way the picture was just a headshot... not a nude pic...NEVER)
2007-08-22 06:29:56 · update #2
Give him time and space to calm down because he's very angry at this point. When the time is right sit down with him and talk about it. He will not trust you again until you've earned it and that may take time but hang in there if you want him.
2007-08-22 06:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by lr1972usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You aren't even that interested in HIM. This post is all about how you feel and what YOU want. It just proves the point further. You may be temporarily interested in him because you will now eventually lose him, but maybe that's just because you are mixed up and only want what you can't have. Maybe you are programmed to respond to a negative challenge. I don't know how you fix that. It's a core character issue, and the only way people really ever learn is by suffering the consequences of their actions.
But know this, if you were interested in HIM, YOU wouldn't have done what you did.
2007-08-22 05:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is such a great guy why did you almost cheat on him? I can't blame him for not trusting you and being really mad. You screwed up. Before hanging on to this relationship, maybe you should take a good hard look in the mirror. Maybe this isn't the right guy for you. Personally, I think you should move on.
2007-08-22 06:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince someone to trust you?? Can't happen. Trust is earned. If you keep doing things honestly then in time he will learn to trust again. It is going to take a long time though. So, if you don't have the patience then you should be honest with him about that.
2007-08-22 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about something is NOT the same as doing it ! Are you really going to let him convict you of something that in actuality NEVER happened ? What kind of picture did you send ? I can see him being upset about a racey picture.....but otherwise who cares ?
I can see that he would not want to be with some one who is a liar and a cheat......but at this point you are neither !
2007-08-22 06:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by RedHairedTempest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is extremely fragile thing. The only way to get trust is to earn it.You will need to prove to him that he can trust you again.It will take time.Sometimes when you loose that trust, you may haft to face the fact that its over.Trust is the foundation of a relationship.Don't just tell him that your sorry you will need to show him that he should give you another chance.
2007-08-22 06:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What reason does he have not to trust you? You "almost" cheated...so what? Most of us think about or are very tempted to do things we know we shouldn't, but until we cross that line and do them, there's no 'crime'.
We don't punish people for almost breaking laws...no reason for him to punish or think less of you for "almost" doing something. In fact, he should respect that you were tempted but resisted and the two of you should work on whatever is wrong in your relationship that caused you to be tempted to step out on him. Fix the problem, don't concentrate on what "almost" happened.
2007-08-22 05:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is easy to get mad and get supicious now on, only time and doing most of what he say can help. Not saying that you have to obey everything he said, but he has to have the control feeling to be on the save side.
crying can get you some extra point
2007-08-22 05:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will have to make him understand that u know what u did hurt him, takes a long time to regain trust once its been lost. your actions will show him your true intent. communicate with him, let him know how wrong u were, and be honest, make him understand it will never happen again. sometimes we don't think we deserve good, so we may unintentionally sabotage our own relationships.
2007-08-22 10:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a good guy, he wouldn't be sleeping with you, without benefit of marriage; so don't try that one. He's no more trustworthy than you are, which means it doesn't matter whether he trusts you or not.
2007-08-22 06:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋