How much do cheating spouses care about their families?

Question

After all, cheating doesn't just affect the spouses, but it affects the children, as well. I can't help but think that if these people really cared about their children, they would be spending their time with them instead of getting their rocks off elsewhere.

Answer 1

Well being that I was married to a scumbag who constantly lied and cheated on top of other crappy things...I would say that they don't care much, if at all, because they are willingly forfeiting what they have (family, etc) for someone else. They are being selfish and putting their own needs before anyone else's proving that their main concern is not their family but solely themselves. You are right, with where these people should be but again their priorities are so out of whack that they can't see that and most likely don't even take a moment to even consider the impact that it will have on their child because they too wrapped up in themselves to think of anyone else. When I was married, I stayed for a long time and tried to believe his bs that he had changed and the he would never cheat again and I tried to do so mainly on the basis that we have a daugther together and I wanted her to have her family so to speak. However, he cheated again and it finally sank into my thick head that he was never going to change and that this was not the example I wanted my daughter growing up believing constituted a healthy marriage or how a woman should be treated. Leaving was the smartest thing I ever did because still even now I have proof that he cheated on his current gf and I just see through his actions still, that he hasn't changed, most likely will never change, and that his main priority still is himself. So again, I speak solely from experience, but I would definitely have to say that even if they do care for their family on some level, it does not amount to much especially in comparison to how much they care about themselves...

and in response to the person above me, if the woman felt so badly she should've left and/or realized that if she was caught cheating, she could lose custody of her children in the divorce....

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This is very true. I wouldn't necessarily say they don't care about their children. Because it was love at first sight with mine. I will always love them. I think it is more of being selfish when spouses cheat. They are being very selfish and harming people along the way. But I would not say they don't love or care about their families. People are selfish in many ways. Spouses need to understand their are consequences to every action because once you bring children in every decision you make affects their life, but if you make one mistake it doesn't mean you don't care.
Now I am a big believer in cheating is wrong. Once a cheater always a cheater, but I will never think that my spouse doesn't care if he was ever to cheat on me. I would just chalk it up to he was selfish and he could go be selfish on his own.

Answer 4

Let me tell you this, If a person is cheating on his/her spouse that is one thing, I am sure that they think that it will not affect the children - but damn it does - it affects the entire family - not only emotionly but also monetarily... a single mom has to work 2 jobs in this country just to make ends meet and the father (almost always) after the divorce is with the younger woman living it up.

Meanwhile the kids need school clothes and food and who has to deal with all the issues it is the mom... (most of the time)

Answer 5

Wow, that's a pretty harsh statement. To suggest that just because someone has fallen out of love with their spouse they don't love their kids anymore. Yikes.

Here's a scenario. Husband slaps around wife. Wife, bordering on a nervous breakdown, has an affair. The poor woman is so desperate for affection she's losing all sense of herself or her purpose in life. This man finally gives her the courage to leave abusive husband.
Marriage over.

Does she love her kids? OF COURSE SHE DOES!!!!!!!

Don't judge, you truly never know what goes on between 2 people behind closed doors. There's always a side of the story you haven't heard.

Yes affairs affect whole families but not always for the worse. As in the above story, those kids didn't need to be in that environment any more than mom did.

I'm not saying it's ok to cheat. I'm just saying don't judge too harshly because you just never know.

Answer 6

Unless this was purely accidental...You know, like he tripped from his cloths falling off and landed on her, while just by chance slipping it to her......I would say that they aren't even thinking about the family at the time. Cheaters come in all aspects of human forms. Some may care for the family even though they feel the need to satisfy themselves this way as I am sure that there are others that don't give a hoot about anything or anyone but themselves. The fact of the matter though is that all cheaters are the same in one respect. They cannot and should not be trusted.

Answer 7

People that cheat are looking to fill a hole in their lives that is currently not being filled by the one they are committed to.

Its a very personal thing and the person cheating is only seeking to make themselves feel better. This total lack of focus on anything but how they are feeling negates any consideration of how this will impact anyone else.

In fact, most people rationalize cheating by telling themselves that by doing this they are maintaining their "happy home" by no longer being out of sorts over the whole sex issue.

Answer 8

I disagree w/ temptest... they keep it a secret so they don't have to get a divorce... they can have their cake and eat it too... they don't care about anyone but themselves! I disagree w/ Margo, you should be communicating w/ your spouse instead of someone else and quit the emotional affair, that, would be fair... really, cheating spouses don't care about their family who is left at home, all alone...

Answer 9

I've always felt that if you have to cheat on your spouse, you shouldent, remain married, have gumption enough to tell them your unhappy & find it necessary to screw around, but most people cant do this, they would rather hurt their spouses & children, in order to satisfy their own needs. Marriage takes alot of work, its not easy.

Answer 10

People that cheat may love their spouses and their children. But their main concern is themselves and what is in it for them. They expect the spouse and the children to accept.