Let's see. I'm 19 and my husband is also 19. Both families approved. We've known each other since 5th gd. And have been together for 5 years. We got married on June 30th, 2007. We both work full time and go to school full time. Any advice for a long happy marriage. I'd like to hear from people that have a long marriage. NOT someone who is going to tell me i'm to young and i'm unsure of myself.
2007-08-22 05:41:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Congrats! Me and my husband married at 18 and are still together and happy almost 12 years later. Always communicate with each other. If something is bothering you, speak up, don't keep it in to fester. Always make time for each other no matter how tired you are. Treat each other with love and kindness. Don't knit pick over silly things like he left his socks on the floor. (My hubby still does that, I just turn a blind eye.) You both have faults and little things that seem odd to the other, being able to accept that and not complain is also key.
2007-08-22 05:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, don't do your full time stuff for too much longer. In working with couples, one of the most obvious trials come simply because both partners are spending so much time away from each other, and active in doing so. Yes, it's "good" to do school, work, etc. but realize that over time, the simple principle of being more apart than together will greatly impact your "long happy marriage". Period.
Second, you and your spouse MUST do one more schooling... learn to communicate properly. This includes totally learning how to understand each other, why you both say and do the things you do, how to listen, etc. Books, web, counseling, etc.
Third, always meet the other's needs, not your own. It's not a 50/50 to make 100. It's a 100% on each part, meeting each others needs, whatever it is. Don't do to him what you want done to you. That's meeting "your" needs. And vice versa.
Fourth, NEVER make decisions if only one wants to and the other does not. That's a recipe for disaster.
Fifth, DO lots of activities (interactive) that you BOTH enjoy!
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2007-08-22 06:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i replaced into married at 19, my husband replaced into additionally 19. confident, there's a undeniable point of adulthood "lacking"... yet we worked by using it by using fact we like eachother. we've been married for basically approximately 9 years, have been sealed contained in the temple 3 years in the past. in case you wait until eventually you're "financially waiting" you will never get married, there'll continuously be an excuse. funds will continuously be a controversy, regardless of in case you commence out with "sufficient", until eventually you're a billionaire. Do what you sense is sturdy. you're the two adults and while you're prepared to comitt to eachother, then choose for it. Pray approximately it, ask your Heavenly Father no depend if that's sturdy. Age, at a undeniable ingredient, does not truly have something to do with it. in case you the two sense as in case you additionally could make the marriage artwork, then you're waiting. Marriage isn't ordinary at any age, in spite of the shown fact that it is likewise incredible. do basically what you the two sense is sturdy.
2016-10-03 01:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Wayne B hit the nail on the head.
I have been married 14 yrs and together 18, everything he said is right. I just want to add pick your battles. Let go on the little things and accept each other as you are and not what you want them to be.
2007-08-22 09:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep treating each other with the same love and respect that you did on your wedding day. When things get rough, take a break & get that connection back with each other.
Laugh with each other.
Remember that you want each other to be happy. Honor & be excited as your spouse grows. Grow together with each other. Learn together.
Treat life as an adventure that you are going on together.
2007-08-22 05:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just like a full time job, ups and downs, do not count on your emotions, and stay faithful no matter what. Never quit talking to one another, always communicate. Most the time you ignore the small stuff that gets in the way.
2007-08-22 06:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by slither22a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a marriage for almost 8 years just be honest and trust that is all I can give you good luck hope things work out between you too
2007-08-22 05:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, but hard to follow. Find out his wants and needs, then fulfill his needs, and work on the wants. Aslo find out what your needs and wants are, then share them with your husband. As long as your both working on this for both of you, you will find that you will have a very fulfilling and good marriage. Good luck to ya.
2007-08-22 05:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication and trust are requirements for successful marriages. Keep flirting like you did when you first got attached...it keeps things interesting, and fun!
2007-08-22 05:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by What Lil' Girls R Made Of... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love each other.
Tell each other you love them every day.
Set a budget and agree to follow it.
Agree on how you will discipline your children before you need to.
NEVER argue in front of the children.
Go on dates.
COMMUNICATE.
2007-08-22 05:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Wayne B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋