I suggested to someone on here that perhaps she should get even with her cheating husband by cheating on him. A lot of other people here have said that even cheaters don't deserve to get cheated on. Why not? Perhaps the only way they'll realize how much pain they've caused is if they experience it themselves!
2007-08-22 05:21:24 · 38 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason I wouldn't do that is that it would cheapen me. It would harm the way I feel about myself.
2007-08-22 05:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
There are two problems with that idea.
1. Cheaters do not have the same type of feelings. A cheater would not be hurt at all. In fact, a cheater might even consider this all the more reason for them to feel free to cheat.
2. Cheaters do not respect their partners. Therefore, they would view their partner's cheating as disobedience rather than as a hurtful act.
As far as others saying that not even cheaters deserve to be cheated on, people with a conscience cannot fathom inflicting the pain that they would feel by this horrible act on anyone.
Take care,
Troy
2007-08-22 05:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not that they don't deserve it. Its just that revenge cheating actually does not give confidence back, or have the effect desired because the cheater(first one) will just say she / he did it to get even thats all. It just doesnt have that same effect.
They definitely deserve it!
What is way better is if she left him. That would hurt far more than a revenge cheat.
Or, If he was with someone else who cheated on him.
2007-08-22 05:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because somebody cheats on you and proves to be a low life, self indulged a s s hole, doesn't mean that you should lower yourself to they're standards. There are other ways of your getting even. Do you know this girls phone number? If so, then why not call her to ask her if she knows for sure if he has seen a doctor for his STD yet? Tell her that he doesn't tell you anything, but you would like to know before you sleep with him again. Use your imagination. But don't stoop to the level of a cheater as it will make you look just as bad if not worse.
2007-08-22 05:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in the end you have to live with yourself in the morning. It doesn't mean that they don't deserve to be divorced. It just means that if you have a conscience you will have to live with what you have done (even if it was done to you).
I was in a very bad marriage for a long time and I used to tell myself that no matter what was done to me I would not be a person to take revenge on the other person because then their actions dictated what kind of person I was.
I don't want to be cheater even if I was cheated on. I am now in a wonderful marriage with a husband that knows that I have never compromised my beliefs or values because of what someone did to me.
2007-08-22 05:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by katbonikowski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But to do that, you'd have to use somebody and your own body. So, if you find someone willing to be used and are prepared to use your body for " a good " cause, then ok. But to me it'd mean that you don't value yourself enough.
There are other way to get back at someone, not having to be at their own level!!
By showing him for instance what he is about to lose?
Besides, by cheating on him, you leave no chance to the
relationship; How will any of you move on from there? It's hard enough when one does it, but both.
This is behaving in a very childish way!
It wouldn't be worth it. And eye for an eye!! Not, not always advisable and wiser either!
Why would you trade your moral values to get even with someone? Isn't it better to show him that you can find a lot better than him??
That he is not worth the effort, that you prefer to move on.
2007-08-22 05:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For cheating back dont stop the pain that it has caused the person. And it's not a good way to try to get even. Just ends up being a nother regret. My advice for someone that has been cheated on is to move on it not worth your time to hang on to something or someone that don't care nomore thatn that for you. Their is allways someone else that will do you better. And I have learned from experiance that what goes around comes around. So be pacient it will come home to them. I feel sorry for anyone that has to go thru this.
2007-08-22 05:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think If youve been cheated on, Dont cheat back. I think it will affect you in the future. And feel less about yourself... Just leave the person who cheated on you. Dont forgive a cheater will take advantage. You dont know the other person 100%. I do believe a cheater will always be a cheater
2007-08-22 05:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by MARGO 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It just doesn't work that way. Cheaters don't have any heart or soul, so they don't feel the way normal people feel. You'll end up feeling guilty if you try to give them a taste of their own medicine. They'll blame you, you'll blame you...it's a no win situation. Send the cheaters off to live on their own cheating island and leave the rest of us people alone to find happiness with each other!
2007-08-22 05:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm one of the people who would say not to do it back because personally I think that someone who's cheating anyways doesn't care how they're making the other person feel so if the person retaliated by doing the same thing I don't think they would really care. I agree they deserve to feel the hurt and pain that they cause but I think it's better served by breaking up with them and moving on and being happy. But that's just me. To each their own ya know?
2007-08-22 05:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheaters often do get cheated on, but why should the person they cheated on initially lower themselves to such a despicable level? If you cheat, even in retaliation, you have no right to ever biotch about being cheated on...because when you participate in a behavior you okay that behavior to be done to you.
I hope I'm better than that...I sure try to be.
2007-08-22 05:29:38 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋