Me and a friend are worried about someone we've known well for a good few years. She is 18 and in the past year has left her full time job, got into some heavy drugs and moved in with her 37 year old "boyfriend" aka f*ck buddy/dealer. She's been smoking weed for a few years but is very innocent, used to be a tomboy - skating, playing guitar and generally being normal. She never had a boyfriend but got into sleeping around with guys who used her for sex before her "boyfriend" discovering her and luring her into his messy world of dealing, drugs, sex and who knows what else. She's moved to a town over half an hour away and it's difficult for her real friends to contact her. She doesn't realise the seriousness of what shes doing and replies with things like "It's only a bit of ..... blah blah blah" (drugs). Her family and little of her friends are aware of the relationship with her and this man, or the drugs. Any advice on what we can do to help. Talking just doesn't work.... Thanx
2007-08-22 04:55:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she sounds like he has her under some big drugs and probably keeps her pretty dopped up. there is not much you can do unless you all intervene with family and get her out of it and then try and dry her out. it would be big job and not sure it would work and how long she would staff off them they have to want to or maybe see what shes doing and with what shes into it will be very hard. i dont know
2007-08-22 05:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about this, I would just talk to him and explain to him what you are expressing you. Being a smoker, I will tell you that it can be very hard to quit smoking (cigarettes that is).
2016-04-22 07:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on from her!! my real freinds did that to me but let me know that they were there for me when i got clean.. and it was true , after i realized that the friends i thought i was with were not my friends, just drug buddies and i wanted to get clean, i learned who my real friends were and they have been there for me, they just didn't want to see me go down, they could not stand to watch me hurt myself, so they stepped aside.. that is the best thing you can do... but let her know that you will be there for but you just cant see her hurt herself anymore but when and if she wants help that you will be there for her but she has to really want it! best of luck to you......
2007-08-22 05:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very bad .i feel sorry for u.if u have a freind like u.but it is really bad about what to your 18 old freind .i wish i could do somting bout it.but i cant
2007-08-22 05:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this may seem, you are going to let her figure all this out on her own...you are not going to be able to change her mind for her...
2007-08-22 05:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops.
or .. .let her be.
She'll call out when she wants help.
PRAY FOR HER TO BE SAFE.
GOD WILL PROVIDE.
2007-08-22 05:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lovefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋