I'm in school now and I have a biology teacher who I'll call Ms. Evil. She hates me simply because I chill out with her son, Jason. Jason and I started hanging out in 7th grade, apparently he never told his mom about me. One time she saw Jason walk me to class and she told me as I go in the door, "Don't give my Jason any ideas." She winked at me. And then she called my parents to say I had been hanging out with Jason. She said that Jason was my boyfriend. Hello?! Lady- get it through your head. I am just Jason's friend. But she can't seem to. She seems obsessed with keeping Jason clean- he is. And unfortunately- we both attend the same church so I have to see Ms. Evil at church, too. What should I do? I mean I don't want to wreck my friendship over his mom not liking me. I mean it's not like we're dating or anything- he's just a cool guy to hang out with. But me And Alexa are the only girls he hangs out with- the rest are guys. (alexa doesn't have ms. evil for a teacher) Help!
2007-08-22 04:41:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's just like I've never had a teacher act this way towards me before. I mean would it be different if I Jason was a girl instead of a guy?
2007-08-22 04:49:09 · update #1
No, I'm a straight A student and my parents have always taught me to respect my elders.
2007-08-24 04:17:59 · update #2
I hate to ask, but do you have a bad reputation for being disrespectful or rude? Do you dress in a way that might make this mom think you're not a nice girl? I have a big mouth and often wore clothes that were tight, but I was a virgin and very clean, so I'm not judging -- just pointing out the (possibly) obvious question we might have.
If you have done things to make this woman think this about you, be honest with her. Tell her you are not out to win her son's heart, but that even if that did happen, you would behave honorably with him. Don't say, "It's not like we're getting married or anything." That's rude.
Anyway, I would advise you to be careful of how you act in her class, too. If you don't like her, she'll know it, so try to find something to admire about her. Does she really know the subject she teaches? Is she strict, but fair? If you really do admire her, she'll know that.
I wish you all the best.
2007-08-22 06:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just confront her. To maybe even further help your situation to show you are serious, bring your mom with you when you do it. Explain the situation to her that you and Jason are just friends, you have no bad intentions with him, or intentions of hooking up with him. If your mom is there with you, she will know that you mean what you are saying. Just make sure you do most of the talking, or she will think your mom put you up to it. Having your mom there may also show that you are a respectable young lady who has a good relationship with her mom. A lot of kids who misbehave a lot don't have the greatest relationship going with their parents. Either way, I think it would help your case if she was there. That way, if Ms. Evil tries to say anything too rude to you, your mom can also have your back.
2007-08-22 04:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be hard to deal with but honestly the only thing you can do is grin and bear it. If she starts treating you different and it is obvious that she is being mean to you then tell your parents or guidance counselor. Soem teachers do play favorites and mess up but I would not let her ruin your friendship. You could always tell her that you feel God brought you into her son's life for a reason and when you figure it you will let her know until then you will always be his good friend.
2007-08-22 04:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by llamma2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you be mature about it, and as a Christian, go lay bare your problem to your agressor...
May Jason and you could go to his mum and set the record straight. Maybe you could go see her with your mum and Dad...
You could even go and see her on your own, or with another teacher if you needed to.
As long as you have trust with your family, they will not believe anything bad of you... unless of course you give them cause to be concerned.
Usually there is no smoke without fire, so maybe one of your questions could be "why do you think these things about me" and try and settle Jason's Mums perception of you.
Maybe just the simple affirmation that you are not interested in relationships at all whilst you are at school will be enough.
2007-08-22 04:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her "Look. Jason's JUST a friend. I just like hanging out with him. But I DON'T like him more than a friend. You might think so but I really don't." and look her in the eye. if that doesnt work then she's just a tough one. She's just being a parent and worried for her son.
2007-08-22 04:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by oreoreoreo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that Jason is just a good friend and nothing more. And then moreso, start trying to be more nice to her. I myself have been through" I hate my teacher" phase and all i did was just make it worse! She still hates me today! So, definitely don't try to make things worse!
2007-08-22 04:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by anegrete10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she sounds like she's being mean to you at all.
It sounds more like she's just being a parent, and trying to befriend you, and you're taking offense to it.
Maybe you should try realizing that she's a parent and a teacher, and stop imagining that she's out to get you.
2007-08-22 04:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
See if you can have your class changed to get a different teacher.
2007-08-22 04:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have ur mom or dad call your school and they should tell the school your situation. and they will definetly get ur class changed because it's a personal issue being brought into school.
2007-08-22 05:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by unknown317 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to your school principle and explain your concerns.....also your school guidance counselor should be able to help. One solution would be to ask to be transferred to another class.....
2007-08-22 04:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by maur911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋