ok. so it starts of when i was a couple months old and my parents got devorsed. Now I miss my Dad because I only get to see him every other weekend. I want to go to his house more often, but my Mom doesn't like it when we (me, my sister or brother)talk about my Dad.(we can ask simple questions like how did you guys meet?) How do I ask my Mom and not make her mad?
2007-08-22 03:51:35 · 8 answers · asked by rockhopperrulez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, if the divorce, was because of them not getting along...or something like that, then, i would say you should have some kind of legal rights......maybe call the divorce courts in your city and ask them, they won't report you for just wanting to know what your opotions are. BUT... if the divorce was over something wrong your dad did...as in anything criminal.....then i would just try to listen to my mom....... i hope this helps.......i don't know how old you are.... but if your say maybe 14 or so, then i would just ask her why she doesn't want you to see him more.........or ask yourself, is she just super angry with him, and you and your sibilings are the ones that is paying the price for her anger.
2007-08-29 14:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee squaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have this question all wrong.. Shouldn't it be Mom trouble's? Since she's the one giving the hard time about Dad? Since the divorce is still pretty fresh for both parents it might be best at this point in time to just roll with whatever is going on... It will really hurt your mother if you just tell her you want to spend more time with your Dad.. She's really upset and really needs your support as her children.. It's not that you're not supossed to love your dad but, what's happening is hurting her as well as hurting you... So, maybe bring it up with your Dad first and see how he reacts to spending more time together.. You might find that it's just NOT that simple and custody agreements with the courts may be pending.. I also would try and be a bit nicer to your mother and be helpful, curtious and kind.. It's generally BOTH parents fault for a divorce and just not one over the other... Maybe if you can seek some sort of counseling either as a family or by yourself if you think it would help....good luck
2007-08-22 11:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. I met my dad for the first time (since birth) at age 7. I only see him about 3 times a year and i know its hard. Maybe explain to your mum that he is your DAD and he has as much right to you as she does. The best thing is to talk. How about your brother or sister? Can you talk to them?
wish you all the best
xoxoxo
2007-08-30 03:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom does not realize how the divorce is effecting her children. Just tell her you love her and don't want to hurt her, but you need to spend more time with your dad. Tell her it is not that you love dad more, you just feel that it's important to spend more time with him. I think if you tell her in a way that makes her feel secure that you are not choosing dad over her, she will understand. Don't keep putting it off, find a good quiet time and discuss with her. Best of luck sweetie.
2007-08-22 11:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very understandable. i know i am adopted and its hard for the adults to talk about it it could be bad blood between them and no matter what you say thee isn't going to be any good its just normal. there are alot out there that do like each other and i dont' understand that either. you can just ask your dad when you see him would be best. i am sure he would tell you maybe. its nice to know those things and stuff whent here was love in their but its hard to talk about when there is so much anmosity.
2007-08-26 00:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad about it and let him arrange it with her. Often times parents don't hear what their children are saying. She might be more willing to let you see him more if it comes from him.
2007-08-22 11:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell your mother, "Mom, I know you don't like when we talk about Dad, but I would like to know how you met, how he proposed to you etc." If you approach her politely and considerately, you may be surprised. Hope I helped!
2007-08-22 10:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like your mom isnt completely over your dad, I wouldnt ask her those things because it is probably hurting her, she might not want you over there because she has to see him too, but that is no excuse. You need to tell her that is your dad, and it isnt fair to you that she is doing this to you.
2007-08-22 10:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋