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Question

Why i don't do everything when that thing should be done?? see when i had to do hard work in my teens i din't ,when i'm given many opprtunities by my parents to be myself in life i dint use any of those opportunities..

now i'm married to very lovable guy..as i'm pregnant he asks me to take fruits daily...fruits are stuffed in the fridge but i dont feel like eating at all

and the tragic thing is that i know everything ( how it ( anything ) should be done, their cosequenceces etc.)...if i can do anything i will be perfect in that..

and i feel depressed for not able to do what i wanted to do...what should i do...i'm totally confused and worried that my mental condition may effect my baby..

this is happening from my childhood..can anyone help me out..please

Answer 1

Hi Sharmila.
What you have described is downright laziness. It can be
tackled in a lazy way also. The answer above by reader Chids
is half correct i.e. to do Yoga. In your present state please
do not do Yoga on your own it would be dangerous and I
know what I am talking as a Yoga Therapist. You need a
personal coach which is expensive and maybe not
practical at the moment. So what is the answer?
Yoga mudra - this should be done everyday religiously.
If your laziness is coming in the way then use the time you
watch tv & which can be conveniently exploited to do GYAAN
MUDRA which is easily done by just joining the tip of the
thumb with that of the forefinger and keeping other three
fingers straight, palms facing upward. Do this with both
the hands and keep them on your respective thighs and
watch tv. No touching the remote and stay in this mudra
for atleast 45 minutes starting with 5 minutes. This is the
same mudra usually done by all your gods. If you go to any
temples you will find gods usually in this mudra. This mudra
will not only help you but indirectly affect your child as well
and it will not inherit your laziness. Go ahead do it from now
on and get rid of your laziness for life. All the best in your
endeavour.

Answer 2

Leave the past behind. Consciously try to do that. Just pack the past and throw it away.Whatever you did or did not do was based on the situations at that point of time.Its over now. Move on Move on............Fortunately you got a good partner now. You will be giving birth to a precious little. Count the blessings you had and have now....loving parents,good husband. Guilt feeling is the worst thing that can happen to a human.Don't not waste time on that. Two souls are looking for your love. Go ahead. If need be talk to someone you care or take professional help. God has given you a new chance. Rise up to the occasion and salvage the good things you have now.Whenever you feel depressed think about the nice things happening to you. You are becoming a mom. there are many people who cannot become.Thats one blessing. Gradually the these signs of guilt will reduce and finally disappear.....wish you all luck and safe delivery.

Answer 3

Hello

Every one cannot understand you. And if some one says that 'I understand you' it is something which is not achievable and realistic. And do not expect others to understand you either.

You husband is also not understanding you. He wants you to eat fruits when you do not feel like eating them! Does he 'understand you' ?

May be a feeling from childhood that " I should be understood by others"

You say that I know everything. But do you understand yourself ? If you 'try' to understand yourself, you may be able to grow.

Nothing will happen even if you skip a meal or fruit. The thought that something would happen if , if , if,........
prevents many from understanding themselves and stop functioning.

No one can help you out in the present state unless 'you take responsibility for yourself'.

No advice is going to work for you unless you decide to take action. Good that you have sought the opinion of others.

But do what you know for yourself.

Happy carrying and wishing you to feel proud about giving birth to be healthy baby by a healthy mother, assisted by a caring husband.

Care for yourself before you care for another.

Swami Manickananda

Answer 4

First of all, relax. You are overwhelmed by all the requirements you see expected of you and that you expect of yourself. So many can make you become paralyzed or anxious. These are unnecessary emotions.

My advice is to do just one thing and accomplish it. Put everything else out of your mind. Tell yourself you will do the other things another day.

When you have accomplished the one thing, you will feel wonderful and a sense of satification will fill you. This in turn will cause you to approach another 'one thing' the next day or two.

Take the pressure off yourself, and you will see how much you will get done in your own time.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

When I was pregnant, I was a lot in pray of my moods: it is like that! More if you are sensitive in character.
You don't accept what is imposed, what you must or should do, or you are supposed to do, may be your mother was very exacting... and you are to yourself. And you are jut tired to do what you know it's the best thing to do, because you must be very sensible too. I understand you. Let yourself freer to choose... just stop judging yourself like your mother taught you, and always bad! Mothers have to teach education to children, but sometimes they are too strict, you know?
When your child will be a boy or a little girl you will understnd why, and you may be forgive your mother, it will be for you a discovery, and you will feel far better, believe me!
As for now: be more clement about yourself and eat some fruit sometimes, not for your husband, not for your child, just for yourself!

Answer 7

I undertsand ur situation....now ok leave abt the teen days (generally we will be aggressive in taking our own decision) but now u are married and a mother .....think always positive..i think eating fruits is not a difficult job right then????atleast eat for ur child who would be so excited to come into this worls think abt ur baby.........u need to have nutritious food when u are pregnant........ok now my que is do u dont like fruits or u dont want to eat anything?????????????
Just think of ur baby and have good food.............come on stop all this worries and go have some fruits and take rest and all the best !!!!!!!

Answer 8

I think u live in a fantasy life thinking there are people to work for you and u do have those kind of people around you but for how long ? Your parents served you until you got married now your loving husband, Then u gonna use your children and their spouses and later your grand children.Chalti hai gadi chalai ja, Get up u lazy princess WORK and be happy and make others happy too

Answer 9

haaaaaaaaaaaa sorry dear but its not only u i am also like but chill dear this is life

and we r born to do wrong things and learn new things in our life

look now u know wt u should do than try to do and avoid wrong things

yaar be happy and pray god to give to strenght to make u the best human being and make ur life useful to love and help others and support ur faimly with love and care

dear don't think tooooo much yaar

we all r like this only but there r few like u who think too much ( u r very sweet from heart)

so dear by worring u r missing something and u know what ur loveably days and time with ur husband and ur baby,

i hav ful confidence on u that u will be the best mom on this earth

best of luck dear

lov u

friend

byeeeeeeeeeee

take care of ur self dear


and u yahoo group ppl want to say best of luck for ur life

Answer 10

You sound a lot like me. When I was younger, when I was told to do something, I automatically didn't want to do it just to rebel against my parents. But that behavior continued into adulthood and now I feel like everything is a chore. I think part of it was that I was never given the proper tools to develop normal self-esteem. When you have normal self-esteem, you tend to mother yourself. When you have self-esteem issues, most times you'll feel depressed and anxious, which deep down makes you feel like you don't deserve to be taken care of. Take your prenatal vitamins and try to eat a balanced diet. Most of all, DON'T FEEL GUILTY!