My fiance i feel wants sex every night, but i could live with only having sex once or twice a fortnight. And there is nothing that she can do to turn me on, I feel it is because I know she wants it that i cant get turned on, what do i do?
2007-08-22 01:50:08 · 14 answers · asked by lothian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You definitely have issues if you only want sex once or twice a fortnight. Some men would swap places with you in a minute if they knew that a woman like her was up for sex every night. Maybe your just not attracted to her anymore and you don't want to admit it..
2007-08-22 01:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by honest girl! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been exactly where you are now ..
It is a tricky one because you probably love her to bits but for whatever reason (mine was previous relationships) you are just not fired up in that way. It is also worse for men because we have to 'perform' whereas a lady can (not saying they all do etc) just 'lie there' if she wishes (no disrespect ladies I am talking nothing but physical effort here).
There is always that fear that 'if she doesnt get what she wants at home she will go elsewhere'.
All I can say is that you MUST talk to her and get her to understand your point of view. If she understands better she may take some of the pressure off however you need to understand her side as well and come to a compromise .. ie if she backs off a little you must come forward a little and meet in the middle .. I think all marriage is based around compromise really.
if you cant talk or compromise .. then you have serious problems .. but I am sure you are aware of that already.
2007-08-22 09:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an act that should be done only when the BOTH of you are in the mood. Talk it out with her and give each other space. Allow a few days to go by so that you have time to miss her and want sex from her..
2007-08-22 08:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by yazmin21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people want it all of the time and some people don't. I wish my husband would lay off. I want it 2-3 times a week. He is like a dog in heat and we have been married for seventeen years. Tell her what you wrote here and maybe she will back off. I'm glad I'm a girl. I turn the lights off and moan and groan at the right intervals until he gets his. Big turn off.
2007-08-22 09:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down talk to her. Otherwise things will get worse. If you two love each other things will work out. Try spicing your sex life up a bit, maybe with a pornographic dvd or maybe some sex toys. She has to be worth a go doesnt she?
2007-08-22 08:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by carli678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, tell her what you just told us. The two of you might make each other miserable if you get married. You may need counseling to work it out and decide if you should continue the relationship. She already knows something is up. It's time to be honest.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 08:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by darth_momm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know telling her how you feel should help. imean that is waht alot of couples lack is communication talking and being with one another for periods. its not all about sex is it? tell her she could feel reallythe same way.
2007-08-26 00:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk this whole thing through with your partner.
If you can't sort it out then then maybe you shouldn't be together at all.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 09:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
enjoy the sex, make it better so that it can be enjoyed more by you
2007-08-22 08:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg a bloke . its hande to you on a plate and you say no........what is this world coming to
2007-08-22 10:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by carsha1uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋