Do you think if your involved with someone and they spend all their time at your house?Do you think they should help with the utilities, food and other expenses that they help accumulate? and on top of all that your a single mother and your in school and working two jobs.Do you think that you should have to ask them to do so? And if you do have to ask and they get on the defense, does this actually makes them a selfish individual?
What are your thoughts on this one!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-22 01:12:31 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, yeah, if they're staying for maybe over a week, then they should at least pitch in with the house work or insist on paying a bit of the bills.....But I dont know how you'd go about asking them to do it though, it can make it awkward between you guys especially if you're staying under the same roof.
2007-08-22 01:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Eliza 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can he reasonably afford to help? If so, what is his excuse for not doing so? Does he worry you will come to depend on him too much? You might point out to him that if he helps, you would drop the less satisfying job and have more time to spend with him.
He may be selfish, or he may simply have a different perception of the situation. Try not to accuse, but do ask what his thinking is on the subject. It may reveal a reason you can live with, or it may reveal that he's just being a cold-hearted miser. If you keep your cool, then he has no excuse to lose his.
Good luck.
2007-08-22 17:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if they live there, use the utilities, and eat the food, then they should be helping out. If they arent it seems more like they are using you. Even though my name is the only one on our lease, my girlfriend helps pay the rent and also pays some of the bills, we switch off buying groceries, and other expenses. Since we are both living here we both help out with whatever needs to get paid for. When i was in college and had an apt with one of my friends again only my name was on the lease and we both paid for whatever bills needed to be paid for. I dont see why this is in lesbian gay or transgender for i am none of these but this should pretain to anyone.
2007-08-22 08:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by craig 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If two people are living together then yes each person should help out.
But you stated this person is just at your house,How often?
If shes there all the time then it makes since to maybe just live together.
As far as asking her to pay anything,no you shouldnt have to do that,she should know if she need to contribute,and if you feel as tho shes living off of you or using you in any type way then i say talk to her and bring it to her attention.
2007-08-22 09:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by tx_rainbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to drop into a conversation how much your struggling with bills and stuff and see what there reaction is... if it was my friend i would jump at the change to help them out if i could at least this way you'll know for sure if there a good friend or knot
2007-08-22 08:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately ask for some money from them... What is wrong with there house? I think that if they are not willing to contribute, you need to start hanging at there house and eating there food and see if they don't feel the same. You are working way to hard in your life to have someone mooching off of you!
2007-08-22 08:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's selfish not to help with the bills you help accumulate. This person is a loser, get rid of him, and thank God you aren't married to him, it would only get worse. He's free loading off you, let him spend his time at his house and pay his own freaking bills.
2007-08-22 08:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl God and family 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think no matter how much time you spend at someones home you are still a guest. If you don't want to host then either don't have them over or go to thier home. Sharing in bills is the responsability of a roomate, not a guest. This is assuming they are there to enjoy your company, not to freeload. However your guest should have the courtesy to pick up after thierself. My oppinion anyway.
2007-08-22 08:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes I think the person should help you out. When my other half comes over he will sometimes being something for us to eat or we go out to eat. I do the same thing with him. Relationships should be 50/50. If one truly cares, you shouldn't have to ask they should do it automatically.
2007-08-22 08:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by gizmoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that does make them selfish you are 100% right in suggesting that they help pay the bills especially if they are using electricity and contributing to the bills adding up they should pay their way..
If they are eating your food they should pay their way for that too..
2007-08-22 08:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋