I'm really shy by nature & work within a place of several , 6 of whom i work with closely and the rest is the "pleasant acknowledgment" but thats all. because i'm shy i feel insecure at times about being boring and being left out. the others are 7+ years older than me (i'm 23) yet sometimes act like theyre 16 and i dont really wish to join in. however theres one girl who is always sarcastic to me and has upset others as well as myself. in the end i sit at my desk, work and keep to myself because i dont like this girl much and when i do try, she is mean or simply pretends i'm not there. another worker acknowledges me but wont bother having much to do with me, am i giving off the impression i am there to work and thats all? i want to make friends with them but this one cow has to be centre of attention and being shy i end up alone and left out from "coffee breaks" etc as i choose to keep to myself and not put up with her rubbish. the others are wary of her but still want to be around her
2007-08-22
00:57:07
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Ava G
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sorry if that didnt make sense. but basically i'm asking whether i should let this get to me or just continue on working and make friends with fellow work mates if they want to. I mean I am getting close to one lady who is down to earth, fun and easy to talk to but when shes not there, 3 of the others join together and it seems like the cow is out to rub it in my face that they will have lunch together and i'm not invited. this may not be the case but i feel they can be rude and i worry that i am giving the impression that i dont want to be around them. in a way i dont, while the cow is carrying on but i do like the others and dont want to push them away if they are interested in being more friendly rather than just talking about our clients etc. we work in a professional role and i understand we need some free and fun time but i take it so personally that i'm not invited to join in and blame myself for being so boring that i dont know how to fix it now.. ideas based on that ramble?!
2007-08-22
01:00:13 ·
update #1