I'm 19 and Iranian. My culture has a pretty strong grip on some of my relatives. They live in a Iranian community so they feel a sense of belonging and have confidence in who they are. I don't know what is good and bad anymore. I'm considered unintelligent by the majority of the people I meet. I don't have confidence, running ow on fuel, I'm just confused. Things use to be great for me. I acted intelligent, rational, and organized. Now it's he complete opposite. It seems that the more I grow up, the more out of focus my life is. My Iranian family can not understand why I interpret the world the way I do. They just think I'm stupid and I don't know any better. I live in a different state than them. Maybe I am. Could be true. I just don't know.
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I don't know who to compare myself to or whom to look for advice. Maybe I should listen and be more patient.
2007-08-22 00:37:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dude, don't compare yourself to ANYONE. dare to be different.
BE DIFFERENT!
I highly doubt you're stupid. You may be stupid for listening to them. Just don't be normal. It's boring. Trust me. I've tried. Twice.
2007-08-22 00:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by fanny bandits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question of what is good or bad can be answered by asking "who suffers by my actions or words"
In any culture I believe that to be the case. If you to contribute to anothers' suffering then that would rob you of your confidence and your dignity in a short time.
As for being normal the word itself suggests a rather mundane existence one day the same as the next. Know whats good and bad and act accordingly, you don't have to be normal to do that; strive to be better than normal.Force yourself into projects that will enhance your view of yourself without listening to anothers judgement about how you should behave to be normal because normality is not what you are looking for... its something beyond that which only you can find. Eat better food and take vitamins if you feel yourself low on energy, what feeds the body also feeds the mind. If the people in your scenario reject you as being unintelligent try to associate with people that will respect your views.You won't have too look far beyond yourself to see who you really are
Whats your dream hobby?
GO DO IT
Doing stuff you simply enjoy doing will make you feel a whole lot better about yourself.
Hope that
helps you
2007-08-22 08:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Stupidity Personified 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that people do not think that you are intelligent then you are probably going to have low self confidence. You should do something to make you feel that you are intelligent. That self confidence will make other people think about you the same way you do. And that can drive you to have a happier life as you get older.
2007-08-22 07:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being yourself can be very hard sometimes. You should believe in yourself, even when everybody around you, even your family disagrees with what you do. I am not saying not to take any of their advice, but think and act for yourself. It's not special to any country where people are ok with doing boring jobs and care only about money, getting married and having kids and get going. You seem to be one of these people who sense that there's something more to this life. It will not be easy to discover it, but I'm sure you'll be OK. Remember, we believe in Islam that God speaks through Prophets. God also speaks to you through our instinct, your inner voice. Trust it.
2007-08-22 07:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by AtakanK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questioning the world and our lives is, at least in my opinion, is one of the most intelligent things I can think of. Look at the great tradition of thinkers who have challenged society, shaken foundations and demonstrated age old established thought as wrong or outdated...
2007-08-22 07:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wumpus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having different views and ideas on things is what makes us unique! Trying to find oneself is an on going mission that never ends! Don't worry about what everyone thinks, because you'll end up not satisfying anyone! You should define yourself as HUMAN!!!
2007-08-22 08:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Amy ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in America i would think its called depression and with allt he bad comments made to you if you'd go see doctor and get the meds to help you would see you are being ok. each person has an ability to think and learn and be smart and i am sure that you are. its sad when someone puts down their own family i do notunderstand or can understand your country buttry this and mabye it will help you get thorugh and straighten out. goo dluck
2007-08-25 23:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comparing yourself to someone else is silly. you have the ability to be original and yourself. enjoy your difference it is a gift from a higher power. well who are u??? you are yourself. go out and show the world!
2007-08-22 07:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋