Do you find it disturbing that religious people?

Question

will often say things such as "earthly relationships are nothing compared to what we will have in heaven" and "as long as you put God first in your marriage it will all work out" I just find it creepy because I don't want to love anybody more than I love my family. I cannot imagine wanting to please a God more than to please my children and my husband, I love them so much I would rather have an 'earthly' relationship with them and put them first for my entire life. If you ARE religious could you explain to me if this is all literal? If you had to choose between God and your children who would you put first?

I'm sorry but the first answer I don't really understand?

I am the opposite of this, if heaven exists I will gladly give up my chance to go there if I would have to love a God more than my own family. And I wouldn't want to go to heaven if I do not have my family there with me in the end

Answer 1

God loved us first, and His love is greater than anything we could ever give back. God loved us so that he sacrificed His own Son for our sakes. Would you do that with one of your children? Think about it... that shows undying love and commitment...

We must put God above all things. Because God's love is greater than the love of anyone else. God's wisdom is greater than that of anyone else's. And God, who controls all things, always does what is best for all of us.

Jesus said, " 37"Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it."

response: God is your family....He is your Heavenly Father. And truly only when you put Him first, do you put the rest of your family first too.

Answer 2

Here's how I interpret it, at least as far as my marriage. And you never specified not to use Bible quotes, but I will still try to keep them at a minimum.

God is the manifestation of love... Christianity uses God as the baseline to define love. I Corinthians 13 gives a great definition of what love is.

I can best explain it if you draw a picture:
Draw a small circle in the center of a piece of paper--this small circle is God's love. Now draw a larger circle that covers almost the whole page. Pick any two points on that circle--those two points are you and your spouse.

Now you can draw a line from one of those points in any direction, and a line from the other point in any direction. As long as those lines aren't parallel, they'll eventually connect somewhere. But the most love on the piece of paper is in that small circle in the middle--God's love. If the two lines cross there, they will be experiencing the most love of all.

I know that this is kind of a cheesy example, but it should help you understand the idea.

And a common misconception of non-Christians is that we are to please God before our families, when in fact we please God in part by the very act of pleasing our families. Many of these verses that are misinterpreted as oppressive to females actually teach these lessons.

For instance Ephesians 5:21-6:10 gives examples of how a wife is to treat a husband, a husband treat a wife, a parent their child, and a slave his master / master his slave (contemporarily signifacant of a employer & employee). By doing these things, spouses, parents, children, etc... please God.

In short, as long as we put God in the center, we are both aiming for the same target. We don't have to worry about pleasing the other, and will not have to fear putting one above the other, since their objective is the same as ours.

Answer 3

I don't think thats something your supposed to choose from, I would think that would prevent a relationship from having the full love for each other. God is in heaven(by their terms) not on earth. To suggest to someone that their love on earth is nothing but a precursor to heaven is the thoughts of somebody who doesn't know what true love is. They can exist side by side don't put god before your wife that is foolish and belittling.

Answer 4

When Christians say, "Earthly relationships are nothing compared to what we will have in Heaven," they're putting the fictional construct of Heaven above God. Which is to say, they're committing idolatry.

The whole harps and clouds scenario is popular mythology. It's folk religion--not Biblically based Christianity.

Basically, people who believe they'll be reunited with their loved ones and see all their dead pets when they die are like children who believe in Santa Claus. (Santa Claus isn't in the Bible either.)

Answer 5

God created perfect love and from Him is where we derive our love from. He is our source of what love is. If we do not place Him first, then we cannot truly love in the spiritual sense or the earthly sense. Not sure if that clarifies a Christians belief or not, but I hope so!

Answer 6

It doesn't matter who they would put first sweety. You obviously do not follow their beliefs, and that is okay. You know what direction your heart needs to go in, follow it. And never mind people that insult, degrade or put you down because of it. In the end, if they truly 100% believed what they preached, they wouldn't do such things.

Answer 7

Call me naive, but I didn't realize that religious people experienced love. I'm going to try to fit that in my head now. It's not that it's too big to fit in my head; just a little awkward.

Answer 8

I fully well appreciate your sane approach to values . Hope your good sense wears off on some of the deluded pie in the sky superstitious believers for their own good.

Answer 9

The church just promotes that, so they can control ppl better.
The ppl that fall for it, will feel like their doing it
(giving money or whatever the church wants them to do) for god, (no matter what their family says).

Answer 10

Put it this way, they are brainwashed to think the imaginary sky daddy is the reason why they live and the reason why they die. Similar to the cultist.