My parents are divorced (and have been for a couple years), and recently I realized that I didn't have enough clothes at my dad's house, so I told him. He said he'll take me shopping for clothes this Fri.
The thing is, I hate my dad and don't want to go clothes shopping with him for that reason, and the fact that I can't ask him if something looks good on me (he's a guy for one thing--no offense to guys--and he has a horrible sense of fashion, IMO).
What should I do? Should I ask to go shopping with my mom (who has a great fashion sense) instead (although I'd worry that he'd feel kinda hurt by this), or see if I can convince him to let me go shopping on my own (or with friends)?
FYI: My dad doesn't know I hate him, and neither does my mom. But my friends know.
2007-08-21 21:27:17 · 21 answers · asked by Soccer Lover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His personality drives me crazy; so much that I try and avoid him.
Maybe "hate" is a bit harsh, but I really really dislike him. And I have friends who have said (when I tell them about how my dad has been getting on my nerves) "It seems like you hate your dad."
Also, I never really talk about my dad with my mom, and vice-versa, so I don't see how they could know. And I think at some point my dad may have thought I didn;t like him, but I managed to convince him otherwise.
2007-08-21 21:38:19 · update #1
We agreed to go clothes shopping a few days ago, so I can't really say "Oh, I'm already going shopping with some friends." Or do you mean that I should say something like "Some of my friends are going clothes shopping on Fri., so can I just go with them?"
I visit him and have clothes at house b/c I live half the time with him at his house, and the other half with my mom at her house.
I'm worried about hurting him b/c I still have to live him with till college, and he's my dad, and part of me is like "Can I really hate my dad?"
2007-08-21 21:55:35 · update #2
Why do you hate your father so much? What did he do to deserve that?
It's okay to let him take you shopping, but it's also okay for you to treat your father like that? Your father is trying, at least you can give him that... Don't be a brat, it doesn't make you look cool. You sound disobedient.
If you must have female advise, then ask your dad if you can take one of your closest friends along. -That is if you cannot decide for yourself what looks good. -Good luck.
2007-08-29 09:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
babysitting would be the way to go. I would suggest posting some signs down at your local grocery store. About your sister not paying you then next time she asks you tell her that you need some extra money and if she could really spare some that you would be very appreciative. If your dad could give you that $20 you could make it go along way. You will have to shop at a different store. However you said that you live in a small town. maybe you could ask a shop keeper if they need any part time help so that you could earn some extra money. I would learn how to sew if you can.. I would help you but I don't know how. That way if you could sew you could start making your own cloths out of common house hold items. I know it may sound weird but imagine if you become really good at it that you would have all these awesome cloths. Then further down the road you may want to go into Fashion design. That would be great. Keep your chin up. Try sewing and using those too bhig cloths and make them into something new
2016-05-19 21:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times we do things that we don't like. But you need to understand that if you hate him. It does not mean you could not get along. If you don't want to go shopping with your dad go shopping with a friend. Choose the cloths and the style you like. Then take your dad to buy the cloths that you already tried on. This way you will not hurt your dad feelings and you get to buy exactly what you want and like.
2007-08-29 15:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you hate your dad? I think that's a bit harsh. I bet he knows more than you think and is ignoring it. Your mom likely knows too. Try to find some common ground. And, if you hate a parent it's like hating yourself. You have to either learn to at least like him as a person. He's taking care of you at least.
I see you answered my question about my parent letting me down.
So, I'll tell you why I feel the way I do. You're young and you still have a chance. Years ago my dad wanted to buy me clothes, etc. Now, he barely knows I'm alive. With me it's hard since we use to be close. But, I don't know your situation. I just wish I hadn't taken that time for granted. Since, I think if I had been different. Maybe the relationship would exist now. But, maybe it's nothing I did and just the way my dad is.
2007-08-21 21:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by 354gr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you hate your dad so much, why do you go visit him, have clothes at his house?
Sounds like you are happy to take his money for clothes, but not participate in the shopping activity. If you want him to buy you clothes, go out with him. You must have some idea of what suits you or not, worst thing that happens is you have to return some stuff.
And why are you worried about hurting someone who you hate?
2007-08-21 21:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your dad if you can bring a friend along to make sure the clothes look good together. So you can have two different opinions about your outfits. If he is not up for that ask him if one of your friend can meet you there. He may want to go to dinner with just you after shopping.So check to see if he is trying to set up some father/daughter time.
2007-08-29 06:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Billie Jo R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. You should probably tell your dad you love him but women shop together, not dads. Go with your mom. Your dad is doing the right thing buy wanting to go with you. He cares otherwise he would just lit you go. He probably dosen't approve of a nice young girl wearing stuff that makes em look like a ho. I am a dad of 5 women. I don't want my daughters looking like hos' and I don't want men looking at them and dreaming. I am a guy remember. I let my wife supervise.
Good luck.
2007-08-29 18:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off! I understand that you hate your dad, but if he's willing too take you clothes shopping, cut him some slack.Maybe ask him if a friend can come along with you when you go shopping with your dad! Remember something you only have one Dad! So stop acting like a brat and try to put your feelings aside for one minute. Be glad, that your dad is trying to do something nice for you! My daughter's father doesn't do anything for her!
2007-08-29 04:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by criminal_justice2007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not very nice of you to say that. Being a father is not as simple as what you think.
I strongly believe that your father is trying to compensate you with something for what you have lost.
Honestly, ask yourself this question, what is you dad position in your heart? Usualy people will put their dad on the lowest deck of the list. Friends will be 1st, follow by mother & etc.
As for your question, you can nicely inform your dad that you already have a groups of friends which are going out for shopping. Like that, it may hurt your dad abit but not to the extents like digging out his heart from his body.
2007-08-21 21:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by john y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to perpetuate a negative emotion and the developmental anchor that it will be on your life, be the pioneer and better the relationship you have with your dad. Sure, he has a terrible sense of fashion, but have you made any attempts to teach him? None of us are born with an education - we learn along the way. Give your dad a break, forgive him for his errors (you'll seek forgiveness, one day). He, like you, is only human.
2007-08-21 21:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by thequeenofthesilverdollar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋