i've been friends with this guy for over 6 months. about 2 months ago, we fell out of touch wit each other and then suddenly he called me about 2 weeks ago and we started talkin again. he's soon to be 27 and i'm 20 (not that age matters to me). but he invited me over for a cookout with him and his mom (who doesn't live with him) at his own house last sunday (aug. 12). it was so amazing, we were laughing and talking and pickin on each other like we were never apart! after that i've been going over there EVERY night for the past 2 weeks mainly just to hang out and have fun. then about a week ago, as we were pickin on each other like usual, we started to wrestle, and then he kept inchin closer to my face... he ended up kissin me and things went further. we've been "together" like that for the past week and he asked me to come over last night and i did, he was super cuddly with me and always wanting to hug me and whatever and it was so sweet.
2007-08-21 19:02:20 · 7 answers · asked by Proud mommy of Logan! <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he had 2 go 2 work this mornin' at 6am and he wanted me 2 stay and wait till he came home on his break. when he came home, he was not cuddly at all... we picked on each other a bit, but he didn't try to kiss me or hug me like he was last night. because of this, i've been getting mixed messages. one minute i think he wants to date me and then another min. i feel he just wants friends with benefits (which doesn't completely bother me, but i'd prefer 2 date).
my question... after this huge story (lol) is do u think we're dating, or just messin round?
should i ask him if he wants to officially date or keep it a secret? (cuz his mom 100% adores me--i'm gonna be in her wedding in the fall--but my guy and i are still hiding it.) he asked me today if his ma knew bout us... the "us" makes me think we're a real couple... but i'm just not sure...
ugh.... sorry for ranting... i just want to know what we are... he is the perfect guy and the 1 i've always wanted... any help is great! ;)
2007-08-21 19:07:36 · update #1
i guess i should add that he is in the process of divorcing his ex right now... they've been separated for months now and will be final in nov. maybe that has something to do with why i'm getting mixed signs from him.... he is way over her and i don't have to worry bout him going back with her, and he and i never did nething b4 they broke up.... but part of me wonders if the divorce has something to do with his actions towards me.
he also has said to me in the past that he is too old for me and i 100% do NOT agree with him! i've told him that age doesn't matter with me and that he's not the old guy he thinks he is... i think he's coming around to that, but i just don't know... ugh! :) lol
2007-08-21 19:31:17 · update #2
Awww you poor thing, I can just imagine the whirlwind your emotions are in right now. Take it from someone who's been there a few times...NEVER take for granted that you're dating unless he's asked you to be his girlfriend. In my experience, if he hasn't asked and you assume you are, it may scare him off track and he'll start his "avoidance" w/you. I'd keep it low key til you can talk to him about it. If he's unsure, ask him what all the messing around was about..if he's just wanting a FWB or what. Guys don't bring girls around their moms unless they're either 1...a g/f or 2, they're
just a buddy. You have a right to know b4 you get too emotionally attached and he gets spooked by it.
Keep us informed of what happens lol, I'd like to know the outcome.
Good luck hon, I really hope it works out for you and that he's just being shy or doesn't know how to approach the subject.
2007-08-21 19:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by aweety69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really likes you but he obviously doesn't have a clue how to take you OUT on a date. You better straighten him out real quick or he will think this behavior is OK with you and soon you will wish you were really "dating" someone at your age-it is really nice and fun to be taken out on the town and shown a good time and to be treated like a "lady" - not just a gal pal to make out with. That gets old after a while.
2007-08-22 02:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a break. He may have had a bad day at work. If he asked you to wait for him until he got home, there is a good sign that he feels more for you than just sex.
2007-08-22 02:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me .. don't sit there fantasizing and let your feelings escalate without being sure that your feelings (not just the physical ones) are being reciprocated. Ask him point blankly ... what are we doing? - are we together now or are we just having fun as close friends... when you ask make sure you're not on the defensive and if you're ok with just being friends with benefits then let him know that but don't settle for that if that's not what you want :) - Good luck
2007-08-22 02:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should keep talking with him and hangout out and stuff,and i am a guy and am thinking like a guy he just needs some space sometimes girls want us to commit to early like if we have handcuffs on us so just just the guy a little space and he will be all over you, i have been thru something like that before
2007-08-22 02:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by ebocka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you would be dating but then again men think differently than us woman do, you may want to ask him and just see what he says.
2007-08-22 02:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he said "us" I would assume that he considers it dating, but I would ask him sometime when you two are actually being serious.
2007-08-22 02:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Living in BFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋