my mother wont let me do anything i cant go out, she wont let me have a boyfriend, she wont let me go over my?

Question

friends house unless she talk 2 they parents and other people cant come 2 my house the only reason we can talk is on the phone or in school thats it she get really mad easy how can i tell her all of these things without her getin mad and hurtin her feelings but if i really really want 2 tell her whats on my mind she wont talk 2 me 4 a year i just want 2 tell her whats on my mind she really is sweet she buys me everything 1 want i am spoiled she dont know that i feel this way should i tell her or wait but everytime when she do something i dont like i get mad 2 but i forgive her when i am over it ilove her i will never do anything 2 hurt her she is my life but she still teats me like a baby and its not cool at all i cant talk 2 any1 else about it

Answer 1

She is protecting you, and it sounds as if you are still at the age that you need it.

Answer 2

Talk to your mother, ask her why she has restrictions on you. But do it in a nice calm way. You may have a better understanding on why she is so protective of you. Talking to the parents of your friends is pretty common among parents. Ask your mother what it is that she is fearful of, and be prepared to tell her the truth on how you would react if compromising situations come up. Be honest and stick to what you say, do not lose her trust. If you say you will call at a certain time, do it, if you say you will be home at a certain time, do it. It sounds like you are still quite young, so give your mother a chance. She loves you and really has your best interest at heart, even though you may not understand it now. You're going to have to make your mother know that you make good choices and once she feels secure in that, she may lighten up. Keep in mind that her decisions are not always based on you, she may have questions about whomever it is that your friends as well. Be open and honest and hopefully your mother will gain some comfort in giving you some time away from home. Good luck!

Answer 3

Sweetie you sound like your still really young. Your mom sounds like shes just trying to protect you from things that your not ready for. If you really want to talk to her about it then one day just ask her if you can talk to her about something. Tell her that there are some things that are bothering you and that you wanted to know if you could confide in her without her getting upset. Assure her its nothing bad, but that you have concerns about her not giving you the freedom you think that you deserve. Prepare yourself and come up with good and REASONABLE reason to why you believe you should be allowed to date, go out, see your friends, ect. Ask her if you could do more on your own. If she gives you more freedom that you have to keep her trust don't go out and do something stupid. She might not let you do everything you want and you have to be ok with that because its a compromise. You give some and she will give some back. If she still thinks that you are to young for some things like dating shes probably right. You must approach your mom like an adult and not have a tantrum if you don't get what you want because that shows you are still immature. Also don't make it sound like shes doing things wrong because that will make her become defensive. Use the worse "me" and "I" a lot and avoid saying "you" because if you are putting things more on yourself she won't see it as an attack and you will be less likely to hurt her feelings. Good luck.

Answer 4

No one wants to hear this (I don't either) but your still young, so am I and we make mistakes ::big offender:: People can affect that too. Your moms trying to protect you. Honestly the best thing I think is if you tell her how you feel up front and calmly. no screaming or shouting, just say " Mom I know I'm young but I'd like a little more freedom with....... and .... But don't argue keep bringing it up nicely and it should go over well. She'll see your grown up by the way you aproached it. also the Alice is allowed to sort of stuff doesn't work.

Answer 5

you sound very close and that is a good thing. to last a lifetime. i know you understand your mom loves you and is trying to protect you from getting hurt! it might seem she is working against you, but i'm sure she's not..she is just scared..of your growing up and trying things and it IS scarey to think someone you love might get in trouble. so she is trying to control things so that can't happen.
you need to understand and respect that she has rules - these rules are made for your safety. (i have a lot of the same rules cause i work and can't BE there always for my daughter)
SHE needs to understand that you need to have some growing responsibility. a little at a time, she needs to relax some rules a few at a time and you show her you can be responsible..one step at a time until you are independant.
it takes both of you. you can't get full blown freedom all at once AND you need to prove to her that she can trust you with the values she instilled in you.
tip: talk to her when things are calm, not when her mind is busy with all sorts of other stuff.

Answer 6

My mom was the same way. She was really strict. but after she heard my point of view, she started understanding. If you tell her, she'll see your view and she might be able to understand you better and loosen up. Your mom can't read your mind and always know what you are thinking and how you are feeling, so help her understand. If she doesnt understand, you must konw she is treating you like your still her baby girl because she loves you so and can't accept you growing up. Growing up means growing apart, which might scare her a bit. Let her know that she'll always be your mom no matter what and you'll always love her. and that she can trust you not to do anything stupid out there, and that she taught you well and taught you good judgement. =)

Answer 7

Your question was so all over that place it was hard to tell what you were even asking.
You're gonna have to sit her down an tell her that you aren't a baby anymore. Tell her that you know she is trying to protect you but her actions make you feel like she doesn't trust you. Keep your head and whatever happens don't yell or roll your eyes or say "but that's not fair!" You're trying to show your mom that your mature and be trusted. If she get mad, her you just wanted her to know how you felt, then walk away. Good luck.

Answer 8

You don't say how old you are, however your writing is that of someone who is very young. Your mother is just doing her job as a mother and taking care of you - and doing a fine job of it, too!

When you are:
1) over 18
2) living on your own
3) supporting yourself
then you can do what you want (all three are equally important). Until then, mom is supporting you and she gets to set the rules and you get to follow the rules without whining.

Answer 9

Your mom has a point. If you get a boyfriend you might get pregnant and are you really old enough to take on the challenging task of looking after a baby? It will all happen in time just be patient!

Answer 10

first question, how old are you ? if you are a minor she has every right to look out for you, it may seem she still thinks of you as a child but if you're a minor than that is what you are, don't worry, the world will still be here when it's time for you to fly the nest, most important is "stay in school"

Answer 11

How old are you? Your mother is too over protected to you. Are you the only daughter? My mom is also like that but not that worse. Maybe she won't be too strict once you grow up. Just be patient.