Help with my little girl going with her dad!?

Question

my litlle girls dad doesnt look after her like a dad should, she goes with him 3 weekends out of the month, now I have tryed so many time to get welfare 2 go 2 his house because of the state the house is in, EG: you would not what 2 use the toilet or the bathroom sink cas it is that dirty youd rather wash your hand inthe loo!!! He doesnt feed her right, she comes home after been there and has so much t2 eat its not funnie, nearly very time she comes back she has cuts and saws over her, I ask him what happen and he just goes "I dont know".
She sleeps in the same bedroom as him, which i understand because he lives with his parents BUt he smoke POT in the same room as her and always has his mates int he room to while shes trying to sleep! I know all this becuase he lived with me for 6months when our daughter was born, Ive tryed going to court but dont have $3000 so he can see her during the day. all welfare said to me is that theyll help if she is put in hospital or dead! HELP PLZ

I ran out of room please no smart answers or silly answer, Im trying to work out what i can do to help my daughter to grow up better and not get hurt or die while in her fathers care!

and sorry if anything is spelt worng or doesnt make sence!

I have tryed calling the police over 15 times, but no they had one look at him and said hes fine stop wasting our time!!

his mum and step dad are not to blame there never there when she is with him, he doesnt do anything to help clean, his mum is always drunk, she had her two kids taking of her when they were young, so it is his fault because he doesnt look after her!!!

shes 14 months old and i have asked him so so many times to stop doing what he does around her and you now what he said in front of my lawer, I need to have a pot to help me sleep when shes around me!!! how s*** is that!! I do take photos of everythi9ng that happen to her!

Answer 1

This is what makes me soooo mad that a child that could be at risk for danger and they wont do anything but my ex mother in law calls and makes up things and they come out and try to make a case.

I would try calling a legal aid lawyer, try getting a paralegal to help out with the paperwork and represent yourself.

I would keep calling if these things are really happening. I mean if you are just being mean , then step back let him be a dad.
I would write in a journal every time you call , and who you spoke with. Take pictures of before she goes and when she comes home, make sure you are having a non bias person witsness these pictures and marks on her.

I would try to borrow and beg for any money that you can get to fight in court.

Answer 2

When you KNOW he's smoking pot, call the POLICE! Have THEM contact Social Services! I agree with some of the other answers as well...have others make anonymous complaints. You need to TAKE PICTURES of her anytime she comes home with ANY type of injury! How old is the child? Is she old enough to tell you what happens? You should probably be concerned about possible sexual abuse as well as the physical abuse. Hmmm...maybe you should tell the grand parents that you've going to send the police to her house the next time your little girl comes home injured! Two more things: Depending on what state you live in, there are usually attorney networks that do some pro bono cases when it comes to children. Also, in a few states, if you do decide to send the police to the grand parents house, they are required, by law, to report it to Social Services if there is a minor present in a home that has illegal activities going on. As far as Child Services saying they'd only help if she was hospitalized or dead, if that's what they said, then the next time you talk to them, ask for a supervisor and if that doesn't work, you need to tell them that the next person you will contact is your state's attorney general to file a complaint on THEM! You need to do whatever it takes to keep that child out of harm's way!

Answer 3

Oh boy. I'm sorry that this is happening. You may have stayed with the guy just to keep an eye on him as a father. I'm not joking.

Anyway, I guess if his parents are clean people. Ask if they could help get him to clean a bit more. Ask him nicely if he could clean more. Send, the "how clean is your house" Lady's to his house.

I would ask to use his bathroom one day. And, clean it while your in there.

I just can stand unclean bathrooms! Anyway, about the smoking you may have to send the law after him to get it to stop. But, I don't think that's advisable. Just talk to him. See if he will agree to stop. Since, she's going to get older and then she will know what he is doing.

Be sure to stay away from guys like this if you plan to have more kids. Look for clean neat non smoker non drinker non drug users and not anything else.

Maybe also ask if your daughter's father would agree to day only visits since he lacks the housing for watching properly.

There is only one answer if you want purely serious answers. Keep calling child protective services and the police if you really want change.

I don't know he must live in a community that is overrun with problems. Because, in most places they would do something.

Answer 4

You need to stay right on top of child protective services. Another thing you can do is have your local police go over there to check out the situation that she is in when she is over there. Tell them that you are in fear for her welfare and they will do what they call a "welfare check" to see if she is ok and what kind of environment she is in. This can be documented by a police report and that will definetly help you when the CPS gets into it.

Answer 5

Find out if you have legal aid in your country as most countries do have them. They can take on your case free of charge. If you have full custody and he is not paying maintenence you have a very strong case. If he is paying maintenence it will be hard for you to stop granting him visiting rights but you can suggest only daily or supervised visits. The fact that he smokes pot gives you a very strong case. Best of luck

Answer 6

you need to not contact welfare but child protective services and really it is best if someone else calls them. The more reports they get the better. When it is the other parent they don't take it as serious because of custody issues but when other people start saying stuff they start looking into it.

Answer 7

First of all what a load of **** that you need pot to help you sleep. Doing that crap should make Children services take her from you too. Clean up your act.

Second. Are there not lawyers where you live that work pro bono for low income earners. You need to look into this.

Answer 8

Since he lives with his parents I would put a lot of the blame on them. this is their grand child and they are not making sure she is safe and protected and are living in an unsafe house.

Call social services on them, not your ex. Also you might call welfare on him in regards to the pot. Tell the court you refuse to send her there because of the condition of the hose and that there are illegal drugs in the house..

Answer 9

I would keep calling welfare everyday she is with him and make a report. Maybe one day they will take their butts over there and check it out. Good luck and I hope your daughter is safe!

Answer 10

if you really want welfare services to visit his home then make an annomus call. If that doesn't work have your friends and family do it.