Parent been living in basement of our house, lives 6 month of the year in RV in south. We added running water down in basement, had own fridge, used bathroom upstair was trusted with freely moving throgh house. Recently gave written notice living situation no longer tolerable and can't talk to him with out him flying into a rage of anger that we are later accusing us (of family) of attacking him. we came to find he'd taken off in his RV, towing his car, leaving much of his stuff behind and no notice of his intentions. Paid us rent for about 2 yrs. No written lease agreemnt. Can we dispose of his things left behind (probably take them to storage, carefully packed)? the idea is so he can pick them up at a neutral spot as we believe he could be violent. Before took of we'd been walking around our own home with video camera, tired of being blamed for HIS outbursts. We want to change locks as he's already taken &/or damaged some of our things
2007-08-21 18:18:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You had a verbal retal agreement, month to month since he paid you. Legally, you are responsible for his belongings and you can not dispose of them, but you can take them to a storage unit. Send hima certified letter to the other address you are aware of, letting him know what you have done with his property, and how to contact you to retrieve it.
Yes, you can change the locks.
2007-08-21 18:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has gone off his rocker. He really needs medical evaluation. There are drug combinations and illnesses that can cause this. He is likely not only dangerous to your family, but to himself as well.
Yes, change out the locks... get the good ones that can't be bumped.
Yes, get his stuff out of the house. Store them for a few months to allow him time to collect them, and if he doesn't show up in a reasonable amount of time, you get rid of them. Donate them.
You may have to file some kind of notice with the police... perhaps a restraining order.
2007-08-22 01:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change those locks immediately, then pack up his stuff and put it in a storage unit. If he contacts you, meet him at the storage unit office to turn over the key and have the storage unit agreements switched to his name. That way, you're not alone with him, you're there with the unit manager.
This guy is obviously a danger to you, your family, and your property. Do not feel guilty removing him from your life.
2007-08-22 01:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack the stuff and put it in storage. Send a certified letter to him tell him where the stuff is and he has to pick it up by such and such date. This way your only paying one month storage. This will cover you legally...Just make sure the letter is sent certified.
Change the locks.
2007-08-22 01:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put them in a storage buliding for 6 months and then depose of them or give it to the salvation army or goodwill.........also get a protection order from the courts......too bad they are destroying the family net...........God bless
2007-08-22 01:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by cecstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋