Guys, if you are in a relationship and you really love your gf but you know that you are not the type who will ever make a commitment for the long term, would you leave her now better than later. My bf and I are really great together, I love him so much but he says that coz he loves me, he doesnt wanna hurt me because the more we are together the more I love him everyday. He would be ok if we break up now or after 10 years but he knows that Im the one who will be dead for that. Whenever we talk about this I start crying and he freaks out when I cry coz it breaks his heart so we end up pending the issue. I don't want commitment now but sure I will want to have a family one day. He will never want that coz simply he doesnt care, I know he is very selfish but I really love him. I don't know if I should leave him now? how can I be friends with the only man I really loved, he wants us to be friends if we broke up but isnt this too much?
2007-08-21 17:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I knew this about him before and I broke up with him once for the same reason BUT after a while he insisted on us getting back together, and said that he wants to be with me coz he loved me. I know I shouldn't have said yes again but I love him I can not resist him, although getting over him once was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but now its even harder. And I know he doesnt love me enough the way I love him.
2007-08-21 18:15:33 · update #1
Hi Eve, I feel your pain but the truth is if he won't ever commit to you, then you really don't have him. In my opinion it is emotional suicide to get involved with someone who doesn't ever plan to commit and settle down. The thing is, you should have asked him what his long term plans were before you got your heart tangled up in it. Now even if you knew you needed to break up with him, it would be extreeeeeemly difficult since you're hooked on the guy. You have to be really careful who you give your heart to. Hope this helps! God bless
2007-08-21 18:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes no matter how much you love someone, it just doesn’t work. This guy might be the one that changes you in leaps and bounds. He has changed you and you are no longer the same person that you were in the beginning on the relationship. I think you have already started to let go of this, but you are hung up on the person you used to me. That person is dead, and now you are reborn. You need to leave him, and grow. Define yourself, and let him grow as well. Chin up!
2007-08-21 17:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Busty Mcgee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're moving much faster then he's ready to.
The more you freak out, the more he probably feels suffocated. Ease up a lot! Take things one step at a time, and see where it leads. If he still feels like this later, and you're sure you know what you want (or don't) then you need to move on.
2007-08-21 17:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems like you better try to shift your heart to someone elses....I know its hard to do and easier to be said, but you HAVE to try, otherwise you have to sacrifice your happiness and your lifetime waiting for the uncertainty. Show your GIRL POWER! =)
think again, was it really love or just lust or just simply scared of being alone. Trust yourself that you deserve someone who give back the love to you... Good luck.
2007-08-21 18:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by PELANGI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though you shouldn't be his girlfriend or his friend. You are on different emotional wavelengths and you have different values and life goals. You need to find someone who will cherish the woman you are. He says he cannot. So walk away. Fast.
2007-08-21 18:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by treebird 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only time can tell. You are both happy now.. so why worry about the future?
2007-08-21 17:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by neverdugdisco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you sound like my bro's ex Gf, well you have to give him his space. what are you like in your teens and you are already talking about having kids with him and stuff, that would freak me out too. so don't pressure him so much
2007-08-21 17:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋