anyone with any info for me as a fiancee from boot camp and what to expect to his first station (we plan to wait until at least after boot camp till we get married), when he gets his orders and how long he may be at sea after boot camp and A school would be WONDERFUL... I am trying very hard to be supportive, especially after a difficult week and him potentially wanting to go Navy (which due to my anxiety attacks and a very unprofessional recruiter, we both decided against)
2007-08-21 17:38:09 · 6 answers · asked by Nikki E 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Take your time. He is going to be extremely busy - he will be under a lot of pressure just to get through basic training. If he gets a school, more waiting time.
If you two decide to get married - actually at anytime during his service - please be prepared to do everything without him. That includes taking care of the bills, the packers and movers, the missing items from the household goods shipment. If you move into any area without a military medical facility, be prepared to do battle with that function - TRICARE. The problems with the banks, credit card companies, any and everything that can go wrong. Please be prepared to feel angst; anger at him and the Coast Guard, depressed because he isn't there and things are falling down around you; and pressure because there is too much month left at the end of the money.
I am not trying the dissuade you from getting married, but you have to look at the ENTIRE picture. If he gets underway, he is not going to be there. Are you ready to do all the things that have to be done, without putting it all on him when he returns? It is good to share things with your mate, but he, and you, are going to have to rekindle your life when he returns - and sometimes it just isn't that easy.
Do you have a job? Are you ready to leave that job and move? Are you ready to do it every couple of years? What about school - for both of you? What are your long term plans? What are your short term plans? Can you live without him for a couple of months then have a short time together and then be apart for several more months?
I know I am going beyond what you may want to know - but many young couples do not last because they did not think things through. A military wife has to be a tough, tough person who can, for the most part, live on her own, and within a budget (money is going to be tight - ESPECIALLY at the lower pay-grades). I really suggest you go into a marriage with NO bills, and have your own established credit. The facts are this: 50% or more of marriages in the U.S. do not last. I do not have the exact number of military marriages that end in divorce - but it is high - especially among the younger troops and first-termers.
Before you do get married, find out where he will be stationed - after basic and school (if he gets one). Then see who the ombudsman is. If you cannot find out, call the Command Master Chief, and he can find out.
I do not mean to paint a grim picture, but like I said earlier, you have to look at the whole picture - or as I have heard it said before: Ok, you showed me the silver lining - now show me the cloud!
Good luck to you. Let us know what you decide.
2007-08-23 09:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by nickap2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an honor to your son to be assigned to a Marine Corps Unit. He might not be a Marine... however will probably be a "inexperienced sailor"... a Navy Corpsman assigned to a Marine unit. The fight Marines who put up right here don't have anything however admire and high-quality matters to mention approximately their corpsmen. Those Marines will protect his again and pass to the wall for him, if essential, to maintain him secure. They will welcome him to their brotherhood, and that is announcing a LOT. If they gave him the option, he is definitely selected to be assigned to a Marine Unit... and he made the option realizing precisely what coaching could be worried. And, having simply accomplished Navy Boot Camp, he's going to be in high-quality form to do good with anything that coaching is. Don't fear, Mom... the Marine's will take well care of him! Also, I consider the poster above is right... he would possibly not pass by way of the entire of Marine Corps Boot Camp... Just a path so he's going to know the way matters are performed the Marine Corps manner.
2016-09-05 09:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thank both of you for the sacrifices you are making for your country. After boot camp he can be assigned pretty much anywhere. I know two young friends in New Jersey who enlisted together and entered boot camp at the same time. After graduation one was assigned to Bayone New Jersey the other to Kodiak Alaska. That about says it all. Of couse I work with a woman who spent her entire enlistment in Hawaii. That isn't too tough to take.
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2007-08-23 07:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be so busy, that marriage may take awhile. But he'll be busy missing you too. Don't pressure him too much, you wouldn't want him to lose his focus. The time will come for marriage, he'll let you know when he'll get a break. It is a good job with lots of promise, for the both of you. Good Luck!
2007-08-21 17:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Debbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cake walk. Expect smooth sailing!!! Sailing so smooth, it's smooth as butter.
2007-08-21 17:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by BadKarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea to wait until after. There will be many women for him to co mingle with.
2007-08-21 17:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋