A Berber man has stolen my heart. Can this be real? How can I get to Morocco to meet him?

Question

I was on Skype and he contacted me. We began to chat it was my first time online chatting and he says it was his first time too. He shared many things with me and we have so much in common. He is like my mirror. It realy is so wonderful. He has introduced me to his whole family. We talk for hours.I want him to come to me but I dont know how to get him to america. We are both finacilly challanged. Some ppl say he just wants to come to america and he is playing me. I dont think so because he tells me things without me teling him and it fits my beleifs and morals exactly. I am in love and dont know what to do or how to get to him or get him to me.
Any information will help. I feel like I am going to go insaine. We have been chatting now for 4 months. I want to meet him in person and meet his wonderful family. Is it possible to have found my soul online? do i listen to my family and stop talking to him or listen to my heart and go to him?
Please give your honest feed back. Lost in Love.

i am 33 and he is 29. i have 3 children from previous marriage and can have no more children. he knows this fact. He wants me to come to morocco and stay with him there for a wile. we have not discussed marriage however he says he would do the impossibel for us to be together.

Answer 1

Follow your heart but be careful and protect yourself. I met my husband online and he is my soul mate. He is Moroccan and NOT using me for anything, cuz I have nothing! LOL I lived with him in Morocco for 6 months so I know who he is and what he wants in life. Take things slowly, be sure of the situation, and go from there. Don't let all the negativity here get you down. Just be careful and trust your instincts.

Answer 2

Only YOU can Answer this question. I have nothing to say in this topic. six months ago my American friend(She was a neighbour actually who moved back to the states) found a Moroccan guy on the chat room he's 33 years old(She's 50)she was telling me how nice and perfect he is,and he loves her, she speaks with him around 4 hours a day, and I told her are you sure about him because there is something fishy is going on, she argued with me saying he has a good job and he wants to come to visit her because she doesn't have the money to go visit him. She sent him an invitation letter but he was denied the visa, after that he NEVER spoke to her at all like she never existed.(she wasn't able to call him because he never gave her his phone number) Then she started complaining how bad he turned out to be. I mean his attentions were clear she just didn't want to realize that. She's older than him, not a good looking, only men on her age probably will be attracted to her but not young guys, even though she's a good hearted lady. By the way this guy was the third Moroccan guy she fell for . she's looking for love in the wrong places with the wrong people. I felt the need to share this story

Answer 3

Oh Lord!...Listen yellowcloudwoman, I am all for Moroccans and ppl marrying those they love. I think it's better that way....but....I am getting more and more warry of this...probably because of all I know (NOT my personal experiences with my husband -- but seeing everyone else).

First of all, I HIGHLY doubt it was his first time online. Most Moroccans have family or friends in other countries and since they are unemployed they have a lot of free time on their hands so they get online a lot. I am married to a Moroccan and he has "friends" that call us from the net cafe and contact us and want to marry American girls but I refuse to help any of them...even if they are serious about actually wanting to get married I disagree with their motives and actions. My husband is from a village and even THEY have tons of internet cafes open all night and day.

When I would call my husband on his cell when he was in Morocco and he was at the cafe I could hear the conversations these guys would have and stuff.

People in Morocco DREAM of the U.S (ok, not everyone....but still). they think the streets are paved with gold even often after you tell them they are not. Many Moroccans are very 'romanticaly minded' but when it comes to an actual marriage with a foreigner they don't look at marriage the same way...there are lots of cultural differences that cannot be seen in long conversations.

He tells you things without you telling him --that's a cultural thing. You are seperated by an OCEAN does he care if you go off with his personal info? NO, he doesn't. Also, families in Morocco are very close. It might seem like a big deal to meet somebody's family here in America but it is not a big deal there.

You also need a reality check about being with him. If you want to live there with him, fine. I say go for it! But if you are 'financially challenged' you will have NO way of bringing him here unless you have somebody to co-sign support with you.

I really suggest you go there and spend some time and really see how things are.

If you decide this is truly what you want, I will be very happy for both of you. :D And then if you want to bring him here as a fiance or husband you need to prove you can financially support the both of you. What does this mean? You have to show that you made enough money for each of the last three years to support a 2 person household (or three person if you have a kid etc etc). That is besides proving your relationship is real and proving he isn't psycho or anything. If you have financial trouble I doubt you can do this unless you get a co-signer and it seems like your family doesn't want to do that. If they do it they are financially responsible for him and any debt etc he gets for the first three years he is in America.

Please, go visit him and see if this is real. Like I said, if it is and you have the $$$ follow your heart and I will be there to back you up. I would also HIGHLY suggest getting to know more about Islam. If you have children together they are to be raised as Muslims. I can tell you the name of a couple of books you might enjoy.

The Prophet pbuh said (I am sure I have the wording wrong but...) Nothing better prescribed for lovers other than marriage.

I am also going to be honest with you. If he is Muslim and he doesn't even have respect for his religion ( I mean actually practice it ) then he probably won't really respect you. It may seem that he does, trust me I have seen it....but somewhere along the way you will see otherwise.

Answer 4

While I personally am not a fan of online relationships of any kind (not specifically overseas/interracial/etc), aside from that fact I will tell you that Moroccan men are wonderful and it could be real. Here are a few questions:

-Are you close in age? If he's much younger than you, there's a good chance he could be using you for a visa.

-Has he tried to get out of Morocco before? Know his history in that area.

Those would be my two main concerns, just from what I've seen with Moroccan friends. I'll tell you that at any given time, most of my male Moroccan friends have tried to find a foreign wife online - some do it because they don't like the mentality of Moroccan women their age, others because of the visa.

Above all, you won't really know unless you meet him. Even if his initial focus was a visa, he could genuinely be in love with you, but how will you know if you don't meet him in person? I would do your best to get to Morocco - prices have dropped in airline tickets, and if you go via Europe it isn't always expensive.

Like Butterfly said, gather your papers for marriage together (I'll list what you need at the bottom) in case you decide to marry him when you get there. It certainly makes things faster.

For marriage, you need:

-Police records from home country
-Birth certificate
-Proof of divorce (if divorced)
-A paper from the US Consulate in Casablanca stating your eligibility for marriage
-Police record clearance from Rabat's Office of Foreign Affairs

Some cities require other information.

Answer 5

i wont say that your situation is like mine, but i did meet my soul mate on line. i waited a year before i went to Lebanon to meet him and since the initial meeting i have been back 3 more times. We were engaged July 7th and will be married soon.
My advise - don't rush things if they are meant to be they will be and remember there are people on the net who aren't on here with good intentions
Good Luck

Answer 6

Forget him. He doesn't seem a serious religious muslim man. A religious man who takes his religion seriously does not flirt online.
Also, fez has some right in her long speech but i don't suggest you to visit this guy in his own country. I think it is disgusting to travel to an unknown, not that safe country to "see a man". You are a female, he is the one who has to go for you.. also, as a serious female, you can not travel without mahram - no matter if you are not a muslima yet. I would not suggest to travel alone, this is important for your safety.

I have met boys like your 'admirer'. They think europe and usa is full of wealthy white females and that they will have a golden life here but NO. The curtain was not made of sausages as we say in my country :) actually their lives would be much more harder here as they can not speak our language, they have no (or not the expected, usable) diploma and they will not hire them as they look arab. said but true. i have heard about a lot of men whose visa was denied (like 4 times after each of them)

A real religious muslim does not hunt for innocent girls on skype like a predator. I know i will get a lot of thumbs down but i don't care.
Be very suspicious as you are a mother of 3 too - as i remember well from your added messages.

He is like your mirror: no, he is not, he just want you to believe this!
And i know something which is almost 100% sure: you are not the first (and one and only) girl who he tries to tempt..

He hasn't introduced to his family.. online introduction? that is nothing!
Also: 4 months is not enough, especially not online. The Maghrib countries are full of netcafés and the netcafés are full of smoking guys (have seen with my own eyes, this sit in the seats and smoke while they type silly things for the girls and they are on microphone and cam..) who are fooling around certain (and not only one) women at the same time..
these men can tell you nice tales, beautiful lies but they are not serious..

i have had "an admirer" like yours before I converted to Islam. He tried to get me just the same way like this guy wanna get you.. he also showed me his mom, pictures, he was trying to appear like an arab prince but he was lame and he was not a serious muslim at all, perhaps Allah (SWT) aleem!
i converted to Islam and i asked him to stay away from me, not to communicate me and guess what happened, he was furious and angry and started to yell at me - yes, i guess because i have found the Truth --> Islam and i did not want to be his cheap lover (what i of course never was!!).. he also said that i am not a real muslima because real muslims have fun and they can remove the hijab, so he even spread a lot of lies too..

i think the best is to forget this guy and wake up, it was not a coincidence that he has chosen you "accidentally" on the skype.. it was planned and he is trying to temp you and i can see it was successfull..

please, do not think i hate you or i contemn you, i am just worrying and i know what will happen to you if you continue to chat with him.. :((((((

Answer 7

Don't listen to your family. Follow your heart. Although it is true that some of them just want to come to America, there are many who just want to chat and end up falling in love. I met my fiance, who lives in Morocco, online 10 months ago. He was just looking for anyone, male or female, to practice his English with. We met thru a mutal friend. We had so many of the same ideas, beliefs and morals too. We also were both financially challenged. We were going to apply for a fiance visa, but one of the requirements was that we meet in person or have a good reason for not doing so. I thought that my disability and finacial problems would be reason enough, but I was just too insecure to take the chance. It also takes about 6 months or so to get approval and he would have to wait for a VISA to become available. Together we saved our money and I'm leaving for Morocco next Tuesday and getting married soon if we are given permission to do so. All of our paperwork is in order so I don't foresee any problems. When I return I will file for a spousal VISA which is automatic and only take about 3 months. He will also be issued a work visa at the same time and then after he comes to America we can file for a change in status so he can become a legal resident. If you wait a few months you'll be able to get an airplane ticket for about $700 to $900 depending on where you live because it will be off season in Morocco. You can then meet him and know if you were meant to be together or not. I have met about 4 women on here in the last few weeks that have met their Moroccan love on line and in the last few months have met other women who met Moroccan men in person and fell in love. Moroccan men know how to treat a woman and know what true love is. There upbringing and religion teaches them to honor and respect women. This site lists the requirements you as a non-Morrocan citizen will need in order to get married in Morocco. He can also go to the local adoul and get a list showing the requirements as this online list may not be complete. I would recommend you gather these documents and take them with you so that if you decide to get married you already have them. The only thing I had to pay for was $15 for the background check. You will have to pay a minimal amount to have the documents translated into arabic once you are there. http://casablanca.usconsulate.gov/marriage_requirements.html

This site will give you the information you will need to apply for a spousal visal(K-3), it's the same as a fiance Visa (K-1). I suggest printing off the papers and taking them with you as he will have to sign them and write some of the things in arabic and taking them with you will save time sending things back and forth in the mail which takes about 3 weeks to go both ways.

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=a10e4154d7b3d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD This is the actual form you will need. Pay careful attention cuz you will also need another form to send in with it.

I have it outside in my car and will try to remember to get it tomorrow and will put an edit here.

Again follow your heart, congratulations and good luck.

Answer 8

Welcome to Morocco, don't be afraid the love you feel for this man is real, don't listen to the pessimistic..follow your heart and do what's right for you.
you can come to morocco and meet this guy, there's nothing dangerous about that, you are not the first nor the last who's living this experience....Welcome to the club.

Answer 9

Listen to your friends........hes playing you i think you will find he listens to what you say then plays it back to you with ahis spiel giving you the illusion that his beliefs are yours.... what ever you do dont give him money for any reason as i suspect his little sister will need an operation soon ........my advise is to cool the relationship and remember DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY

Answer 10

just go there
you will find that he is a coppy of other 1000s
pick one
then go back home