Do you consider rape to be a crime of passion? Or a violent crime?

Question

Please, read the first answer to this question.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aha1Khhhz8ukOCfKhCej8Qrd7BR.?qid=20070821211136AAA3lpp

Does anyone really feel that it's a woman's beauty, or the way she dresses, that makes her a victim of what I consider to be an extremely violent crime?

If you do believe this, can you please explain how you came to this conclusion?

i r winner...you obviously didn't read what the first responder said in the linked question.

For those of you who have been victims of sexual assault, please accept my apologies for bringing up a painful subject. I asked because I was curious as to the general mindset of the people here. The linked question has the first answerer blaming this on women, and because I disagree, I chose to point it out. I am truly sorry for anything said in this thread that offends or hurts you, and I admire your courage for speaking out.

Answer 1

Red Queen, these are two very different questions, but let me share what I have found out.

In the Muslim faith, they believe that women are a temptation to men, so they feel that to keep a woman's beauty hidden leaves less temptation for the men. In their culture, the women do not feel they are trapped by fashion which means that they have to dress to please the men. Here, we dress to be hot and sexy. To us, it's freedom to choose our clothing, to them, it's the direct opposite.

But, in response to your question, I think you will find that a younger, more attractive person is more likely to be a victim of sexual assault, even though an older woman can be raped. From what I have heard and I wish I had a source for this one. They interviewed men who were in prison for rape and they said that their easiest targets were those women who had clothing that were the easiest to remove. In other words a woman wearing pants is less likely to be a target than a woman in a mini skirt because a guy can complete things more quickly.

Do I believe it's a crime of passion? Not at all. Rape pornography makes it sound like the women always love it after they are raped, and if you have ever been a victim of rape, there is nothing enjoyable about it. Men may feel some quelling of desire for certain women to take advantage of, but ultimately it's a violent crime and there is absolutely nothing enjoyable for a woman. They will carry emotional scars for years afterwards.

I can speak from personal experience, Red Queen. It's not pretty, and I'm fortunate that the guy was scared off before he finished, But I learned not to go around in the hallways of a hotel by myself wearing nothing but a revealing swimsuit and flirting with a stranger. I was 21, young and very naive at that time.

Answer 2

I believe that rape is a violent crime. In the studies of those who rape, they do not rape because someone dresses a certain way. They rape because they want control. It is a control thing. Sometimes a person is at the wrong place at the wrong time. Well some people do believe that women are asking for it by dressing provocatively, especially some religious people in older beliefs. My brother has always said that when a women dresses, she needs to leave some imagination to the man. If she practically shows everything, where is the imagination or curiosity for the man.

Answer 3

Many people consider the act of rape to be a sex crime. Others say it is a hate crime. I think it could be either, depending on the circumstance.

A man who assaults a woman off the street is looking for an easy target, someone that can be easily overpowered. It usually has nothing to do with her looks, although he may seek out something specific. He looks for someone that appears weak, powerless, and appears to have no self-confidence. In most self-defense classes, they will always tell a woman to walk tall, and look people in the eye. The air of confidence is a great deterrant to an attack.

A person who rapes for the pleasure is not a rapist, but a molester. That is the person that takes pleasure in unnatural desires, normally children, but could be anything. That person normally seeks a specific type repeatedly.

Not sure what this has question has to do with the Muslim question.

Answer 4

Dear God!.. How could anyone make the statement that I just read on the link you provided? How stupid can people be?? Beauty has NOTHING to do with rape! I have heard of 80 year old women being sexually assaulted, raped and battered by men in their early 30's. Were they tempted by the beauty of an 80 year old? NO! Rape is a violent crime of assault and battery and it has nothing to do with what a woman is wearing or how she looks. I am concerned when I read such ignorant statements...Peace.

Answer 5

Hmm... well I don't really blame the woman's beauty to be the sole reason (its a part but not the whole) but I think its symbolic in a way bcuz as the saying goes "The eye does not go without wanting."

However, I agree that rape is really considered a violent crime since its actually more of flaunting one gender's power over another.

Answer 6

I believe it's a violent crime against women by a misogynistic, emasculated man. The men who perpetrate these crimes against women are sick individuals who can't take no for an answer. Has nothing to do with what she's wearing. I was wearing sweatpants and a tshirt and hadn't taken a shower for two days because I was sick when I got sexually assaulted.

EDIT: Sorry, my dyslexia kicked in again. I meant that to say towards a woman by an emasculated misogynistic man.

Answer 7

Obviously, it is consider to be a crime of violent. For this reason,it is a form of assault where one individual forces another to have sexual intercourse against that person’s will. Most experts believe the primary cause of rape is an aggressive desire to dominate the victim rather than an attempt to achieve sexual fulfillment. They consider rape an act of violence rather than principally a sexual encounter.

Answer 8

I believe its a violent crime.

I'm sure there are instances where someone has raped someone else, and the motive wasn't power, but lust. With that said, I don't believe it's the 'fault' of the woman.

Either way, it's sad that people have to deal with that kind of an ordeal -

I don't want to be insensitive, so I'm sorry if I've hurt anyone with my comments.

Answer 9

Rape isn't about sex ... its about control, dominance and power. A rapist may choose his victims by some personal criteria, like they're blond, or tall or wears a skirt, etc.

However, at the root the crime has nothing to do with any of these things. Its about one person enjoying the power of exerting control over another through sexual contact.

It is, by its nature, violent, though in varying degrees. Violence is, by nature, typically passionate though again in varying degrees. Rape is always always always about control.

Answer 10

Ok, that person really didn't explain their answer very well at all. Even if they had, I would consider their answer wrong. Rape is an act of violence, disguised as sex, compelled by a need for power over another individual.

The complete covering of a woman's beauty doesn't neuter an individual's desire to abuse and control. The most it can do is defuse a male's natural desire for sex with any desireable woman he sees. Men are tempted by what they SEE, women are usually tempted by what they SMELL and HEAR.