She is 26 months. She scratches our face with precision when she is angry or not getting what she want. There must be a way to curtail this. We tried the usual discouraging and the mean faces. But all for naught. She just reach out and scratch herself to just show us it doesn't hurt!
2007-08-21 16:53:35 · 10 answers · asked by dlew2k 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Put her on the floor and gently, but firmly grab her hands and say NO. If she does it again place her in a time out for 2 minutes. I don't have to do this often, but I would put my now 3 year-old son in his booster chair and strap him in and place him in the corner for 2 minutes. After that he would do what he was told (Last time I had to do this was right after his 2nd birthday when he refused to pick up cookies he threw on the floor)
2007-08-21 17:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 21 months old. She was a great baby and never threw a tantrum untill about 3 months ago she started it up. Smacking us and stuff and throwing herself on the floor. I'm not a screamer or hitter so I used to just raise my voice and bit and tell her to stop or get up for a couple of weeks. Never worked. I tried ignoring her when she did this for the next couple of weeks to see if she got bored. Never worked. Then I changed her diet. I tried a bit harder for a couple of weeks next to check packets and things for certain food types. And after this I have to agree that it does matter what they eat. On the extremely rare occasions that she has a tantrum (which funnily enough is usually after a birthday party or something where she has had a fair amount or crap like a piece of birthday cake or some chocloate) I now stand down to her level so we are eye to eye and i hold her hands in mine and say quietly but firmly stop it or you will end up in bed early or no bedtime story or time-out etc.
It's simple but it really does work.
2007-08-21 17:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a playpen that we put our daughter into for 1-5 minutes at a time when she misbehaves and does not respond to proper correction (telling her "No" or "Do not do that, you hurt me" in a firm tone). Have seen from other parents (relatives) that yelling and screaming generally only encourages yelling and screaming back. And although I am sure your "hitting" is only hard enough to bruise the ego, through the diaper or clothes this sometimes encourages hitting back. I am not against "tapping a bottom" through the diaper on our 18 month old, but have found this "playpen time out" has better results and I do not have to explain why it is OK for Mommy to spank but not OK for the Baby to spank. This is a bad behaviour for her, but my daughter is much more tortured by being placed away from us (I stay in the room to make sure she knows what is going on, and to encourage good quiet behaviour to get out of time out and let her know that she will stay in "time out" longer if she yells and screams having a tantrum) for those few minutes. She has started behaving better and most of the time we only have to threaten to put her into the playpen for time out and she corrects her behaviour. Good luck.
2007-08-21 17:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Deanna W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything else that she does that might concern you ?? Rocking or doing things over and over?? I'm just concerned about her scratching herself and it not hurting. I'm thinking autism i don't know you may want to look up the symptoms and see if she has any of them with so many kids having it these days. Lets hope not but if so catching it early would be a great start at some sanity!!
2007-08-21 17:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by MaRaNdA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I often write down everything that's pi$$ing me off at that moment and turn it into a story with some humor added. I find it very therapeutic to write and it's a cool way to look back later and maybe even get a laugh out of it :)
2016-05-19 05:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry. Exagerate your facial expression when she scratches you (not to the point of being comic).
Take her hand and say, "No" forcefully. Say, "I do not like it!"
It can take a bit, but you need to talk to her in her language. The language of a child is simple, direct, and full of exagerated body language.
She really doesn't get it. She doesn't have empathy yet. She is trying to show you empathy, by showing YOU that it doesn't hurt! See, it doesn't hurt when I scratch me! It doesn't hurt you!
Your answer back has to be in the same form. See, OUCH it does hurt me! (sad angry face) I don't like it!
If you can stop her before she does it when you see it coming, and do the same. Catch her hand and gently fold her hand up in yours, and "NO! I don't like it! Ouch!"
2007-08-21 17:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Brassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will need to move her to a safe "timeout" place when she starts to do this. She may scream but just ignore her screaming. I had a child that i watched that would hurt herself when ever she was upset and she would try to hurt others. I had to wrap her gently in a beach towel (with parents permission) and sit with her until she calmed down. With my 2 year old when he has a bad fit I have to put him in a safe place (cushioned because he likes to head butt) and he can scream for up to 30 minutes without calming down. When he does calm down I pick him up and let him move from timeout. It is getting better. If she is scratching herself when you try to put her in a "timeout" area you may need to make mittens to put on her that she can't get off until she calms down. I have seen this done in severe situations. Children love to test to see what will happen. If they get a negative response that is ok with them, they just want your attention and to get some kind of reaction.
2007-08-21 17:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that time out works very well at her age. Make time out a place that is secluded and not fun. Every time she does the behavior, put her on time out. You have to do it EVERY TIME, or else she won't understand the punishment that goes with her actions.
2007-08-21 17:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Brandilynn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First cut her nails short. Second, just walk away when she throws her fit, ignore her and leave the room if you have to. She might keep doing it if she's getting attention from it. My son does this with hair pulling!
2007-08-21 17:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Another baby boy! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SPANK HER ! what is wrong with people ? does nobody but me realize that when kids stopped getting spanking that that was when they became the out of control brats that you see everywhere today ? dont beat her or anything but let her know that you are the boss not her .
2007-08-25 16:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋