Why do others tease or sarcastically comment on the fact that you're quiet?

Question

Have gotten comments like, "we have miss talkative over here!" or "stop making so much noise over there! You're so loud!!"

All I can do is shyly smile and look down bashfully. Why do people say things like that?

What do you think of my reaction? Are people expecting me to say anything back?

Answer 1

I used to get that all the time. Even though it may not seem like it many people actually get nervous around quieter people.That's SOOO not on you though.Sometimes when there's an awkward silence I may try to fill it with something that ends up stupid like that...It's nerves! There's no reason a chatterbox is any better or worse than someone who's a little quieter.Embrace it. I bet u a million dollars you're a lot more sensitive and creative than most people you know.If it seems like someone's just trying to bring u into the conversation u may even want 2 b honest and proudly say, "I'm a little quiet sometimes when I 1st meet people."Or maybe you could say,"I'm kind of in a quiet mode right now," and just try to give them a smile and say it with authority if u can. If they just have a bit_hy tone of voice then I'd just totally ignore them all together. Look somewhere else like u didn't even hear their commentary.Shy people are fabulous and think of how much listening the world would miss out on if they ever became extroverted.U were born w/ that personality. The world/god/etc. wanted u to have it 4 a reason so focus on all of your assets if u start doubting ur greatness.I typed a lot cuz I grew up PAINFULLY shy and didn't talk 2 any1 about it. In my case my depression/anxiety made me extra quiet but now I'm on Neurontin and am more relaxed but I still love being an introvert even though I"m in the minority!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I say "I'd rather listen, I'm not a big talker." Or just agree with them, "yeh, I'm quiet".
Either they are trying to draw you into the group, or making fun of you.
I have never figured out why people fear quiet people so much. If they think we are sitting there judging people, or that they think it points out their babbling on about something they know little of, I do not know.
Just took a new job, and asked myself, I wonder how long it will take someone to point out that I am quiet. One day. "you're quiet, aren't you?" and it was dripping with sarcasm. "Yes, I'm new, I'm here to learn" was my answer. The questioner left the area, and the people left with me were smiling. They still talk to me, so they either knew her, or the type.

Answer 4

I've always wondered that very same thing, but for some reason......people don't understand that there are some ppl that just aren't conversationalists. Like in my case unless someone says somthing to me, I'll be quiet all the way, not because I want to, or cuz I'm stuck up.... I'm just a naturally shy & quiet person.

Answer 5

You're being put on the spot so unless you are naturally very witty and always have a clever quip on the tip of your tongue, there's not much you can say to respond to questions and comments like that. Really, there isn't. People have said the same things to me and I'm literally speechless because I can't think of anything to say.

They don't realize they're putting you on the spot, that's why they do it.

Answer 6

They just think they're being humorous, and your reaction is completely normal. There isn't anything you can say as a comeback without sounding aggressive.
I can't think what you could do except continue to be friendly and be yourself. If you're quiet you're quiet, and they'll just have to get used to it. Surely they've met quiet people before!?

Answer 7

Personally, I think they are kind of being jerks. Whether they realize it, they are.
At another time, when you are not in the spotlight, ask them if they could stop doing that, and tell them why. That has always worked for me, since I really don't like to talk a lot.
If it doesn't work, just ignore them, if they stop getting a kick out of bothering people they will stop after a few times.

Answer 8

Like the previous answerer said, they may be trying to be friendly and get you to participate in the conversation. At any rate, they definitely want your attention. It's actually a compliment to you that they have noticed you and would like you to speak to them. As far as your reaction, I don't think that people will be offended by it. But if you're interested in talking to them, you can take it as an opportunity to join the conversation.

Answer 9

It is either bullies or someone that likes you, or both. You should be able to figure it out.

Think of a smart comeback to say ahead of time.

Like the fake Latin "Non illegitimi carborundum" (cut and paste it in yahoo search) Something witty that they have to know something to figure it out.

Answer 10

In some cases, its how guys try to flirt to start a conversation with you. Just remember, still waters run deep. Babbling brooks are shallow for a reason.