why does life suck?

Question

i know i complain a lot so dont point it out. but life seems pointless and trivial, and i dont see the point anymore.
im lonely, and i never seem to have anyone to talk to.
even dashboard songs are making me cry.
how can i feel better?

Answer 1

Hi. I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. Life sometimes can be very tough and be very difficult to find trustfull people whom you could relate to. Yet, if you want to get new friends, you probably would have to engage in social events like in a library/ classes or join a gym, things like that.

It's very important to keep busy with things that you enjoy. It's always helpful to take the focus out of ourselves and look around us of how many people are suffering and may be you could volunteer for at least once a week to visit a nursing home or a similar environment, so that the contrary takes over...as we volunteer for others, we may find out that we grow and learn from it much more than we could ever imagine !!!!
Besides that, sleep well and keep a healthy diet / keep regular excercises and you will feel much better.

Answer 2

Life is a series of ups and downs. That is the interesting part - no matter how good life appears on the surface we never feel the same all the time. Through good times or bad.

Don't let yourself get stuck in the downs. Make a start by choosing not to complain - just as a game for a start, but to be serious about it, give yourself a period of 30 days when you will not complain about one thing once! See if you can do it. If you boo boo - start again.
The Irony is our own complaints pull our mental state down, so after a bit you will start to feel a relief of sorts.

Secondly, go out and do things. Maybe you have let yourself hit bottom without realising it. Pull a bit of self discipline to make yourself get out for a run, a walk, a swim, the gym, anywhere there is both activity and people. You will sleep better and have more endorphines.

Thirdly, see how you can help & involve yourself with other people. See what godo you can do in the world. There are always groups looking for volunteers to help with people - even visited the sick in hospital? taken an orphan to the zoo for the day? Helped out on the ambulances?

Some of us get depressed because we are wrapped up in our own little worlds, seeing things from a narrow perspective and not seeing the greater, sunnier picture of life.

You are lonely because you aren't getting out there and talking to people. Change it.

Answer 3

wow. dashboard is making you cry? poor kid. turn off the music! and then, you can look at the screen clearly. okay, wipe those tears.

life isn't pointless. it is there so you learn and you experience everything it has to offer. right now, it sucks. and yeah, that is part of life. you have probably heard this before, but without pain there would be no hapiness. without hate there would be no compassion. so on and so on.

the point is that, life might be horrible now, it might be unbearable, but it doesn't mean that it will always be that way. good things can come from life. happiness and love, and relationships that last a lifetime. right now, you don't have all of that, but you can get it. it will take time and many laughs to get there, but i think you will like the ride much more than the destination.

good luck. just look at life differently. things can change perspective. smile daily. its like the apple, it will keep the doctor away. it will keep the crazy therapists away, so i suggest two doses would be good. : D feel better.

Answer 4

I think that we all have times where life seems to be completely worthless. I go to my mom and talk or a good friend. Sometimes it just helps to get online and talk to just about anyone about anything that connects me with the rest of the world. Other than that I have a tendency to "hibernate" and dwell on what I don't have instead of what I do have and that never makes anything better just worse. I just went through a week like that cause i broke my ankle and couldn't do anything and hadnt seen anyone or done anything. Everything was making me cry and it didn't matter what it was. TV, internet, music you name it I cried. My boyfriend didn't even want to talk to me because i would just fall apart. Ya got to get out of the house. Take a long walk in a nice place. Go to the mall and walk around where there are lots of people to get in touch with life. Personally I hate the mall but sometimes that works for me.
I hoped that I helped you at least a little bit.

Answer 5

I know that some of the symptoms of Depression are feelings that everything is pointless and trivial. Having no friends is a big clue that you need to make some changes in how you do things.

I encourage you to see a counselor so that you can examine how you are living your life and make positive changes in how you relate to others and anything else you are doing that is counter productive.

You may also need some medication to feel better while you are going through the process of learning more effective ways to relate to others.

Answer 6

Has life always sucked for you or is it just lately things seem that way? If you can remember back to a time when you were really happy, it's possible that you'd never imagine that you'd end up this sad. The same is true in reverse. You think you'll never be happy again but things have a way of brightening up. Unfortunately most of us have to deal with the ups and downs that life hands out.

You can help yourself by having less free time. Work longer, find hobbies, build relationships. We do our worst thinking when we're bored and alone.

Answer 7

Prayer,first last and always! I can feel that way sometimes.Life has many points.
You need to talk with a counselor, at least you get to vent ,whatever.Sometimes, just hearing things ourselves out loud helps.
Find friends, find a new hobby.Take a class in music, or learning a new language whatever.And you can meet new people that way.
Plan a vacation goal, and work and save to get there.Have a goal to enjoy life.
Do you like kids, volunteer at a camp.Seeing children laugh,hear some of the answers they have for everyday stuff.Will make you laugh! They cheer you up!
Or visit a nursing home , many there would like to have someone come and sit with them ,read a book,or their bible to them.Or they also, would like to share their life stories! Life is worth living, and your worth living it!!!!!!!!! I just said a prayer that Jesus touches your heart and mind! God will not put no more on us than we can bare! You just have to take a mental step towards accepting Him in your heart,and know that He loves you! Do God's work,glorify His Name.And you will know the purpose of life! Love,someone who's been there!

Answer 8

I always feel better doing something I love. There's plenty of times that I feel life is UNBEARABLY useless, but I push that thought out of my mind and turn on my "Disney's Greatest Hits" CD. Or maybe Spice Girls' "Wannabe".
I also try talking to people. If you have no friends in real life, go online to meet some people. I don't mean like dating sites, just fun places to hang out with people you love. I don't know how I'd survive without my friends in my guild on Neopets (as childish as it sounds...it really works). Check it out. If you don't have an account, sign up, and then come visit at the guild.

Answer 9

My dad died 1 1/2 weeks ago i feel ya man. Itll get better i think. I try and stay busy, maybe this would work for you. The less time you have to dwell on the bad stuff the better right? You are probably depressed this can be dangerous. Dont do anything stupid because there are people who would hurt very badly if you did.

Answer 10

Life doesn't suck. You're making it suck by having a negative attitude. Tons of bad things happen to good people everyday, but they get through it. No one can tell you the point of life; it's something you have to figure out yourself, by living. Loneliness is a state of mind. You have to learn to be happy in every situation by learning to be happy with yourself. And I'm sure you can find someone to talk to. Everyone has someone who will listen to them. And if you don't want to talk to someone in your real life talk to someone on line or get a councilor. You can feel better by accepting the fact that you do have a good life and you owe it to the people who are suffering to take full advantage of that.