I'm getting married 08.16.08, and I am having a hard time finding a part for my younger brother. He will be 9 for the wedding. Any ideas?
2007-08-21 16:00:10 · 21 answers · asked by Alissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, there are 5 bridesmaids, and 5 grooms men, it's going to be an outdoor beach/tropical wedding. Nothing real traditional at all. We wont be at the church. We thought of the ring bearer but we don't have any little girls that could be flower girls. And he is a pretty important part of my life since I grew up with just him and my mom (who is walking me down.)
2007-08-21 16:16:20 · update #1
He and your Mom could walk you down the aisle! That would really make him feel important. He could be an 'honor attendant' and walk in between your MOH and you and Mom, then he could even stand with the MOH at the 'altar area' as a witness. Don't give him flowers to carry, that will only make it seem like he's doing a 'girls' part, but it would be nice if at some point in the ceremony you and he together presented your Mom with a rose. Ok, I have to quit now because I'm starting to sniffle :)
Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-08-21 16:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a similar issue. My husbands sister was 10 and we wanted to find a spot for her since my 3 sisters and his 17 year old sister were the bridesmaids. She had to much 'energy' to stand through the whole ceremony so 5th bridesmaid was out. We didn't want to have any other kids in the wedding (we didn't have friends/family who had any young sons). We had her be a flower girl, walking down the aisle alone then she sat in between his grandparents.
Having him walk down alone would not be odd or unusual...are you having a train on your dress? If you do, maybe he could hold it for you? If not, being the ring bearer and standing with the men (or even sitting w/ family) would be just fine.
2007-08-21 16:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Katie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
He should be a ring bearer. It doesn't matter that you are not having a flower girl. There is no rule that you need to have a flower girl in order to have a ring bearer - he can go down the aisle by himself. I wouldn't have him do a reading unless he is VERY mature -- most adults even get nervous about this. Are you having bubbles after the wedding? Another thing he could do would be to hold the basket with bubbles and pass them out to your guests after the ceremony.
2007-08-21 16:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 9, you need to include him in your decision making process.
9 year old boys can be very self-conscious.
If there is another similiarly aged girl (7-11) then a Jr. Groomsmen would be the best choice. He will feel silly being the ring-bearer - he will think he is too old for that - unless you can make the role more suitable to his age (i.e. no little girl for the flower girl, just him alone, then it might be okay).
It would be nice if he could read a small scripture or poem - but he may/may not feel comfortable doing this. Then offer him a role of usher (handing out programs).
2007-08-21 16:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just the right age for a ring bearer -- and there does not have to be a flower girl, too.
2007-08-22 03:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you wnat a traditional wedding or not. Your younger brother can walk the flowergirls u the aisle, or he can be the ring bearer. There is always an area for him to be in. i think he would love to be the ring bearer. That is a big job.
2007-08-21 16:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can be a junior groomsmen or junior usher. I do not think he is too old to be the ring bearer if that is not taken.
If we knew more about how your bridal party is set up we may be able to give you a better answer.
I'm sure you'll find something for him, it's your day you can have him do practically anything you want.
2007-08-21 16:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law that says you have to have a flower girl with a ring bearer.
2007-08-21 23:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my younger brother so we asked him if he would like to videotape the event for us! He is really excited that he gets to use a videocamera, and who knows? Maybe he'll get some video that the videographer will miss! It makes him feel like he has an important role and that is what matters the most, making him feel like he is not left out in all of the excitement!
2007-08-21 16:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by truelovernr1122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If not a ring bearer, you can have 2, they each carry just one ring. I love having children in my ceremonies. I have children carry my "book". Usually I have the ceremony prewritten and and in a black or white folder. They walk in front of me and then take a seat near their grandparents. Best wishes, Chaplain Debby
2007-08-21 16:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋