Which would you choose? A fulfilling sex life or a stable relationship?

Question

Before you answer, consider the following.

You are a well-educated, successful, financially independent woman. You have a stable career, you own your own house, car and you are quite capable of taking care of yourself. Attracting men is not a problem, because you exude a sexy yet confident air that makes them stop and stare -- even if you intimidate them and they don't speak.

In other words, you're an independent, self-made woman.

So which would you choose, given these circumstances? Great sex or a boring life with a stable companion?

And for those who think both are possible, think again. Been there, done that, and know from experience it just doesn't work.

Answer 1

Stable relationship.

Answer 2

Hmmm! I know that both are possible. Perhaps you are in the wrong relationship. Having a stable companion is wonderful and having a fulfilling sex life is fabulous! If you are an independent woman who is outspoken, maybe you could take the time to teach your "stable companion" that there is a lot more to life than he is offering. You can spice up your love life and teach him some new tricks if you are willing to try. Sex is great, but without the whole package, it really isn't all that and a bag of chips! I would want to put the extra effort in to get it all. If it isn't everything that you want and need, then I might think about making some changes. Only you can determine if you can accept just one of the two.

Answer 3

I'm an old lady now (well, older....50) and in my life I've had both. My first marriage was very sexual, and very satisfying in that regard. Every night and we were like bunnies on the weekends. BUT....the relationship sucked. We had nothing in common other than sex and grew apart after 10 years. My second marriage was sexual at first and then became NON-sexual after my husband had a stroke and 7 heart attacks...that was 8 years ago. We have so much in common though and are very compatible. The joy we find in each others company greatly outweighs the loss of sex. I would choose the stable relationship. Our life is NOT boring in the least! I am a professional woman and don't need to be married, but I am with my best friend and wouldn't trade him for anything.

Answer 4

Of coarse you have been there done that. Your too independent to think other wise. Unless being there and doing that has made you that independent. and there is nothing wrong with that.

Neither In the terms you have put them in : A boring yet stable relationship with out the spice of a sex life will make one or the other cheat. So it won't be stable it would be living a lie.

Great sex ? with time and patients anyone came perform well enough to be able to please their partner.

Both are possible with the right partner just seems you have given up in that search and think your only able to have one or the other.

So my answer is the one you didn't what too hear or believe in. Did you really think no one would have said "both"

Answer 5

Why the heck do you have to limit yourself to two choices. You need both to have a successful relationship. A good sex life doesn't mean an unstable guy. And, a stable guy doesn't mean bad sex life.

If you can't stand one partner then just stay single and spare the guy the trouble.

You say you've been there and done that. But, why do you assume that you know what every commited relationship is like. They aren't all the same. If you don't open you mind to the possiblity than I guess it won't happen. Stay single.

Answer 6

Neither. I could do without sex if my relationship was with someone whom I loved. I could not have a satisfying relationship if it were totally based on sex, nor could I stomach just going through the motions of a relationship with someone I had no real, passionate love for. A relationship is more than sex and a cursory friendship, which is why I would definitely remain with my husband if, God forbid...something happened and he couldn't perform, because sex is only a part of our relationship...and not the most important part. If my only choices were sex, or boring but stable...I'd rather live alone. I'm stable all by myself. Why would I want to add boring?

Answer 7

A stable relationship. There is no such thing as "bad sex" You just never took the time to tell the other guy how you like it

To make a relationship work 100% you need to be open, so if let's say the "stable relationship" guy doesn't satisfy you in bed, find out what the problem is, and talk to him about it.

Most guys want to pleasure the girl and have her feel good, so they are all open for improvements, just be sure not to hurt their ego, AT ALL!

Answer 8

I have learned with me that great sex comes from within, I have to feel the spiritual connection, so that mean my companion have to be stable, and know that he is there for me no matter what. Great sex,......you don't really need a partner for that. I just think that love and stable relationship is by far, more important than a wet butt.

Answer 9

Sex is great,when you are young.As you age it is not so important.the stable lifestyle kicks in. I have had both,and sex doesn't buy your a descent home,are pay all your bills.You may be independent now,But what if your health failed and you are middle aged?That hot sexy guy will probably be chasing some 20 yr old to prove his manhood.The boring stable companion will be at your side holding your hand and wanting to grow old with you.My granny used to say "kissing don't last,but friendship do" So, think about who you want to end up with.

Answer 10

She shouldn't breastfeed it. If she was going to get in-vitro, then she must have really wanted a family, so getting an abortion would go against something she really wanted to do. Nowadays, medicine is advancing in regards to HIV. The child has a good chance of being born healthy (though not 100%, it's still pretty good). The pregnancy wouldn't hurt her health too much, so I say she should have the baby and give it the best start possible. HIV doesn't make anyone a less capable parent, unless they can't afford the medication and their health starts to decline significantly.

Answer 11

I think I'd rather have a stable relationship. ~ That's not necessarily boring,it depends on how old you are and where you are in your life. Priorities have to be put in order,especially if you've survived a very long abusive relationship in the past,you learn to give up some things for others. BUT if you're lucky enough to end up with both,as I have,you've got it made!