I just found out that my ex from many years ago--probably the only person I every really loved--has moved back to my city.
We exchanged warm letters about 2 years ago. At the time he was engaged to be married. He told me that he might contact me when he returned to town (he was living in a distant city) but that did not happen. I'm afraid this might be because he found out that I (stupidly) drunk dialed one of his family members to get his contact info...or maybe his fiance didn't want him to talk to me, as we had been pretty serious at one time.
I found his phone number and email address online. I want to contact him but am terrified of doing so or of having him say he doesn't want to be in contact with me. It would hurt because to this day I still have feelings for him. If he's married, that's fine, but I just wonder if there's a chance that he isn't and don't know how else to find out.
Should I contact him? How?
2007-08-21 15:34:44 · 12 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't contact him. He's moved on with his life and you should move on with your life.
2007-08-21 15:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there ANY way you can find out if he is married? Girl, I say you try to find that out. And when you do, and if he is not married CALL HIM. If my first love and I were to exchange letters only a couple of years ago and I found out he wasnt married...well, lets just say there would be nothing holding me back. Even if the feelings arent extended, at least you know where you stand. Howver, if he is married you need to let him be. I dont think you would want to be known as "that kind of girl" best of luck
2007-08-21 15:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by beentheredonethat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any mutual friends, find out if he is married from them. Most times old flames should just be left alone. You can't go back in time and relive the past. That is part of the allure of this....kind of going back to when you were younger. See if you can find out from a mutual friend about him. If you can't find out anything, just call him. Ask him what is going on in his life? Ask if he ever got married? Then you can hear from his voice and answers how he feels about you.
2007-08-21 15:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you probably messed this one up. Calling him when you drank heavily was not a good idea and one that probably got him out of your life for good. He may be married and if not, he is not contacting you---I doubt if there's a chance with him. Let it go and learn from making a bad mistake with him.
2007-08-21 15:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a card welcoming him back to the city. Just make it a short and friendly hello and then let him take it from there. If he wants to contact you he will. Let him lead
( you NEED to find out if he is married first- somehow, someway)
2007-08-21 15:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by hawk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you have to loose. You aren't seeing him anyway. Maybe he would like to resume your friendship.You never know till you try. If he doesn't get over it and start looking as my mom used to say there's a lot of different fish in the sea. You didn't say how old you are. Could be puppy love .
2007-08-21 15:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by adairangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do some research before even thinking of contacting him. If he's married, then let it go. How did you learn he had moved back to your town?
2007-08-21 15:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you can stand being just friends if it turns out that he is married ?
2007-08-21 15:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think is this you need to get over him. i know you still want to be with him and that fine but you need to leave him alone. if he does not wanna talk to you then don't talk to him. but if you want to talk to him then call him and see what hes been up to
2007-08-21 15:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Travis T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Find someone else.
There is really someone out there for you and it's generally not your EX
2007-08-21 15:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by true_value5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋