Should parents preach to their kids about:?

Question

a) abstaing from sex until adulthood/marriage

2) contraception/safe sex

c) both A and B

I think it is important for parents to say why it would be best to wait until adulthood/marriage however, I feel that it is more important to teach kids about safe sex. I feel that if kids want to have sex, they're going to. If I had kids, I would not want them to have sex until they are adults, but if they feel they are ready any earlier, I would rather they protect themselves.

Why?

Good answers.

I just looked this up: 95% of Americans/Candians have/had premarital sex, but the teen birth rate has dropped 60% since the 1950s (a time where they only preached abstinence)

Answer 1

I think that parents should teach their children about sex, and the various forms of birth control and always having a condom on to prevent diseases, BUT I would encourage my kids to abstain from sex until they are making a lifetime commitment to one person. Alot of kids make the choice to have sex, that is why they should know how to protect themself. Better be safe than sorry. I have already talked to my 13 yr old about abstaining until he meets the one who he will be sharing his life with. He understands now, but I know how kids get when they are in the heat of the moment. I am hoping that all 3 of my kids listen to me about sex.

Answer 2

As a parent of one boy 17 and one girl 14, I have always made myself available to discuss sex openly. I speak about the danger and the pleasure of sexuality. I do not want my children hurt but at the same time I do not want the to be saddled with unfounded inhibitions as adults.

Sexual education of children seems to be a very controversial subject in the U.S. How sexuality is viewed varies greatly from culture to culture and time to time. it was not long ago in the US that children as young as 12 or 13 were involved in arranged marriages. Today this would seem absurd. The bodies and minds of children that age have not changed but social views have changed. I am a child of this age. The large population today means more predators, more dangerous people, but this is a social issue not a physiological one.

My mother was 16 and my farther was 17 when I was born, I meant my wife when I was 16 she was 13. We dated for almost 5 years and have been married for 18 years. She was not the first girl I dated either. If we had met today I would be looked at negatively for dating at that age, and would have missed out on a wonderful relationship she is the best thing in my life. I try to keep an open mind with my children. My son dates often, my daughter shows no interest in dating yet. I do not push the issue, my wife goats her about it Little. Over all I think we are happy and healthy.

Someone asked me the other day what I would do if I found out my daughter was haveing sex. This is a tough question.
I want her to be careful, I dont want her to get hurt physicaly or emotionaly, at the same time if I am to strict it would drive her from me and she would as kids do sneak around and do what she was going to do and not consult me or trust me. I would be suspicious of anyone she dates, as someone interisted only in sex, but I would not want to keep her from finding the same love I found with her mother.
To be honest I dont know what I would do at until it happens. but I would use the opnions above to make my decisions.

I hope this helps

Answer 3

I think both need to be taught but safe sex and birth control needs to be stressed a lot more. You can lecture your kid until you're blue in the face about waiting until marriage but the bottom line is, if they want to have sex, they're going to.
It's like D.A.R.E. It's a great program don't get me wrong, but I feel that if as a young kid, you've decided you're going to drink and do drugs, a policeman telling you not to do so a whole bunch of times isn't going to change your mind. Kids know what they're doing and what they're risking. Whether it be getting arresting, breaking the law to getting pregnant or getting an STD.
I have a very open relationship with my boys right now even though they are young and I'm going to keep it this way as they grow up. I hope and will encourage them to wait until they're adults to have sex or at least in love as well as methods of birth control and making choices. I'd rather my kid have sex and know about birth control, where to get it and use it, than have sex, no nothing about birth control and not protect himself and his partner. I'd rather he come to me and talk if he feels he's ready or if something happens than try and and figure out what to do and sneak around behind my back. If anything, that'll cause more problems.
Best wishes =]

Answer 4

I would say answer C.

In my household sex was a forbidden subject, which in this day and age is dangerous because there are so many other was for kids to get info about anything they want. Myself, and all my siblings had sex before adulthood, and I believe it was because my parents wouldn't talk to us about it.

Don't force the topic, but don't treat sex as a forbidden subject either. If your kids are prepared with a plan of what to do when sex is offered, they will be more likely to say no and hold off on their first time. It's when they don't know what to do, and are just a little curious, that they get into a situation they can't handle.

Answer 5

I agree that abstinence is important and that we should encourage teens to not have sex, but at the same time, we want them to be smart if they do decide that they want to have sex. It is better to find out that your teenager bought condoms or is on the pill and doesn't need it or is at least prepared, than to deal with your sobbing child because they are pregnant or have contracted a disease.

I know way too many people whose parents left it up to the church or the school to take a stand regarding premarital sex, and those people ended up pregnant & clueless in high school.

I think you are being a responsible & realistic parent by discussing sex openly with your children.

Answer 6

I think you are absolutely right. While it is important to instill good values in children and teach them about abstinence, it is just as important or even more important to preach to them about safe sex. The thing is, most kids wind up having sex before marriage. If they are going to do it, then they should know about the proper way to go about it.

Answer 7

They need to teach them how to protect themselves, but make it clear the best choice is to wait.

My son knows that if he gets a girl pregnant, he will go to school full time, and work all weekend, and give every penny to his baby................ He knows I will be on him like white on rice seeing that he is doing the right thing.

Parents need to be more involved, by knowing where the child is at all times and what they are doing. Kids at this age do not have the maturity to run wild, you have to keep them on tight reigns. Dont let them formally date.......... if they have a little girlfriend make sure you and the other parents are always there.............. and make sure they have the same values as you do when it comes to this.


My sons health teacher (called me) she gave them things they had to tell their parents and it was drew from a hat......... he drew--------he got his g/f pregnant...... ------she said he said " can I get another one"? She asked why...... he said because this wont happen because Im waiting until I get married because my mom would kick my butt.......... he said she would be her best friend, but make my life really hard........ lol

I was like wow he does listen lol

( if you avoid the topic, you WILL be a grandparent, and you will be to blame)

They both know they can talk to me about anything..... and they do..... but they also know my beliefs........ My son would just die to have to come to me telling me he thought he has an STD.....Im a nurse, and have TOLD him how they test males for that................. He doesnt want to have to go through that, And I told him thatIf i know he is sexually active he will be tested every 3 months !!!

Answer 8

I believe that b is the best because its the child's choice if they want to wait until they're married. So that's why you should always tell about safe sex in case they choose a different option then you hope... ; )

Answer 9

You should teach not preach. Preaching is telling people what they should think and do. It's cramming a certain viewpoint down their throats under threat of some great evil if they disagree.

Teaching provides people with information to make up their own mind. If you present information in a logical and factual way your kids may just agree with your stated position.

Answer 10

C. My kids know my opinion on premarital sex and I know that is not necessarily going to stop them. So I also give them knowledge about safe sex.