My boyfriend and I dated since we were 22. We are now 27 (not married). I'm pregnant. We know that we both love each other very much. How do I tell him? I'm really scared that he might run off from me now that I am pregnant. How did you do tell your husband/boyfriend?
2007-08-21 15:13:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he really loves you as much and you love him, don't be scared. In fact, he should be happy and want to raise the child as a family.
Sit down with him and tell him the truth. Let him know that you care about what he feels and you'll make a decision together. If he has loved you for the past 5 years he should not turn from you because you are pregnant.
2007-08-21 15:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Orchideye 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sense that you don't really trust your relationship with your boyfriend if you fear he'll leave you now that you're pregnant. The fact that you've been together for 5 years and he still hasn't committed to you may give you good reason to feel that way. Either way, you'll have to sit him down and tell him, "we're pregnant". Then ask him how he feels about it. You aren't in this preganancy by yourself. He played a part in it. If he leaves you, you're better off without him and better off knowing now that he'll never commit to you so you don't waste more of your life on him. Who knows, maybe he'll decide it's time for him to grow up and be a dad and even a husband. Good luck to you and your baby. I hope he measures up.
2007-08-21 16:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, and say to yourself that it will work out. My girl, who I'd dated 4 months, came to me and said "I'm pregnant" to which I responded, "You're kidding, right?" "No", she said, "I'm pregnant."
Three more times I asked if she was pulling my leg and each time she said that she wasn't. Now, 10 years later we're married and our boy will start 5th grade.
It is scary. You're full of doubt about your partner's reaction and having a child will change your life forever (mostly for the better) and all sorts of things are running through your brain. But I believe you're boyfriend will be there for you. Just remember to give him some time to let it soak in. You've had a few weeks head start to worry and fret. He'll get blindsided and might need some time to sit on the floor to collect his thoughts. Give it to him. In the end I'm sure that he'll be there for you. Good luck, and congratulations.
2007-08-21 15:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by pensacola_sand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For five yrs, you haven't talk about it (marriage) even not being pregnant? If he didn't open up topic for that for past five yrs now that you are pregnant, I think it's time for you to open up. Tell him he is soon to be a father and I think there's no problem since you both love each other very much. Good luck!
2007-08-21 15:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by dalton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think after all this time that he would leave you just because your pregnant? If so there may be bigger trust issues to deal with.
You may want to mention some show you saw about a guy who left his girlfriend just because she was pregnant "isn't that just horrible, what a jerk, don't you think?" and see what he says.
If he leaves you, then you are better off without him!
Good luck!
2007-08-21 15:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him straight out, and also that the two of you are getting married SOON - well before the baby comes. If he is a man of any character at all, he will do so, happily.
2007-08-22 03:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about just stop hiding it from him and tell him the truth then when you tell him you will know that he did not run because you hide it from him but might be because he is scared.On the other hand he might really want a child with you but thee is just one way to find out by telling him.
2007-08-21 15:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty Kat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both have been together for quite awhile so you should be able to talk about anything and everything. you have to tell him and if he really does love you he will not run off. you guys will have to talk and work things out.
2007-08-21 15:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were together for 5 years, I don't think hes going anywhere and if he does then hes a P****
2007-08-21 15:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Utena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spit it out asap
if he bolts get a lawyer and arrange support and other issues
2007-08-21 15:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋