I am a senior...and have never had a bf before. I doubt that I will get one this year. I do have a crush on some guys but I am way too shy to ask anyone out. Just because I don't date in high school does that mean that I will NEVER get a date and does that mean that people are going to start thinking I am a lesbo when I am totally straight?? Do you kno anyone that didn't date in high school but got a relationship after high school?
2007-08-21 15:07:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't date in high school. Like you, I was too shy to ask anyone out, plus I had other things I was going through, which made me a bit anti-social during my last two or three years of high school. I've been out of school for six years now and have been on several dates and have had a couple long-term relationships. Not dating in school does NOT mean you'll NEVER get a date!! Just relax and do what you have to do with school. Maybe try overcoming some of that shyness and ask one of your crushes out (or get a friend to do it for you). Just don't worry so much! You have your whole life ahead of you. Even if you don't date while in school, you still have plenty of time left in your life after school to date lots of guys.
2007-08-21 15:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't date in highschool doesn't mean you'll never get a date if your positive and go for what you want you'll have a bettere chance and for the guy or guys your crushing on jus hang around them and let them get to know you better and see how things go from there and no people will not think your a lesbo because theres no actual proof on that
2007-08-21 22:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't have a boyfriend this year doesn't mean that the next year is set in stone. Maybe you will meet someone on your way home or a new student will enter one of your classes. also boys in high school tend to be immature and so don't feel bad if your the only girl you know without a boyfriend. Just spend all of the energy you wouold use on a boyfriend toward your studies and i'm sure that the perfect guy will gravitate toward you.
2007-08-21 22:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. me. i didn't date when i was in high school, until my senior year. i had a boyfriend from another school, but we were on totally different planes in life. i dated another guy in college, out of loneliness really, and then didn't date again for three years. i was really focused on graduating, and haven't regretted it since. i did however wonder if something was wrong with me because i didn't date. i didn't get asked out, i didn't ask anyone out, nothing. i met my ex-husband after college and we got married in a whirlwind (more desperation, i think). divorce sucks, so don't get in relationships just to prove yourself.
after my divorce, i grew into who i am as a person and got more comfortable around people and on my own. i started dating more, casual and exclusive, and had my heart broken a few times. each time, i learned something very valuable about myself. i met my current boyfriend 18 months ago and started dating him based on how well we complimented each other as people. i only got to that point by knowing who i am, what i want out of a relationship, and what i don't want. i learned my worth doesn't come from relationships or what other people think. on top of that, many of the popular girls who dated a lot in high school are miserable in dead end marriages right now. not so for those of us who mucked through the trenches and learned as we went.
besides, who cares if your a lesbian? lesbians need love too!
2007-08-21 22:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Julie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend Tori, dated one guy "socially" during our senior year for a few months. Ten years later, Tori still has not had any serious prospects...but guess what...She just graduated with her PHD in Psychology from Stanford University. She's a very attractive woman, who now makes enough money to support her and ANY man she chooses!! Don't stress what people think about you in High School, no one will care ten years from now...trust me, I just had my ten year reunion and I can honestly say that no one turned out the way we thought they would!! Good luck to you!!! Focus on what truly is important!! Your education!!
2007-08-21 22:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went on my first date when I was 20. I am not kidding.. Two and a half years later, I married the guy i went on my first date with. It doesn't work for everyone but in my case, it did. I had fewer broken heartaches ( broken crushes do hurt, but I hear break-ups are worse). Best of luck. You will be fine.
2007-08-21 22:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by happymommy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't mean that you never will. Not like it matters. 84% of all high school relationships fail in under three months. They are meaningless relationships. And what's wrong with being a lesbian? One of my best friends is a lesbian(I really wish she wasn't... She's very good looking.).
2007-08-21 22:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people that didn't date in highschool. They turned into more succesfull popel later in life. Granted, that may not be due to not dating.
But honestly don't sweat it. Just get over your shyness. Push yourself to come out a bit. Just use your head and explore life!
2007-08-21 22:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hikerjoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know TONS of people who never dated in high school and then did later. it's pretty common. the majority of people probably dated in high school, but a lot of people don't. it's not that weird at all.
2007-08-21 22:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by a c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, plenty of girls and guys don't date in high school. Many are busy with activities and studies they don't have time.
In college, you'll find better ways to balance it all and find many varieties of men.
You're normal and don't let anyone tell you differently.
2007-08-21 22:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋