Me and my girl have been together for 5 mouths......and now she want us to get are own place........?

Question

Well she 18 and she got two jobs.......And i am 20 and i got one job and a car pay for.......plz help me what should i say i love her......

Answer 1

RED FLAG. Don't do it, dude. BIG MISTAKE.

Answer 2

Wow, just five month's is kinda rushing it. But I'm not one to talk I did the same lol. I don't know...I guess it's how you feel about the person. I've been with the guy I'm dating for 2 years and we both love it. Take a chance if you think you're ready. Just be sure to put everything in your name that way if things don't work out. You wont be the one on the streets. This step is also a big responcibilty so choose wisely. But if YOU don't think you're ready...wait it out until things get a little more serious and take it from there.

Answer 3

It is way too soon, you're still in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. You probably don't know all of each others bad habits yet. If you move in together all those bad habits are going to be on display. You will get on each others nerves and probably ruin the relationship.

Go on a trip together first that way you get to see how you'd cope without making a huge commitment. Take your time and have fun. Most relationships that are rushed end up failing.

Answer 4

And how do YOU feel about this? am I detecting a slight 'shock and horror' response?! Thats okay to feel its too soon for you: BUT BE HONEST! and ask her WHY she feels that you need to be living together 'right now' when you are really only just starting to get to know one another. Ask her if you can set milestones together (EG/ when you have been together for 9 months, you could start to think about looking for a place of your own?) and then stick to them.
Other option is this - how do you feel about this lady? Do you feel enough for/about her to take the plunge? If you do think its worth the risk, then remember you are still only just starting to know one another and if you have conflict moments (who doesnt?!) then DONT KNEEJERK and say it was a huge mistake and that you moved in together way too soon! That'll set the rot in faster than you know it.
The guidelines to cover Battle moments...
1) DONT just go walking out - tell your other half that you need to go for a jog or a walk for thirty mins or so. Agree that you will re-address the issue when you have both cooled down somewhat.
2) DONT go to a bar and drink. DO what you have said you will be doing - EG/ go for a walk to cool down.
3) DONT go telling friends and family how BAD your realtionship is with your girlfriend. Theres every chance you guys will resolve the issue/s very quickly and your friends/family will be left with a bad taste in their mouths and view her with a jaundiced eye!
4) Treat each other reasonably and normally and start to address the issues, one at a time. DONT get friends/family to act as mediators - if you have to sit with a 3rd party, it should be someone impartial!
5) LISTEN to her and ask her that she LISTENS to you.
6) DONT get drawn into the active combat zone - no insults, no accusations of her having 'ruined your life' etc, though it is okay to say things like 'Do you realise how I start to feel when (whatever it is that hurts you)?' If you get a response like "I dont care how you feel" then just suggest that you both leave it be til the fire has died down a bit more.
7) DONT brush the issues under the rug, but DO start to act 'normal' asap!
AS you get to know one anothers tolerances, moods and foibles, the ripples should flatten out and you will have handled them in a very mature andconstructive way that can ONLY help you both get to know one another better!

good luck!

Answer 5

first of all u need 2 learn how 2 spell cuz u spelled months rong what u put was mouths . so first len how 2 spell and then get ur own place. oh yea i no why she wants u 2 get ur own place because u cant spell ha ha.

Answer 6

first of all how old are you ,. how you going to support a wife ,. living together is another game my friend ,. there are little things ,. that change once people are sharing the same roof,. and those little things are going to bother you , but good luck ,. everybody deserves a chance

Answer 7

1 can you afford it 2 are you serious about her 3 do you want to ..these are just a few things to think about ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,write a list one side put the positive things.. on the other side put the negative compare them and see what it says .. hope this helps

Answer 8

Yes? And the question is?

Should you do it or not? We don't have enough details. How old are you? Any reason why you think it's a bad idea?

Answer 9

5 month is to soon, you's really don't know each other and when you rush things it didn't work, you don't want to gave everything up befor marriage any way.

Answer 10

And your question is .....?

If you are asking if this is a good idea, then it isn't a good idea. This is something two people should agree on, it shouldn't be all one person's idea.

Answer 11

5 months? thats too little .. but if u guys love eachother .. then sure .. r u sure u love her nd r ready to move in lol