my exs boyfriend.help please i still care for him and his kid even throw i only talked to his kid on the phone

Question

what dose it mean when your ex"s calls you and talks to you he said he got what i send him but i did that a while back it was a note to say sorry about my family they told him to stay away from me because they said he was trying to use me and was leading me on he told them i was grown and could talk to him if i wanted to they told him i had to do what they say i am 30years old was 29 when this happened what do you think that means he called me tonight and he said i could call when ever i wanted to and i told him same thing even throw my mom heats him just because he lied to me but i forgave him for that my mom liked him at frist until he lied to me help please dose it mean anything do you think he may want me back i sure would take him back thanks tell me the truth now please.i have tryed to get over him but i miss him alot we had alot in commed and i was happy with him could not wait for him to come around he wanted me to go to his house my mom said no because i did not know him well

but we had been talking to each other right befor thanksgiven and we stared dateing the day after new years day so we have know one another for a while sorry so long as i said long story anyways help please think you nothing mean throw please but tell the truth what dose it mean when he calls you and what would you do if you were me and you were told you cant talk to him and your 30 years old.

he said he lied to me because my family would not let me come to his house and i was old enough to if i wanted to and i wanted to after that lie we were talking about getting back together he said he wanted to take it slow he said he may come up but never did but always called and talked to me until he was told not to but he called tonight. i know it is long and i am sorry but please read and help thanks.

please help i know it is long but please someone help please think you.

please help i know it is long but please someone help please think you. it would mean alot to me please.

because we like the same stuff and i liked him and his kid alot. i miss him so much i have tryed to move on but cant. see i was talking to another guy but the exs calls one night and he called and would hang up everytime i truned my cell off but he left me voices mail the other guy did not want to be with me said if my exs did not like or care about me he would not be calling me at all and he has told me that himself befor. he just called me out of the blue the other night. my mom said if he was comeing around like he use to she be ok with him but he only calls and we talk on the phone he says he may come but never dose but can call all the time or he use to the other night was first time in a long while we had talked. i cant help how i feel i miss him.

Answer 1

it seems to me that your family are very controlling of your life. i think that is an issue you need to deal with first before you can entertain letting anyone else into your life. be careful with men that lie they probably do it more than you find out about and wont feel bad about doing it

Answer 2

Okay. First thing, I thought this question was a little hard to follow. You might try some punctuation--periods and commas and things--next time. Not trying to be a meany, just some friendly advice so you can get the advice you're after next time.

Here's what I know: this guy has a child by another woman, and this guy has a history of lying to you. He's a bit of a fixer upper, isn't he? Also, your family doesn't like him. These are all big red flags. I'm not saying these aren't "problems" that can't be overcome. But they ought to give you something to think about.

Why do you want this guy so badly? Is it because he needs some "work?" Or is it because your family doesn't like him? Or because you just think he's "the one?"

I don't know what it means that he calls you up. If it's been a while since you sent your note, I'd call it a little too little too late. If I were you, I'd not worry about his secret meanings and work on moving on. It seems like he had most of the control in your relationship when you were together--and that he's still controlling you after it's over.

It's time to move on. I promise. There are better guys out there than this one.

Answer 3

When one door closes, another one opens.

Slam this door as hard as you can and double bolt it.

At 30 years old, you don't need to be playing around with someone who doesn't know what they want. It's time you made up your mind as well and headed down the road of life to find what will make you happy. Find someone without a lot of extra baggage and move in with them. If that doesn't work out, just travel down the road to the next guy. If you pick the right guy, it should all work out dandy.

Answer 4

Don't call him or see him... stay away. The guy sounds like bad news... go with your mom's instinct, she's probably right... He sounds just like my ex... trust me girl, you want to stay FAR away from these type of guys!