I love someone so much, but they claim they dont love me. But its obvious they do because of how they talk and how they say they love me. They believe they are fooling themselves. They have a crush on someone else, but i want to be with them. Im lost confused and feel so very alone. What do i do? I believe you can only love once, and i cant move on. Im lost. Please Help!
2007-08-21 14:17:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love someone so much, but they claim they dont love me. But its obvious they do because of how they talk and how they say they love me. They believe they are fooling themselves. They have a crush on someone else, but i want to be with them. Im lost confused and feel so very alone. What do i do? I believe you can only love once, and i cant move on. Im lost. Please Help! I love them, i have since i saw them. They tell me they love me but they like someone else after hanging out with him for two days.... i know she loves me but yeah i treated her bad but im doing everything to get back to who she loves. i love her, i dont like her. I know its love. Its true love. Its complicating too
2007-08-21 14:29:17 · update #1
All the "crushing" in the world won't make the other person love you. If they said they don't love you, please try to accept that and move on. There are plenty of caring individuals that you have yet to meet in your future. And you can love more than once. Don't confuse "crush" with "love". They are very different things indeed.
2007-08-21 14:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times what we think love is is not that at all. It's a comfort of being around someone and knowing that they are always there. If you know you truly care about this person, but it is clear that they do not by what they have said and stood by to continue waiting and pushing them to be with you only makes things worse for you, them and any relationship you still maintain with them.
It hurts when you want someone and they don't want you back, but you have to remember that life happens. People make choices and those choices may not include you. I am sorry that they don't feel the same, but continuing something that isn't happening is hurting you. Its best to take a step back and look at all that has been involved or happened rather than trying it over and over again.
Look at what you have, not what you would have if that person is with you. Why do you want them so much and what is fueling this feeling to continue? Is it for the right reasons or for selfish reasons? Reflection and understanding of the situation is the best thing to do instead of digging for something you may not find with them.
2007-08-21 21:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if he says doesn't love you, it's pretty simple. He doesn't. You believe that they do and that they are fooling themselves because that is what you want to believe. I guess you'll suffer forever if you don't decide you can love again - you can. Time to move on and quit waiting for someone who wants somebody else.
2007-08-21 22:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it must be really difficult to understand everything. but believe me. i know EXACTLY what you are going throu. pretty much what i am going throu now. i swear up and down that i love this boy. always have always will. but im giving up on hoping that he will love me the way he did before. i dont expect him to. cause he way better than anyone including me and is such a great person. but seeing him everyday after our breakup just gets confusing. i want to believe that he still loves and cares for me like he did. and his hugs where ment the way they did before. but its not the same. loving someone is so difficult and is full of pain. but if the person says they dont love you like that. then they probably dont.
but think of this.. wouldnt you rather have that person be happy then anything in the world.?
2007-08-21 21:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by pj. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest love is blind and it's not just a word. Love comes in many forms and it comes with pain
2007-08-21 21:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're ruining yourself with this. There's no such thing as "only love once," and that is your problem. Get over it, and move on.
2007-08-21 21:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they may love you as a friend and as a person. but as a lover NO. if they did they would be with you wouldnt they?
the only person lying to themselves is you
2007-08-21 21:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by intestinal mucous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋