No offense to any man! Im a caretaker n I noticed older men(70+) Are extremely hormonal and/or perverted,ex when I take care of a man he trys to be touchy or speak sexually (n yes they r ok in the mind!) I understand men love sex (we all do) but I mean they can be sickning. I took care of a man when youd lift him hed grab ur chest....he knew better too. I understand to a point if theyre not ok but men w/like alzheimers can be VERY hormonal. Is the testosterone still at a high level? Id think once you age the levels would fall like womens hormones do??? I had a client whose son was 69 n wanted to date me n have sex w/me im 22!!! I take care of a lady her friend Frank (just a friend nothing else) Franks wants to marry her n get n bed w/her??? Hes fine has a lil temper if u say something wrong hes fine mentally. I just want to know whats going on until recently I never noticed so many older men who are so sexual. No offense to any gentlemen out there im just asking so I can help others.
2007-08-21 13:39:47 · 7 answers · asked by Em_Lou02 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Thank you for everything!! Yes Frank has dementia, so that could be a reason. Other men Ive cared for havent had anything(ive read their records.)Oh Well we all age n need help. Tjhank you!
2007-08-23 16:07:35 · update #1
honey, they are old, they are not dead. A man's sexuality doesn't always decline with age. I think that the inappropriate behavior that has been exhibited towards you needs to be treated the same, regardless of age. Most especially if they are not demented. If a man I was caring for did that to me, I'd call the police and charge him with assault. Just being old doesn't excuse such behavior. When I go into a care setting, I make it very clear to the client that I will not tolerate abusive behavior, and I will press charges if they touch me inappropriately or abuse me verbally. Most of them have been little lambs after that, one or two have not, and they did indeed get charged finger printed and ended up paying a hefty fine with home monitoring there after.
Stand up for your rights, age is no excuse for illegal behaviors.
2007-08-21 13:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a C.N.A. and I have taken care of all sorts of people it's not just the men who tend to be more outspoken or do things you wouldn't normally expect. Oddly enough when people get older or have certain conditions such as alzheimers or dementia they have less inhibitions about what they say or do. They usually don't mean to be this way they just act more quickly on how they feel than most people do. after all they are getting up in years and may even figure they might as well enjoy what few pleasures they can think of before it's too late. I usually ignore it or if they are too offensive I patiently explain that their behavior is unacceptable to me and usually unless they are too lost in their own little world it gets them to calm down and realize that I won't be treated with anything less than respect . Be gentle when you do this as they were once as healthy as you or I and that they are ususally harmless good luck
2007-08-21 20:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by seminoleswty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are just trying to relive their glory days. They know they aren't "sexy" anymore, so they are trying to recapture a little of the sexy they used to have. Plus the site below said this:
Sexual expression means many things
One of the most significant losses with advancing age is the loss of intimacy. Many seniors have no opportunity for physical contact, affectionate dialogue, snuggling, or shared secrets. The actual act of intercourse is only one possible form of sexual expression. The continuing development of your sexual identity and the evolution of your own form of sexual expression with advancing years represents, in many ways, the most basic expression of your self.
You can read more if you like. The link is below.
2007-08-21 20:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of them just miss it and couldn't do anything anyway. They are just wishing, When you are taking care of one like this just put your foot down and demand that he not do that again, you say the mind is still good. Maybe you could smack his hand like a child. This is not a new thing, it has been going on forever. Talk with another experienced caretaker and get their advice and opinion.
2007-08-21 20:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could be dementia, I work in a nursing home and most of the old men did this and had dementia. They don't always relize what they are doing is wrong.
2007-08-21 21:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably hanging on to the last known stability they have. Flirting that way gives them prowess, makes them feel whole. Their minds are still eighteen and they have no idea how physically old they appear to you.
2007-08-21 20:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by peterngoodwin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they know they can get away with it.
2007-08-21 20:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋