do u think u should be aloud to hit ur kid(s) on there butt 4 punishment??

Question

i think if they do somen really bad like started the car (kids under 7) when you wasnt around or somthing like that!! idk what do you think ? do u think that is abuse or justs teaching your kids right from wrong (sorry if afended anyone in any way)

Answer 1

I have spanked each of my daughters... over my lap, panties down, using my hand.

Spanking is a parenting tool to be used as needed; among other tools. It is neither a 1st resort nor a last resort.

Answer 2

I wouldn't spank a 7 year old for starting a car...I'd look seriously at myself and how I allowed the situation to get like that. Keys left in the ignition? Car unlocked, keys available?

That said I think some people here have valid objections but I don't think the assessment that 'hitting kids teaches kids to hit' is correct at all - -it's a far too over generalised blanket statement that doesn't address the emotional/psychological reasons as to why some people "abuse" other people.

Some people here are blurring the lines between discipline (spanking) administered with GOOD intentions and the wanton abuse of children for no good intention or outcome.

Gizzard said that we are raising kids in an adult world and compared spanking to a child for doing wrong to an adult turning up late to work and not being spanked by their boss. I see NO comparison whatsoever because the premise is wrong. When we educate kids we do it on THEIR level, we meet kids in THEIR world, we create child friendly environments (THEIR world -- a world THEY can relate to), we use child appropriate language, age appropriate activites, and age appropriate discipline. Essentially we use tools children understand in teaching them what they need to know (ie teaching them boundaries).

If we look at 'reality discipline' we see the same thing. Pain is used in nature all the time to demonstrate a very clear boundary and some parents imperfectly try to apply the same principle in teaching good lessons to their children about boundaries. Take the example of hands on a hotplate. You can 'SAY' to a 4 year old "don't touch the hot plate", you can DEMONSTRATE to a 4 year old why not to touch the hotplate but if the 4 year old still doesn't obey and touches the hot plate their hand will burn. The physical pain they experience is enough to make them think twice about touching a hot plate. No further discipline is necessary because the pain has taught the lesson.

Don't look both ways before crossing the road and you get hit by a car. It's going to hurt and you're not going to want to experience that again. The lesson? Look both ways before crossing. Lesson learned.

The point is, sometimes a physical pain has it's place - never over the long term - and always with an intention of bringing about greater good, never administered in anger and always followed up with love.
Some parents will never need to spank their kids and I think that is great. But for other parents they will. I don't think this is wrong.

Answer 3

i think of that fogeys lack in thier positions of authority right this moment. even though i do no longer beleive that spanking is often the respond. I no longer announcing I thoroughly disagree with it the two. It incredibly relies upon on what the toddler has performed, the parent doing the spanking and how regularly it incredibly is comprehensive. some human beings have an somewhat violet habit and in the event that they're offended whilst they spank thier toddler it could desire to alter into much less a spanking and extra abuse then something. it incredibly is as much as the parent (needless to say in the event that they're mature adequate to do it without abusing the toddler) wheather they choose for to spank or no longer. I do beleive which you will get your element accross without being violent nevertheless. there are procedures to punnish or communicate or bypass approximately issues without laying a hand on a toddler. The relatives that lived next to me transforming into up had 7 toddlers. in no way have been any of those toddlers spanked. no longer a hand ever laid on them. no longer certainly one of them smoked, did drugs, drank, cursed. They have been most of the main well mannered and correctly moanored little ones you're able to desire to ever meet. it is all in the form you strengthen you strengthen you toddler, how open you're with them, know. i've got faith it will be the mothers and fathers decision as long as they could gain this without abusing the authority. i do no longer beleive that faculties could desire to. If a instructor or college team ever laid a hand on my toddler there merely isn't words for what i could do.

Answer 4

I think in your misspelled ramblings that you mean if it is ok for others to spank your child. Someone that watches your child needs to follow whatever punishment you use or the child will become confused. It is not right for someone else to spank your child, unless they are doing something that could cost them their life, and then a quick swat on the butt, not a hard spanking is ok.

Answer 5

i think its OK when i was little i was really naughty , i liked to play in the street and Drew on walls so my mother used to hit me really badly and allot and i hated it but now that I'm 15 i realize that she was hitting me because she cared and didn't want me to get hurt , but i wished that she only spank me.

Answer 6

Well actually, hitting your children does not teach them right from wrong. It teaches them that hitting is a solution to problems. If your child does something experimental, but dangerous, they need to be taught what the consequences of their actions could have been, and explained that they could have definitely hurt themselves or someone else. They should have privileges revoked, such as toys or games or play time.

Think of it this way:

We want to raise children to become mature, responsible adults, right?

We want to teach them how to survive out there in the "real world", right?

Well, if you show up to work late one day, does your boss come up to you and hit you?

Or if you fail a college course, does your teacher come up and hit you?

No, in the real adult world, we lose privleges and face consequences when we screw up, like a write-up or suspension at work, or we fail a college course and have to re-take it before we graduate.

Common sense, now. Hitting kids is for lazy parents who don't want to take the time out to actually TEACH their children. They just hurt them, and figure they won't do it again because of fear of physical harm.

That may be right, the child may not perform the naughty action again, for fear of being hit, but they won't know "right from wrong".

Answer 7

My children have been entrusted to me by God, and I will raise them to the best of my ability because I take the responsibility seriously. There are many ways discipline and there is no one way that works for all kids. Yes, I believe that spanking should be a discipline option. Personally, I use it as a last resort and for things that are of a serious nature (according to my judgement), such as repeated issues with lying, attitude, bad language, blatant disrespect. I hear of some parents who spank for a bad mark on a test, and I think that's rediculous!

Answer 8

hitting your kid teaches them to hit when they are upset so if that is the lesson you want to teach then go right ahead and hit. If my 7 year old started the car when i wasn't around i would have to slap myself for leaving a car unlocked and keys where the 7 year old could find them and for leaving him unsupervised so he could do such a thing. That would be a parents mistake not the kids. I would talk to the 7 year old and explain why what they did was wrong and let them know that because of it they lost a privelage but i wouldn't hit them for my mistake.

Answer 9

I don't think spanking is something that should be legislated. People parent different ways. A beating is an entirely different thing.

Answer 10

I don't think that pain is a good way to teach a younger child. Man, my mamma was a nut!! I remember once she got this thin wooden dowl and whiped my with it like six or eight times. I was like 5 years old. That ain't right. I should of told someone or the school officer. Gotten her in trouble for what she did, it what she deserved. She hit me 'cause i told the soccer instructer that I didn't like soccer. You don't do that to a five year old unless your messed up in the head.